The Erotic Highway

Is sugaring possible or too risky for married guys?
blue5361 191 Reviews 423 reads
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As a married hobbyist for 10+ years, I’m thinking about branching out.  I am very efficient with my hobby activities using a few trusted bookers and wasting minimal time. My sessions are all daytime during the week. Burner phone and generally minimal risk. Can the extra time commitment and risk be managed? Thanks in advance!

Euro-Guy47 reads

Sugar babies are amateurs wherein their main source of money is not what you will provide to them.
According, they are true amateurs and if they don't go BSC will be a significantly less way to bang a younger girl
The effort you will have to make to compete against the 'horde' will be equally significantly much greater.
Think: hundreds of hours, many rejections...etc, etc.
Is it worth it ?
Kinda like getting the GFE but for real.
All of us on this sub forum would say, yes, without question.

Ali268 reads

I recently came to the conclusion that is not worth the risk or the time involved. As the OP notes, you can be very efficient timewise with escorts. And they want to stay as anonymous as you do. I always worried about the risk of being seen in public with an SB and lamented the time it took to book a hotel and entertain her when all I really wanted to do was go to bed.

I'm not married but I'll chime in on the advantages to weigh.

Pros:
Sugar Babies
Lower volume
Less STD risk
Better chance for bare sex (shouldn't go bare with an escort)
You get a M&G to see if the goods match the pics
More conversation/connection

Escorts
Pussy on Call
No need to talk before/after
Usually easier

 
Cons:
Sugar Babies
More time investment
Cost more usually
May get attached
Immaturity level is your problem
Text messages at random times

Escorts
Condoms
No real chance to connect.
STD risk is higher

You can have your cake and eat it too, if you are brave enough to transition your monogamous marriage towards a healthy poly/ENM relationship.  It sounds scary, but the rewards are awesome.  My amazing wife is totally supportive of my sugaring, knows I'm happiest when I'm getting my needs met, and knows my sugaring actually strengthens our commitment and love for each other.   This thread is predicated on the assumption that cheating and lying and risking getting caught is the only way.  It's not the only way.  Just saying.

For me, it's a false comparison to ask: "Should I cheat with a hooker or a sugar baby?"  

 
Hookers are amazing, no doubt. There's a reason it's called the oldest profession. You have taken significant measures to enable you to cheat with hookers and now you are finding you want something else. If you try to slot a SB into the space you use now for hookers, you are not likely to find what you want. SB's are not "younger hotter hookers." Yes, there are hookers on sugar sites, but for the most part, they are looking for something other than a trick, just like you are looking for something other than a pro.  

 
IMO, if you are determined to cheat (no judgement from me, just framing the issue) a much better comparison is that of a sugar baby or a mistress.  A mistress could be a woman you meet at the gym or a bar or at some social gathering and you both agree start banging on the side, but no allowance is asked for or offered.  She may or may not have ulterior goals like "stealing you" away or adding something to her life she is not getting otherwise (from her BF or Hubs?).  But that's part of the deal.  

 
A sugar baby is like a mistress, except:  
1. You are offering allowance to sweeten the arrangement, and  
2. She has deliberately placed herself into the Sugar Bowl to accomplish one or more goals.  

 
So perhaps the best way to approach your questions is to ask: "What are the risks of finding and maintaining a mistress or sugar baby? Can the extra time commitment and risk be managed?"  

 
Finally, even if you dip a toe into the Sugar Bowl (or mistress life) and fail to find what you want, you still have your chops and OpSec for hookers.  Think of this whole process as additive, rather than replacing, and you may find much more personal benefit in the long term.  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

A large number of SDs are married, but the actual number is hard to know. Some reddit surveys suggest the number is as high as 80 percent while some other research show a much lower number.

As to your question, only you know the answer.  If you can manage the time and the funds you might find the ability to do this using day hotels. Some guys do this while traveling.  

The point to consider is your goal. An SB is a kind of relationship you manage that fills a void in your life and if you'e just doing an hour or so occasionally it may not make sense. Figure out what you want and need...

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