Ivd hosted for 10 years. This lady messaged me 10 days ago. Said I had given her my number.  We agreed to get together over the holidays.  Had discussed money and services. Few days later our date is close and guys I know says she's active but I couldn't find her. Odd. She shows up and says 500. No we agreed on400. Then she wants to be paid up front.  I said half and half.  Should have stopped then. Then I  realized she has no intent of fucking. Ask her to leave and ask for 200 back. She refuses and zi go for her purse. It got ugly quick. She started screaming help. Help.. I knew I was in a no win situation.  First time in 10 years. Don't ignore red flags.

Sorry to learn of this. We know this is not a risk free lifestyle and it is bound to happen to most of us. The experience will make you gun shy for awhile which is a healthy reaction. Sounds like you did not know anything about her yet you invited her over to your place without a M&G, which is unfortunate.

You already know going for her purse was not a wise move. Unfortunately, I learned the hard way a that cash and dash can happen in any setting. Years ago, I faced a similar situation with someone with whom I previously had a drama-free date that included a fun BCD experience.

Second time we had dinner at an upscale DTLA restaurant which seemingly went well but this time she asked for her money at the table which was different from our first meeting. I thought nothing of it given my experience with her.

As soon as we left the restaurant she said, "Have a nice night" and walked the other direction. Stunned, my initial instinct was to run after her but I quickly collected my wits and realized that was a bad idea as she could scream bloody murder and draw a crowd, so I slinked away, shaken, out a few hundred dollars and my pride bruised.

Going forward, your spidey senses will be more honed. You'll be back!

I've been robbed in much the same way in the past.  In my case she actually flashed her tits to me in my living room and let me feel her up for a few minutes before she grabbed her purse and ran out the door - to a waiting car I had not seen when she arrived.  

 
The red flags were there earlier, of course. I just didn't take time to see or evaluate them before agreeing to meet for BCD.  

 
The "here's half now and the rest after" strategy can be effective to ease the mind of a legit SB who's nervous about her first time.  But it still risks that half and maybe more once a ROB sees you actually have the cash on hand.  I assume you took some precautions before she showed up like hiding your wallet, cards, car keys, and other pocketable valuables.  That will at least help limit your exposure to the actual cash in your pocket, assuming she does not produce a weapon.  

 
Random thought: Is there a budding market for At-Home Metal Detector ads on the SD sites? "Try our new Sugar-Safe Collection of home dating safety equipment and services, including integrated metal detectors and fingerprint scanners that blend into your doorbell and threshold!"  

 
Race you all to the patent office!  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

Man that sucks  

One thing I would do differently if I were you - always have the first date or two in a hotel till you get a sense of the crazy factor

 lot of these women have had rough upbringings, bad experiences with drugs and ex boyfriends and whatnot and are low trust culture in general  

Till you know what type you are dealing with, don’t open up your home to anyone  — a lot worse can happen

There were warnings there but yeah.... We all think with the wrong head sometimes.  I'm glad you are safe.  She was well prepared for this.  Maybe sharing her info to other locals so we know to stay away?  I've outed bad SBd on here before.

Always a quick wit and looking out for us SDs!. lol

 "Try our new Sugar-Safe Collection of home dating safety equipment and services, including integrated metal detectors and fingerprint scanners that blend into your doorbell and threshold!"

I was pretty darn naive at the beginning of my career in the Sugar Bowl.  And all my previous experience had been with TER reviewed escorts who are generally reliable and do not want their reputation trashed. So I foolishly left my SBs cash in plain site, and ceremoniously handed it to them at the end of the successful date.  This practice was obviously bound to backfire.  I had had a very successful date with a SB and was eagerly anticipating a repeat for date #2.  She arrived, we chatted, and when my back was turned she pocketed the cash.  Then she said she forgot her toys in the car and went out to get them.  Hopped in, drove off, and I never heard from her again. I never left the cash sitting out in plain sight after that, and I never agree to pay in advance.  As lessons go, this was a fairly inexpensive one, since we'd agreed on a ppm of 200.  Small loss, major lesson learned.

It's a terrible feeling to be Cashed and Dashed. It's happened to me a few times. No way to completely prevent it. We've covered the rules of precaution here many times but as a reminder it's a good idea to always have an M&G [or two] prior to the first BCD. That BCD should be in a hotel room, not your house.  

 
In that first BCD I make it clear the gift happens at the end of the date, not before. Yes, this can create paranoia on her part thinking you may be setting her up for an unpaid bang and bail but if I have any doubts at all about a POT and suspect she is higher risk than usual I do make this a point. At worst you are out 500 or so and it's not worth grabbing her or chasing her.  

 
Some of these gals are quite clever and convincing. I'm happy to say it's rare that it happens but it does happen and it comes with the territory, unfortunately. After a few good experiences the pain will pass and you'll not feel as bad about it.  

 
But never let your guard down with the new ones.    

There were 2 other guys I knew she was in contact with. Messaged them. They reported her and blockef

Is that as the economy squeezes more young ladies that the criminals may figure out it's a pretty safe way to rob someone. We've had 4 armed robberies of AMPs lately.  Another soft target