The Erotic Highway

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herbtcat 6 Reviews 56 reads
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Without any additional context on what/who you are ideally looking for, your particular market/budget, and the population of viable profiles in your area & search criteria, I'll give your profile a B-.

 
The length is good, medium is better than short, one- or -two lines. And better than long word walls that never get read.  You do project a sense of personality and status without appearing to brag (as braggers are typically lying and scamming.)  And assuming you have relatively good looks, you back it up with (presumably) good pics and mention of "fun/active" activities.  

 
Before I offer any specific criticisms, let's take a step back and consider what a viable SB is looking for in a profile:  
1. I'll define two, general "archetypes" that tend to represent the most viable SB's, based on their personal priorities/goals. Both of these assume you have already filtered out scammers:  
A. Money 1st:  These are SB's who have decided that they are ok with fucking a guy for much needed cash to pay for NECESSITIES like rent, food, phone.  They want to find a guy who:  
- Is "safe" (i.e.: Wont rob, maim, injure, kill her or pimp her out)
- Has cash - enough to cover her needs.
- Is good looking enough to fuck without puking.
- Is not a dick/asshole.
B. Experience 1st: These are SB's who want to taste the "good life" they cannot attain on their own. They want cash to pay for WANTS (as opposed to necessities) and they want access to top-tier services and experiences. Having sex with an older guy is not a moral problem, and they may even get off on it. They want to find a guy who:
- Is safe
- Has cash - enough to cover her wants (dinners, shopping, 1st class air, front row center tickets, etc.)  
- Is fun, has an engaging, perhaps a mentoring (without condescending) attitude and who she may have dated as a civilian if he was closer to her age.  
- Is dependable, and flexible.  
- is not a dick/asshole/demeaning/etc.  

 
Each of these types has overlapping criteria for an SD:  
- They generally are not interested in guys looking (exclusively) for multiple temporary parking spots for their penis. They may not mind if he has more than on SB, but they do not want to be number 71 in his body count goal of 100+ babes this year.  
- They don't want guys who are "cheap" and constantly try to minimize allowance or "date spend."

 
Beyond that, criteria may vary... but it will generally align with the archetypes defined above.  

 
Now back to your profile:  
- As others have noted, humor (including some self-deprecating), and a casual and fun tone are good.
- I suggest you avoid any implied or explicit filters in your text.  So the "I have a type" bit should be removed.  You know your specific physical criteria, no need to call it out and risk a POT SB self-rejecting.
- The animals are SD gold. One or two pics (no more) to sell it works.  
- The seeking section can focus on non-BCD activities that you want to share, and the desire to move forward is good. But don't exclude those who may need time in messages to get a better "sense" of who you are and develop trust. Perhaps changing this to "I want match your pace in taking next steps..." gives her a (false) sense of control and will let her decide if she wants fast or slow.  
- Travel: make this a perk not a man-slut issue. Be careful about implying you want to bang chicks in three work cities. Perhaps flip it to "maybe you can join me when I travel to fun places like Chicago, NY, Paris."

 
Finally critique every sentence and paragraph through the likely lens of the SB's you want to meet. Does this align with the criteria SHE has for ME?  

I'd love to hear your results if you make any of the suggestions provided here by the team.  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

CaptAwesome769 reads

A call out to those of you who have had success on Seeking.   Can you share your profiles or at least your best tips for writing a good profile?   Or maybe help critique mine.  

"About me: I am a true gentleman. Honest and sincere. I am well educated, well traveled and have found success in multiple business fields. I have accomplished many things in my life and have accumulated a great deal of experience and wisdom to share.

I enjoy being active in my free time -biking, spending time at the beach and going to the gym. I also have a soft spot for animals and volunteer at and donate to rescues and wildlife rehabilitation facilities.

I live in Florida, but my primary business is still in New York, so I make frequent trips (to Chicago as well). I will post when I am traveling.

Seeking: While I certainly have a "type" that attracts me, I try not to limit myself because I enjoy spending time with a wide variety of interesting people even if they do not check the usual boxes. I'm looking for a confident and outgoing woman and am open to short or long-term arrangements.

It takes a certain level of maturity to pursue a relationship of this type without drama. I don't want to impose an arbitrary age limit, but I hope you can be honest with yourself in evaluating where you stand in this regard.

I prefer to move quickly to texting, talking and meeting rather than spending a long time going back and forth with messages here.  If you are intrigued, I would love to hear from you."

I would leave out ANY description of the type of woman you are looking for.  The type of people you want might be turned off by it, and the type you don't want will ignore it anyway.
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Secondly what women want are good looks, tall, and wealthy.  Your personality is way down the list, regardless what they pretend.

