Thanks for quoting me, and I really want to emphasize that you should never pay anything just to meet someone for coffee and conversation.  It totally screws up  your bargaining position and gives them the idea they can simply get paid, over and over, by men who buy them meals.

We've talked about the curious "sugar baby logic" here many times.  They generally refuse to admit they are sex workers even though we know that they are.  My advice, quoted above by JL, works off of their own logic.  We are trying to both find out if we are truly compatible, have chemistry, feel the same vibe, whatever you want to call it.  So we should both want to meet for this purpose.  Hookers don't do that, SB's are not hookers, therefore SBs should be very content to meet without any financial incentive. Logical, right?

The only exception I'll make to this rule is the rare occasion when a SB drives a considerable distance on her own dime to meet me for coffee.  Not a common occurrence, but it does happen.  Then I'm prepared to give her $20 for gas money plus pay for lunch, if that's all there is to the encounter.  Last weekend I had a sweet young thing drive 50 miles to meet me.  But as it turned out we went directly from coffee to BCD.  So I gifted her the $200 we had agreed on, plus another $20 for gas money.  

If you play in the Bowl long enough you will encounter every conceivable form of craziness, illogic, GPS, scams, and all manner of unrealistic expectations.  But remember, the SBs outnumber the SDs many times over.  We are the sought after commodity they are competing for.  So don't deviate from the terms you are comfortable with.  We set the rules.  Just keep searching till you find the SBs who want to play by them!