The Erotic Highway
So I reached out a 23-year old Latina from El Salvador who moved to LA with a college degree form back home. She's looking to get more school here and start a career in international finance. She's never had a Daddy, never used SA or any other site before. I don't even know if she's had a BF or even had sex before. We chatted by text and clicked well. I set up a M&G, offered to pay her Uber fee and the morning before our afternoon meet, she asked to reschedule as she had to work night shift. I was gracious and we set up a new day/time later in the week. The day of that date, she texted me that she had decided not to go the sugar route, she wanted to accomplish her goals on her own and wasn't going to ask a man to help her. Again, I was gracious told her I admired her honesty and conviction, and thanked her for letting me know. Her profile disappeared from SA - confirmed with my alt account.
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Three days later, I texted her a "how are you doing" message. She replied and we chatted a bit. I wished her luck and reminded her I'd be happy as a friend to help mentor her with school and job ops since my background aligned with her career and life goals.
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She thanked me for the offer.
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Twenty minutes later she sent this: "want to meet today?"
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I rescheduled my KGirl session and we met for lunch. Nice chat, nice girl, very astute, world travel experience and a well-defined work ethic and good financial discipline (saves 40% of every paycheck). We talked for 2 hours. I gave her a ride to her nearest cross street - she's not ready to tell me where she lives and also gave her $30 in a gift card in an envelope to cover her Uber as promised.
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And hour after I got home I texted her again and suggested we hang out again. Since we are still mostly under lockdown, I mentioned coming to my place or looking for an open food place. She's coming to see me at home on Thursday evening.
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Not expecting BCD yet, or maybe ever. I think she will need time to develop trust, then affection, then desire for me and my gifts. We'll see how it goes.
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Life is good.
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The Cat
Thanks, Sweetman.
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Worst case, I get an attractive female friend who likes to go wine tasting with me - she expressed an interest in learning more about wine, especially wine paring with vegetarian food. My current #1 SB does not drink. So could be a win-win-win.
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Life is good.
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The Cat
Sugar dating is DATING. At least for me. And going out on a date doesn't have to include sex, especially if you just pounded the pussy of another 21-ish spinner 4 hours before the date.
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I think I will enjoy spending time with her, and for minimal cash. If things lead to amour, then sugar will be provided. if not, then I'll just have a nice time with a 23-yr old sexy Latina hanging on my arm.
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Life is good.
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The Cat
We are getting together tomorrow evening after she leaves work. I was going to take her to a restaurant for dinner, but the Gov of Cali has closed down businesses again due to COVID spikes. So she agreed to hang at my place - and this is the rather interesting part - she wants to try some of my wines. Her suggestion, not mine. (I have a 400+ bottle collection in a customer made wine cooler, and I showed her pics of it when we first met.).
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I'll see how it goes....
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What's that, my Dear? You want to try that one? Oh sure, that's a Merlot from Napa, I think you will like it even more than that Syrah from Australia we just drank. And then I have some amazing Port to go with "dessert." [Evil Grin]
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Life is good.
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The Cat
You know they would be just as impressed if you slapped a fake label onto a bottle of MD 20/20. 
Picked her up as agreed, she was on time and looked smoking hot. She didn't dress slutty or provocatively, I don't think that's her style. But her natural beauty, slim body and well-portioned curves under as simple black blouse and slacks we on point for anyone who likes demure babes.
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Off to my place as planned since all inside dining is currently closed (Thank you, Gov. N!) and we chat for a bit on the sofa before I order Italian food from an upscale place through a delivery app. She sat next to me as I checked out so I know she could see the total was around $75. My guess is that based on her modest earnings, and her living status, she probably spends less than $15 on a meal.
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As we wait 35-45 mins for the food, I pop open the 1st wine, a French rose for her first tasting lesson. She's a good study and seems to have a good, though still young, palette. As we nurse the rose, the discussion turns to the site, and what she was hoping to accomplish there, before she decided to lave that path. I mention that I have deactivated my profile for now (actually I just hid it from the dashboard/search) and I'm not pursuing any new arrangements for the time being... this leads to some discussion of our new friendship and her deepening interest in learning about wine, plus her desire for career mentoring. I casually say the arrangement path is still available if she is interested, and BINGO! she says she may be. (Note: At this point, word choice in these conversations is critical - I deliberately use "arrangement" rather than "sugar," and I stay away from transactional modes as well.)
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We talk about the difference between a casual friendship and a sugar relationship (i.e.: add sex + financial help) and then talk about possible schedules, sexual preferences, testing, building trust as a critical foundation, and privacy & discretion needs. She mentions she broke up with her BF three months ago - 25 yrs old and "successful" - but in a mistaken attempt at mentoring he was pushing her hard to go to nursing school due to the high pay. She has zero interest in that and was annoyed he did not "get it." Also, in the context of this part of our convo she says she's been tested since they broke up, but not active.
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Aside: So she's horny, hungry to learn, doesn't tolerate rudeness, appreciates and values mutual respect and she likes nice things. As long as I'm not a total dick, I'm hopeful she will eventually talk herself into a commitment.
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We move on to related areas, she is on birth control with an IUD but laments that without health care coverage, she is reliant on Planed Parenthood for birth control service and they cannot provide IUD support. I bring up ACA plans for California, and take that opportunity to suggest that I would be happy to help her select a plan and could, as an example of support, pay the monthly fees and co-payments when needed. She seems to like this idea... but she's not committed yet. She has yet to ask about, nor have I offered, any specific allowance amounts. If I can set up a $150-$300 a month auto-pay for her insurance plan and she's happy with that along with the wine and mentoring, I'll score a major jackpot.
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If!
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The food arrives. I open the next bottle, a Cline Cellars Sonoma Zin, and we tuck into our Caesar salad and pasta. She loves the zin, and I ask her to take the rest of the bottle home if she likes. She likes.
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After dinner, she says she's tired after a long day of work and I offer to drive her home. Off we go. She gets the bottle from my trunk and we exchange a hug and kiss on the cheek.
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Today she texted me with a cheese and wine pairing question. And she closed with "see you soon!".
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Life is good
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The Cat
She just dumped me. By text. She actually apologized.
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Upward an onward!
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Life is good.
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The Cat
Thanks for kind words. Who knows how she will feel later down the road, especially if her situation changes.
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I may not have guaranteed a win, but I have avoided guaranteeing a loss.
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In the spirit of paying it forward, here's my actual investment summary:
Time: 5 hours over lunch and then dinner
Money: $100 in shared food, $75 in shared wine.
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If that investment pays off over the next 12-24 months, it will be worth many times that amount. If it doesn't, it's a rounding error on my monthly budget.
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Life is good.
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The Cat