I've been involved in the fiancee visa process. It is complicated and takes a long time, but it's not impossible unless there is some obvious fraud or earlier history. Someone with a criminal record or previous visa issues might have trouble getting back in. Also May-December couples are looked at suspiciously, but nonetheless those still happen.
I hear you! I'm going BCD with 3 different women in 3 consecutive days this week (2 down, 1 to go tomorrow...), and have a newbie lined up for Sunday, plus 2 more next week BCD, and several coffee meets as well. This week I had to make a calendar to keep it all straight. And, uh, NO, I can't afford it, not like this, not all the time, but I have a special 2 weeks right now because I'm "home alone", so I intend to make the most of it.
And, yep, a steady stream of foreign inquiries: Mexico, Venezuela, Columbia and the Philippines, occasionally Russia and the UK. Some of those are good eye candy, but I almost never respond to them.
And, we are getting to the witching hour when "the rent is due", so I expect the inquiries to increase.
All this is happening in a "pussy desert", at least relatively speaking. I cannot imagine what it's like in a major urban area, like LA, Chicago, or even Denver. I'd probably die....but happily.
I started on SA just over a year ago, and the steady supply of new SBs is just amazing. My longest lasting SB arrangement is 10 months (and I had a wonderful time with her today!, the newest is this week. The rotation is 4, but there is a B list of at least 4 more who would be happy to meet within 24-48 hours from a text.
I just can't believe this...