Dear RuudVanDerHass,

Answers to your questions as follows:

1. Yes, I have heard about a relationship between the intensity of a male orgasm and the refractory period. I think most of us have, actually. For most men, unless they're in their late teens-early 20's, the stronger the orgasm, the longer a man can be wiped out sexually afterwards and the longer the refractory period. Nothing strange about it, seems pretty normal to me. Of course there are those outliers who can get it up at any given time, no matter what kind of orgasm, but we're talking about the great majority here.

2. Yes, any barrier you put between skin touching skin, whether it's regular epidermis or mucosal tissue, is going to deaden the sensation. And for some men, that can be a real buzzkill, hence some uncovered activities that offer extra sensation.

Enjoy your experiences
the Love Goddess

Male sexual drive --frequency of orgasms, brevity of refractory period, etc-- varies with individuals and with age.  Males actually peak in their teens (while women do in their forties.)
I have found something that is a bit the inverse of what you describe:  If I prolong my orgasm so that I have what feels like a series of small climaxes, I can keep going until I finally have what feels like a very intense one.  So I may have my partner on top, with me wearing a c..k ring with a clitoral vibrator, while I say the things that I know touches her buttons, kiss and caress her, as we each move enough to build our excitement and I have what feel like mini climaxes and she does as well until she finally has an intense orgasm and I then let go for one very intense one.  I have shared this with some patients and some have been able to enjoy it.
This is not something to do with providers unless you have booked enough time and know the lady and is sure she is up for it since, at my age, it can take a long time.

I have noticed the same tendencies as I get older. My orgasms are extremely powerful, messy and satisfying for both me and my ATF but the chances of me having another that same night are almost non-existent at this point-I am 50.  To be honest, I really don't care. The one O that I DO have is so intense that I am, for lack of a better word, content!

Also, I rarely if ever orgasm while wearing a condom.

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I am finding (at age 55) that my second ejaculation, while taking more time to procure, is more intense and satisfying than the first.

Anyone else noticing this as they move into their golden years?

Until I was about 60, I had no problem having two orgasms in a one-hour session.    In the last 5 years, I have discovered it is much more difficult.

As with Ruud, if the first orgasm is very intense, it is hard to recharge in a reasonable period.   If it is less intense, then I can sometimes recharge for a second orgasm within that hour or a little longer.  

But I also find, as Mr Fisher suggests, that the second orgasm is very different.   It takes longer to achieve, the feelings getting there are different (and different than they were 40 years ago) but the overall feeling is more enjoyable.

I am interested in what Boston Guy, MrFisher, and Kornlover have written. I have found that I could make an orgasm very intense as described above.  I have also found that --at age 66- my ability to have repeated organisms has changed.  I used to be able to have 3 in one hour.  Now, I can often have two in one hour and always in two hours and sometimes three in two hours IF: I'm with someone who is exciting, I take a Viagra about 1/2 before on an empty stomach, and I don't use a condom to orgasm.  This most often means not having an orgasm on intercourse unless it is with a long time friend.  I agree with my two friends above that if I have multiple orgasms, the last one is very intense and wonderfully enervating. This is very encouraging to me and should be to all of us since it suggests there is really life after (name the age.)