We haven't discussed holiday gifts in detail for a while...  

 
Now that Halloween is behind us and we - hopefully - got to see our SB's dressed up in their favorite whorish costumes before we gave them our "candy," it's time to plan your holiday season sugar activities, or non-activities.  

 
If you have a S/O, are you going to be strategically unavailable to your SB(s) between Thanksgiving and New Years? Or have you carefully planned some OOO (out of office) time from your family so you can unwrap your "presents" somewhere secluded where you can really appreciate and use them?  

 
If you don't have an S/O, are you making plans with one or more of your SBs for some quality celebration time?  

 
And either way, what about holiday gifts?  Do you budget anything substantial for SB gifts? Do you keep expectations low and budget even lower? Or do you find reasons to be away and avoid the gift topic altogether?  

 
One of my current A-List SB's is not down for public outings as she's primarily concerned about bumping into someone who may know her, and even if we avoid that she's concerned about how strangers may "think" about her if they see her with a (ok I'll add fat and) old guy on what must be a date.  No need to schedule some type of experience at an exciting venue for her.  Still I will be getting her a few presents based on my thoughtful observations on things she can really use to make her life a bit easier or better.  Budget is around $200.  

 
The other SB is down to go out, and as she's not got the personal funds to something upscale, I'm sure I can budget something moderate (for my tastes) that will still make her feel like Daddy is spoiling her.  Plus, she will get gifts of a similar budget to the SB above, and an entertainment/even budget around $400-$600 for the two of us (plus allowance, of course).  

 
A few things to consider if you want to spend:  
1. Make restaurant (and hotel) reservations NOW if you want to do something on key dates (i.e.: Xmas Eve, NYE, New Years' Day). Many mid- to top-end restaurants have special holiday menus that require advance reservations.  
2. Booking air travel in the midst of the government shutdown is problematic. Maybe stick with destinations reachable by car this year?  
3. If you want to plan an extended BCD date, consider how you will handle allowance expectations. She may be delighted to go to Nobu and be happy. Or she may see a 2-day trip up the coast as a time investment/burden that requires additional allowance (to compensate for revenue lost elsewhere).  
4. Careful about catching feelings.... Hers not yours.  Holiday celebrations and gifts can start to look like relationship behavior.  If you don't want to cross that line, or even blur that line, make sure you have a chat about expectations before you book.  

 
What's your plan this year?  Are you allocating significant (whatever that means to you) additional sugar budget?  

 
Have you ever received (non-sexual) holiday presents from your SB? Were they thoughtful, playful, or expensive?  I once got a set of bath towels from an SB.  Yes, that's right. Bath towels - probably from Target. But the thing is, I really needed some new towels. The ones I owned were old and a bit ratty. So this turned out to be a rather thoughtful gift which I still use today.  On the other hand, I have way too many Christmas coffee mugs and water bottles to count, especially as I was raised Jewish and do not celebrate Christmas. LOL  

 
What's on your Sugar Advent Calendars, Gents?  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

I give gifts based on the girl and how long we've been together.  This is the first year in years I don't have a main SB/GF.  So my budget is larger.

In the past, main had a huge budget.  Bought her a new Apple laptop last year.  Others got some thoughtful gifts, usually under $100.

This year I'll be splurging a bit more.  My asian/latina mix is hurting cash wise so I'm giving her an extra $200 each time we see each other in December.  I'm going to be clear it's not an allowance change.  Just a gift.

GCG has been asking for some nice clothes and lingerie.  Do I was thinking about an online shopping spree for some stuff she can wear only for me.  At least the first time.  Probably budget about $200 for that and I get to pick the lingerie.

The others are not very consistent so they will get some small gifts that I find interesting for them.

As far as getting gifts, I'm not big on high $.  I can buy what I want.  I'm big on thoughtful gifts.  One girl got me all these different tea flavors from all over the world for my birthday.  Maybe cost $20 but was amazing.  My Columbian SB did the same from back home.  

I always spend the holidays with my daughter and her family and so my SB makes a habit of going on a skiing vacation over the hols. She's not into Christmas really. She was raised in a fundamentalist Christian household so she now hates anything religious. We do birthdays instead.