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Claudius42310 13 Reviews 3998 reads
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i also am a bit of a bleeding heart, enjoy being a nice guy and also being useful to my friends regardless of how i met them.

it took a little bit of a rude awakening to find that a rule i always used in the real world applies to this one as well:

is it possible to have clearly distinct discussions about business and performance issues separate and distinct from anything more personal?

if so all may be well. if not then that may be all you need to know that it is in someone's interests to merge the business and personal aspects. not being able to keep those separate is a pretty clear indication that there is a desire to keep things murky at least or to take advantage at worst.

LAGentleman5744 reads

I posted this on the LA boards... they recommended I post here.

So I've been hobbying for awhile.  I'm also a bit of a bleeding heart.  I'm always very nice to the girls because thats in my nature.

One girl really liked me and asked for my digits and I obliged.  She's a k girl... and I'm talking to her now and she's crying and sad.  I know why( she doesn't like her profession etc)

Man... I feel bad.  There's my bleeding heart kicking in.  Any advice?  Of course I'm not going to do anything... but I'm wondering if I should even bother getting to know any providers at all.

Guess I'm too nice of a guy and it ends up bothering me.... bleh.  Gimme some philosophical and emotional advice por favor!

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TheLoveGoddess6454 reads

Dear bal541,

There is nothing wrong with being a "nice guy," as long as you have some healthy boundaries and don't find yourself taken advantage of.

In addition, you might also ask yourself if providers constitute the bulk of your personal friendships; do you lead a contented life where you have acquaintances, close friends and family? If so, lending an empathetic ear to someone now and then makes perfect sense. It's when these friendships become all you have that I would start getting concerned, mainly because I believe that some [NOT ALL, mind you] providers could end up taking advantage of you emotionally, financially or otherwise.

As long as you don't get yourself into situations where you paint yourself into a corner in terms of lending money, helping out beyond your means or otherwise get involved in someone's life to the extent that it overshadows your own, then I see no harm in it. And if you don't have any personal friends with whom you don't enjoy a fiduciary relationship, maybe it's time to begin looking at activities where the financial exchange is largely absent.

Hope that works,
The Love Goddess

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Claudius423103999 reads

i also am a bit of a bleeding heart, enjoy being a nice guy and also being useful to my friends regardless of how i met them.

it took a little bit of a rude awakening to find that a rule i always used in the real world applies to this one as well:

is it possible to have clearly distinct discussions about business and performance issues separate and distinct from anything more personal?

if so all may be well. if not then that may be all you need to know that it is in someone's interests to merge the business and personal aspects. not being able to keep those separate is a pretty clear indication that there is a desire to keep things murky at least or to take advantage at worst.

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hungry19516717 reads

I, for one, find it refreshing, and an admirable trait. If you can keep it in persective, stay just the way you are. A few more caring people is always a lift.

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Claudius423104998 reads

despite the cautionary tone of my other post in this tread. caring certainly has risks that can be serious in their consequences. but not caring is to simply become one of the walking dead and that is the risk that is too great to take.

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LAGentleman4333 reads

thanks for the replies all.  I definitely have a healthy life with friends, family, and dating.

Empathy is definitely a trait that I value and I believe there isn't enough of it in the world.  I will continue lending an ear and being a caring, nice individual.  Thanks!

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