Compare it with this discussion of civie/hobby relationships on the GD Board, going on currently.

I have had many experiences with providers.
The majority of those have been very good to me.

There are a few, where I wish that I could have
had forward looking vision of some sort, so that I could have avoided a few of the providers.

All in all, I am happy to have met and spent time with many different women, and shared in laughter, joy, great sex, and memories.

A thanks goes out to you, for posting, and showing appreciation toward guys such as me.

plus, if I were to decide to see you, it would be equally for your intelligence and your beauty.

I keep looking up providers that are hundreds or thousands of miles away from me??!!  

Dani, you are beautiful! You are not even really my "type" physically and yet your pictures are mesmorizing.

And what a lovely sentiment to post here. I wish you the best of everything and hope that your career will continue to be rewarding in every way. Thank you for the words!

That was awesome!  I too feel right in sync with you.  I feel lucky that I can succeed in this biz and that I have a skillset and other qualities that I had no control over....just the luck of the draw with my looks. So yes you I applaud you for your honesty and realness!

I am new to ter and just getting to know how to use the sight. I found this board and because of your post im glad I've started using this sight.  I have met some very passionate, intelligent and caring providers who I have become friends with on a provider hobbyist level and meet for coffee with a provider just to talk because we enjoy each others company and after reading your post I hope I'm considered one of those guys your talking about.  Thx for posting your thoughts!!!

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Thanks for the kind words about the hobbyists you've met. I feel similarly about the providers I've met; I would be a different person and a very, very unhappy man without those wonderful women. They're so kind and don't seem even to notice my obvious flaws which would become issues in any personal relationship.

I think personal relationships are just harder for people because we learn so much more about each other, and have to manage all that stuff. In our provider/client relationships we present the best parts of ourselves for one or a few hours from time to time for a particular purpose; we never have to reveal all the junk we all have inside us, and we don't even have to mention anything we might come to dislike about the other, because for our purposes it doesn't matter.

I just finished an interesting book about a Call-girl's five year relationship with her favorite client.

If you like to read about this side the hobby, then you might want to check out this book:

"ESCORT - The True Story of an Orange County Call Girl" [Sacha Haughtee, Author, 452 pages] this is available on AMAZON for only $4.95 at http://www.amazon.com/ebook/dp/B00BNPCIE2

I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

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As an old widower I have found several providers with a similar attitude as yours. I love them all. They have become my friends as well as providers. We share off the clock activities like having dinner or lunch, theater, visits to local interesting sites or just sitting in the park and talking. My life has been worth living since I have met women like you Dani.

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With your outlook and attitude, I am certain you be extremely successful as long as you choose to this as part of your lifestyle.

You truly are a rare commodity.

Like many, my first years of hobbying were focused on maximizing "variety". For many years since, I have been desperately trying to find and establish the type of LTR you describe. However it is difficult to find.

First you must find someone that you can potentially enjoy a genuine mutual friendship with. Then, the lady must trust you enough to know you will not try to take advantage of the friendship. Likewise she must be upfront and honest enough to reassure you that she will not take advantage either.

That combination is rare and difficult to find.

For example, I recently spent over 35k in less than a year with one lady who I thought became a true friend. Thoughtful gifts were exchanged with occasional calls (although off the clock activities as you described were never expected, asked or offered). There were numerous trips, concerts, diners and other "real" dates (all time happily compensated for). Now I have come to believe it was all a ruse as she as insulted and humiliated all her paying "clients" and revealed a pricing structure that was clearly designed to take advantage of her "best" friends - then lied about both.

I continue to be amazed by the ambivalent attitude most providers have toward the benefits of becoming a LTR focused escort/friend as opposed to the short term focus on daily or weekly income exhibited by the vast majority of providers. Being a true friend with someone you also have a business relationship with makes both much, much better in my view.

Congratulations on your very rare attitude and approach with your closest friends - many of us are vary envious of those special LTR's.

I wish I could give you a great big hug. You are a beautiful person.
I also find myself quite in your shoes.
I know this thread is a bit old now, but I hope things are looking up for you. You seem like a bright person who deserves good things.

I understand what you mean about the shittiness of non-hobby relationships- there's so much entanglement, especially is you are 100% honest. The hobby crowd is a lot easier to deal with, granted less expected (to a point, emotionally) yet, treated so much better... The irony does also not elude me; It was a thought I had myself the other night, but I didn't feel like posting on it. (Didn't know how to express it without surely setting myself up to be the daily-board-pinata.)
Funny, we're in the same boat, damned near same seat.
It has also crossed my mind, I wonder if there's another chick out there who knows or  is feeling like I am feeling?
I guess there is... So hey there!!  

I posted a couple weeks ago on my regional board about taking a day off & sent out my thankyou to the gents- because a year ago, I was definitely not as comfortable as I am now.  

I get really miffed when I see all the aloof & negative attitudes of some so-called-ladies; who easily bash their clients as one would swat a bug!

Do they not appreciate where their bread & butter comes from? I'm not saying one should tolerate abuse, but to become the abuser (yes, being a BITCH is abusive) towards the one who is scratching your back is horrid behavior. It invariably qualifies as "ugly behavior" from an "ugly individual" IMO, they are no longer a beauty no matter how unflawed their appearance may be.

I do not let the ugly-ones affect me. Like most of the real world's "labeling" (or "finger pointing") I don't let it phase me. I let it roll off me like water off a ducks back.
I take care of my home, my family, and can do EVEN more now, than I ever could, thanks to being a provider. I appreciate the great clients, and I also enjoy my BCD time too!

I'm so glad to have read this post and I so hope you are doing well, where ever you are, I am sending positive vibes your way!
I hadn't even peeked at your pics, but I think you are a beautiful person.

XOXO,
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But I'm in California.  oh well.  Great post!