I wonder if some of the more experienced SD's have seen a positive correlation between the types of gifts a POT will put in their "personalized" wishlist on Seeking and use it as a hint of things they're interested in. For example, I'll usually see the typical gift card, perfume, etc...but on occasion I'll see items they've added that maybe provide a hint of things they'd like to explore (e.g. restraints, anal beads, etc...)
Do any of you look at that gift wishlist and say to yourself, "hmmm this POT looks like she'd be into exploring some fun stuff!"I haven't looked at wishlists per se, but yeah, any hint of interest in erotic stuff should be aggressively pursued. Most chicks are a little shy of letting on they have interest in kink -- but once you start pulling on that thread it usually goes pretty deep.
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I'm interested in light BDSM and sometimes they'll drop little hints. But more often I'll as really light hearted questions on the topic. Generally either they aren't interested, or they're really open to it. Not to many in the middle.
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It also remains my observation that bigger gals are a cornucopia of submissive BDSM candidates.
Usually says what kind of stuff they like. It's high volume going through girls to find keepers. Maybe after we've talked a bit and planned a date. But at that point we can talk about it.
Just a precautionary note. Looking at a POT's wishlist will trigger a notice to the POT from Seeking.
This may be good if you want to get her attention. Or it could be not so good if you are not ready (or don't want) to talk to her.
Finally, if you subscribe to the rule of "Never pay in advance" of a full BCD date, you should understand that buying something from her wishlist (at a HUGE markup over retail - because SA will get a cut) is a, well the technical term is, "really bad idea." You will spend $100, $200, $500 or more for some item she probably doesn't need with NO expectation, let alone a requirement, of a return. Why?
So perhaps one could use the wishlist as a tactic to start messaging. Send her a note asking about something on her wishlit and see where that goes. But tread carefully and don't set an expectation that you will actually buy something to GET a date.
For me, I never look at them and if asked will let her know I'm interested in meeting to discuss a meaningful ongoing arrangement.
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Thanks for the insight! I have placed my settings on SA to be invisible as possible but I'm sure a lot gets through.
I was unaware of this. Quesrion... is there a setting that allows you to view profiles and photos without the Pot SB's being alerted?
There are several settings available to hide your profile, view/favorite activity, last login date, etc.
But you need to be a paid member to use them. The only setting available to non-paid users is to hide your profile from searches and the homepage dashboard.
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The Cat
No longer active on Seeking, but in the past would send roses to hold/close the deal LOL
For $150 or so, always got the girl's immediate attention.
The flowers are competitively priced altho with a high delivery fee.
Can't say it was particularly effective tho, think something like 2/6 led to BCD time, but actually that's not bad statistically.
And for me, it was not like sending money prior to a meeting.