You say 'a relationshp of this type' without going into detail.
It's true that some of the guys here have the expectation that an SB is a bit of an escort on steroids, available at your call, a lot of these girls are non-pro and looking for a range of things from a vanilla boyfriend to pure P4P scenario.  Some want  an almost committed relationship,  Some want you to pay all their bills.
I don't think 'drama' is needed here. But you might want to define a bit more .. you want to be able to enjoy time together while keeping boundaries, keeping your separate lives.

I know you asked for tips on writing a good profile, but here's some tips on photos.  Only hide your face if you truly need to remain anonymous.  In that case, some face pics in your private shots would be good.  Otherwise, there's no need for private photos, just make all your pics visible.  Do show some well lit full body shots that give a good idea of your physique.  The girls want to know what you look like as much as we want to see them, no surprises.  No nudity, no even shirtless.  I know some of you will argue this point, but I think most SBs are turned off, unless you have a truly spectacular body, then flaunt it!  Do not pose with dead animals, even fish., most women really hate that. If you have pets, do post a cute photo of you with them.  One of my profile pics shows me with my cat on my lap.  That pic has gotten me lots of very positive messages and has got me laid!

As a background, I average at least 1 message a day.  I think the photos are most important.  Have  a friend take one or two in good lighting  with a pleasant background.  If you frequently wear a suit, include one of those.  Project an upscale image, which won’t be hard. I simply say I’m looking for a passionate lady who needs a little help.  Don’t talk about yourself.  They know why you’re on the site.  Good luck!   The odds are so great in your favor that I don’t think you can miss though.

Without any additional context on what/who you are ideally looking for, your particular market/budget, and the population of viable profiles in your area & search criteria, I'll give your profile a B-.

 
The length is good, medium is better than short, one- or -two lines. And better than long word walls that never get read.  You do project a sense of personality and status without appearing to brag (as braggers are typically lying and scamming.)  And assuming you have relatively good looks, you back it up with (presumably) good pics and mention of "fun/active" activities.  

 
Before I offer any specific criticisms, let's take a step back and consider what a viable SB is looking for in a profile:  
1. I'll define two, general "archetypes" that tend to represent the most viable SB's, based on their personal priorities/goals. Both of these assume you have already filtered out scammers:  
A. Money 1st:  These are SB's who have decided that they are ok with fucking a guy for much needed cash to pay for NECESSITIES like rent, food, phone.  They want to find a guy who:  
- Is "safe" (i.e.: Wont rob, maim, injure, kill her or pimp her out)
- Has cash - enough to cover her needs.
- Is good looking enough to fuck without puking.
- Is not a dick/asshole.
B. Experience 1st: These are SB's who want to taste the "good life" they cannot attain on their own. They want cash to pay for WANTS (as opposed to necessities) and they want access to top-tier services and experiences. Having sex with an older guy is not a moral problem, and they may even get off on it. They want to find a guy who:
- Is safe
- Has cash - enough to cover her wants (dinners, shopping, 1st class air, front row center tickets, etc.)  
- Is fun, has an engaging, perhaps a mentoring (without condescending) attitude and who she may have dated as a civilian if he was closer to her age.  
- Is dependable, and flexible.  
- is not a dick/asshole/demeaning/etc.  

 
Each of these types has overlapping criteria for an SD:  
- They generally are not interested in guys looking (exclusively) for multiple temporary parking spots for their penis. They may not mind if he has more than on SB, but they do not want to be number 71 in his body count goal of 100+ babes this year.  
- They don't want guys who are "cheap" and constantly try to minimize allowance or "date spend."

 
Beyond that, criteria may vary... but it will generally align with the archetypes defined above.  

 
Now back to your profile:  
- As others have noted, humor (including some self-deprecating), and a casual and fun tone are good.
- I suggest you avoid any implied or explicit filters in your text.  So the "I have a type" bit should be removed.  You know your specific physical criteria, no need to call it out and risk a POT SB self-rejecting.
- The animals are SD gold. One or two pics (no more) to sell it works.  
- The seeking section can focus on non-BCD activities that you want to share, and the desire to move forward is good. But don't exclude those who may need time in messages to get a better "sense" of who you are and develop trust. Perhaps changing this to "I want match your pace in taking next steps..." gives her a (false) sense of control and will let her decide if she wants fast or slow.  
- Travel: make this a perk not a man-slut issue. Be careful about implying you want to bang chicks in three work cities. Perhaps flip it to "maybe you can join me when I travel to fun places like Chicago, NY, Paris."

 
Finally critique every sentence and paragraph through the likely lens of the SB's you want to meet. Does this align with the criteria SHE has for ME?  

I'd love to hear your results if you make any of the suggestions provided here by the team.  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

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