Back in 2017 I dated a scrumptious little blonde SB with the most nearly perfect body I've ever encountered.  she was eager and enthusiastic in bed, plus quite intelligent.  OK also a bit flaky, but I can deal with that up to a point.  We wound up having 10 BCD dates, and then she ghosted.  Over the next couple months I sent her some kind text msgs and finally she replied with some very mean comments that amounted to "get lost".  I could easily have responded with screw you bitch, I don't need this crap in my life.  But I did not.  Instead I replied kindly and said sorry you feel that way, if you change your mind let me know.  Fast forward to last week when she texted me saying she was in a bind for $$ (of course) and had no one to turn to besides me.  I welcomed her back, told her how glad I'd be to pick up where we left off, and we did so last night!  She apologized for her remarks back then and explained why the stresses in her life made her take things out on me which I did not deserve. I accepted her apologies, got her naked and once again held that stunning little body in my arms.  So you never know when a past lover is going to cum back into your life and your bed.  It's always a good idea to take the higher ground and be nice to them, even when they don't deserve it!

This time of year especially brings out gals who ghosted over several years asking for a new start or similar request.

I've had two just this week alone!

Remember also that make-up sex is the best sex of all.

Personally I find that attitude rather childish myself, and I am one of the most immature people ever to grace these boards. lol

 
I honestly don't know what is to be gained by telling off someone forty years younger than oneself, especially when said person owns a pussy you might want to revisit someday. That said, I am not suggesting that anyone here become a door mat for bad behavior, just that "having the last word" is hardly satisfying, even less so when that person was most likely in grade school when most of us became eligible to join AARP, and I too don't like closing the door permanently on pussy just because she said something stupid once long ago. My memory is so short about those kind of things that when hookers/SB's or even civvies pop back into my life, unless they did something VERY wrong, I am unlikely to even remember why I stopped seeing them,  

 
That is just one more thing I like about seeing the younger girls, the chances of them resurfacing while they are still "fuckable" are so much higher than girls already in their mid-late twenties or older.

I have a friend who joined AARP when he was a teen in high school. You are eligible to join AARP when the check (back then) or CC payment clears.  But I'm just nitpicking GaG who was making a point about age differences.  
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The more important message is as sweetmen, mrfisher and GaG have said in various ways: "Don't burn bridges." "Take the higher ground." "Be nice to them, even when they don't deserve it."  
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=92cF_KCH7TU
Yes, my guard stood hard when abstract threats too noble to neglect
Deceived me into thinking I had something to protect
Good and bad, I define these terms quite clear, no doubt, somehow
Ah, but I was so much older then I'm younger than that now

Being married, I try to keep them happy so they won't seek revenge.

looking back, and ghosting their attempts to communicate is the best revenge.  It keeps hard feelings from escalating on both sides.

Yeah, I just ghost them too. lol

 
Just like every hooker with even half a brain will tell you, there is NOTHING to be gained by trying to explain why you are no longer interested. I remember post after post on GD made by lovesick johns who just couldn't figure out why their ATF had ghosted on them. The more they would whine, the more the reason for her ghosting would be come obvious, obvious to everyone but the lovesick john of course.

The SB in question and I had another splendid BCD date last night and she wants to continue with me.  It's amazing, and of all the SBs I've lost contact with over the years I would have said this one was the one least likely to ever show up in my bed again.

Could not agree more.  Your post made me think of a couple of things.  When pressed by a situation like this, we have a tendency to reveal our true selves. First, like you, I prefer to be a gentleman, whether or not it leads to an encore.  Second, what could be more pitiful and unbecoming, than someone who thinks so little of themselves, they engage in stalking, bitter, or spiteful behavior?  If the shoe were on the other foot, nothing would turn me off more than a lady either throwing herself at me or becoming angry because I chose to part ways, no matter the reason.

 
Like two other posts, sign me up for doing the ghosting, especially if I have any future hope of reconnecting.   Just as we learned in our twenties, sometimes, the less we want them, the more they want us, even aside from the exchange of anything financial.

Turns out the girl I was talking about got into some legal trouble and had to go to court. She had a good outcome, got the charges dropped, and used the money she got from me to pay her fines. She's very grateful and says she wants to see me again when she gets back to town.  Hope so!  It's been an unexpected delight getting back with her!  I'll give her lots of opportunities to show her gratitude!

First, it’s nice to be back.  I read this post while pissed because I had been stood up at a M&G. After reading your post, I decided to be sympathetic and ask what happened.  Bottom line, I finally me her yesterday and it was wonderful.  Thanks for reminding me to be the adult in the relationship.

I know, right? Be pissed if that's what you're feeling but swallow it and be really nice to the SB, it will pay off sooner or later.  I don't understand why some guys insist on telling the girls off.  All I know is that I'm glad there are so many jerks out there, it makes life a lot better for anyone who actually behaves like a gentleman.  Glad you found my comments useful! And as an update, the girl I was talking about has already been back in my bed a couple times since she returned from her court appearance, and I'm seeing her again tomorrow. So it looks like she does want an ongoing arrangement with me, not just a quickie to get some $ for her legal troubles.  I couldn't be happier!

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