Happens all the time right?  Girls you either never quit connected with or had one date with that was either bad or just ok.  Had quite a few lately, so we know times are tough huh?  Almost always, it's "Hey"

Had one girl I mentioned on here earlier this year text me "Hey".  Really authentic.  She's the one I met at her hotel in DTLA that got so blazing drunk I had to convince security not to kick her out.  After I brought her back to her hotel room she wanted sex.  I passed.  Never a good idea to nail a girl so drunk she can't control herself.  If she regrets it the next day she can always claim consent was not there.  Plus, I have a rule of not taking advantage of drunk women unless she's my long term partner and we established consent in advance.  And trust over a long period of time.

Had another, we met on SA two years ago for a M&G.  Due to life being super busy I was not able to continue with her.  Saw her again on SDM.  We met for an ok BCD.  She gained a lot of weight and was complaining that she should get a higher allowance, literally as she's blowing me.  So I did a hit and quit.  

Third was a girl who stood me up on the first date, because she was at a friend's birthday party that was running late.  This was after I had already driven an hour to meet her.

Yeah, hard pass on all of them.  The last one was the only super hot one.  And that's only from pics so I have no idea what real life is like.

She was not here usual horrible communication self. Finally got around to do you want to meet up. I asked her if she's softened up on her rules. She said no. I said sorry, I've got several other options I'd prefer. EOM

"Third was a girl who stood me up on the first date, because she was at a friend's birthday party that was running late.  This was after I had already driven an hour to meet her."

 
Over the years I've seen this happen to me several times. Either she lied about her actual location, or I thought she was an exceptionally good candidate, and I agreed to drive for an hour or more (the worst was 3 hours!) for a M&G with BCD built in if we both agreed at the M&G.  The worst was that 3-hour drive. I booked a room for overnight. She told me she was attending a cousin's wedding with her family but would step out to meet at local Starbucks. Assuming that went well, I would check into the room, and we planned to hook up after the wedding party ended. Well, "planned" is just another word for "hoped" unfortunately.  

 
I had been texting her throughout my 3-hour drive and she had been responding. I arrived at the Starbucks on time and let her know.  She then told me she needed to wait until she could leave without her father knowing ... I waited another hour, before telling her I was about to bail. She told me she would be there in 10 minutes.

 
Fifteen minutes later, she arrived - with a female she called her cousin.  WTF?  We chatted for about 20 minutes, and I asked her if she wanted to meet later, after the party. She said yes but would have to keep me updated on when she could leave the event. I checked into the hotel at 4 pm and waited. By 7 pm she had texted me 3 times to say she was trying to get away... by 10 pm she had stopped replying to my texts.  I gave up at 11 pm and told her I was heading home with the big stack of cash I had brought for her. No reply.  

 
Three days later, she texted me to apologize. She said she really wanted to meet and asked if we could meet halfway between our locations to make the drive easier to handle. I found a hotel that would work and confirmed the day and time. She agreed and I booked the room.  On the day of the meeting, I left work early to beat the heavy traffic and arrived on time at the hotel. Well... you guessed it....no show-no contact.  So that was 1.5 tanks of gas and rent for two hotel rooms in the trash.  

 
Never again. That was when I created my 30-minute drive rule. I will not drive more than 30 minutes for a M&G, even if BCD is included.   I will note that I have the luxury that Papa Sweet does not have - dozens of viable POT's within 20 miles of my home.  For Papa, he typically has no choice and must drive 1+ hours for most dates.  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

Damn Herb that sucks! It's amazing how crazy and changeable some of these girls can be. I've read on the Reddit forums about guys that do this to women, so I guess it works both ways but I just can't imagine leading anyone on like that it's just so inconsiderate. Live and learn!  

 
I too share your 30 minute rule, which works pretty well in a highly populated region such as LA. Papa Sweet must drive much further but he seems to have no shortage of opportunities.  

 
The things we do for love... uh lust. We soldier on...It's a tough job but someone has to do it!

My one hour drive has become so normal for me that I barely notice it anymore, it's just a fact of life.  And tbh, it's an easy cruise on an interstate highway, not an annoying inner city hour of stop and go traffic.  Still, it does add 2 hours to every date.  That said, I'm happy to report that the new SB I had my first BCD date with today actually lives in my home town!  Wow!  It's been over 6 years since I had a local SB!  So even though she's not model material, she's very sweet and dtf so I hope this develops into a nice ongoing arrangement.  Think of the money I'll save on gas, lol.

I agree, Sweetman. The home town girl may not be a beauty but physical beauty is overrated. I'd rather have a down to earth Girl Next Door type that is fun to be with, reliable, enthusiastic and loves sex than I would a hot model with a bad attitude, limited communication skills and lousy in the sack.  

Yeah, that's a rough one.  Sad part, all these girls say they want a consistent SD.   But are too lazy to put the effort into having one.

Yes, they often are too lazy to make an effort, Net. I've met so many that have a really shitty attitude and take a 'whatever' approach to it, especially the younger ones 18-24. I guess they are getting so many responses they feel they don't need to make an effort. [Or so many deadbeat salt daddies have wasted their time that they've pretty much given up on making any effort at all!]  

If I were a young girl I'd recognize the value of an older man who wants my companionship and values my beauty and would make every effort I could to please such a man.    

It's so short sighted.  

 
They don't seem to realize that one decent reliable SD could help them in so many ways including financial and emotional support and they don't even have to really invest all that much time into it! What am I missing here? Is it as Herb says, they see us as gross old men Godzillas seeking to crush their hearts and souls beneath our heaving fat loins?    

 
They'd rather work some thankless job in a McDonald's for minimum wage? I don't get the value system.  

I agree totally!  There's a stunning, blue eyed blonde, a true 10+, drop dead gorgeous, tgtbt girl in my area who pops up on seeking every so often.  I've never met her, but figured it's worth a shot.  After sending a cordial message to her recently her response was: "I’m down but I don’t do kissing or any oraļ".  And her ideal date is $700 ppm.  As if!  Otoh, my #1 SB is a solid 8.5, totally dtf and do every damn thing I ever want, is amazingly reliable and dependable, and seems to LOVE our sessions and the modest $300 I give her.  I wouldn't trade those two for all the tea in China!