The subject of exchanging IDs with a potential SB was mentioned in another thread recently and I think deserves a thread of its own. I can see why you might be reluctant to do so, but in my experience it's a very beneficial way to convert coffee dates to BCD. First of all, I should mention that I have absolutely nothing to hide. If a SB tried to use my true identity as a blackmail threat I'd laugh in her face.  I risk nothing by being outed.  YMMV.

When meeting a new SB for the first time I always tell her in advance that I want to exchange IDs.  She has the right to know I am who I say I am and not hiding behind a false identity.  And I need to see proof she's over 18. Generally they appreciate this a lot.

As an example, I had a conversation recently with my current #1 SB who is truly model stunning and probably the best in bed I've ever had.  We were talking frankly about what's going on in our two sugaring lives. She said she met a guy for lunch who told her he was married but his wife could not know about it. And he said he'd never reveal his real name.  My SB did not like this at all and said she's not going to see the guy again. Then she added how much she loves my honesty and remembered that I offered her my ID the first time we met.  It made her feel so much more confident, and led  directly to an arrangement that's fabulous.  We joke about how they should make a documentary about our arrangement showing how good it can be and dispelling much of the negative stigma out there about sugar relationships.  Anyway, my point is that exchanging IDs has been a very good thing for me and I recommend it.

I'm a frequent "lurker" on this board, as I admire all the fun you guys are having and drool over the possibility of playing in the Bowl.  But, I'm also happily married (Yes, REALLY!!!), want to stay that way and would NEVER reveal my true identity.  It is my opinion that removes SB activity from my prospects so I continue with P4P.  And, Life is GOOD!!!

In my experience, not many SB's request ID.  Actually, not really any that I recall.  I do find out some of their real ID's but not all, just because they aren't hiding it.   I've only requested ID proof for those who might be on the very young side (not interested in going to jail.)  And even then I said they could cover their name/address with their fingers.  I just wanted to see birthday and picture.
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I have given my real ID to some, but those were typically SB's who might come visit my home.  

I'm happily married also, but my wife approves of my mongering. That's why I said I would not mind being outed. But I understand most married guys need to hide their activities. I wonder though, if you are continuing with p4p, I assume you are hiding that from your wife, right?  So why would you be unable to hide a SB?

Well you're right about that. I can't recall a SB ever asking me for ID.  It's the offer of sharing IDs on my part which I feel has been most beneficial.  And I also tell them they are welcome  to cover their name and address, all I need to see is their photo and that over 18 birthdate.  Some chose to cover, but most don't.  

I envy your open relationship with your wife, Sweetman, but it's not that way for me.  So, why don't I try connecting with a SB?
1) I live in a small (7,000 population) town and am well known, having lived here 50+ years.  No way I could go to Starbucks etc. for a meet and greet, as that would circle back to my house in a hurry.  I travel an hour to a major metro area for my P4P.  
2) I'm lazy!!!     You guys WORK at keeping a rotation of SB in place.  Even though I'm retired, it's tough for me to rationalize committing that much time and effort to that project when P4P is SO easy.
So, I will continue to lurk here - and envy you guys.
Life is good!!!

I mostly walked away from SB's just because of the effort involved.  The primary benefit of SB is cost reduction on an hour by hour basis.  That can add up if you have frequent sessions.  I think married guys have a lot less opportunity for free time, so the cost difference doesn't add up as much.  

I must respectfully disagree! At least from my POV. For me, the primary benefit of Sugaring is the quality time spent before, during and after BCD time.  P4P will never be an analogy for dating.  It's get in, get off, and get out. Nothing wrong with that, but it's NOT THE SAME as dating a hot 20-something who (acts like she) adores you. Intimacy can be much more than well-lubed friction. Perhaps  for those of you who are married, you still get that type of intimacy from your wives?  I'm not here to judge or psychoanalyze you.  

 
And with the P4P resources available to me in LA, P4P is actually less expensive on a total out-of-pocket basis. I'll spend a hundy or two on a nice meal with a good bottle of vino, or on taking her shopping to make her feel spoiled, plus allowance. These relatively small investments come back in orders of magnitude returns BCD; BB (after testing), enthusiasm, no time limit, 2nds, 3rds, overnights, etc.  So I may end up paying $400-$600 for a 3 to 8 hour date versus $260 (KGirl) to $400 for an hour with a local pro (or even at a strip club when that was available).  

 
Which is better? Depends on how I (and Little Herb) are feeling.  I just think of it this way:  
- If I just want to fuck  - Pro
- If I want a fantasy date - Sugar Baby  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

I asked my sweet beautiful 22yo number 1 SB for a date next weekend.  She texted me her answer:  "Hi love! I would love to see you this weekend. You have become the highlight of my week ".   Her expressions of affection fuel and fill my fantasies perfectly and make all the work trolling SA so worth it.  TBH, there's zero Pro activity in my area so I have very little choice other than the sugar bowl, but even if there were, I'd prefer Sugar Dating for all the reasons Herb described.