Another post made me think about a discussion of SB's who are dependent on their SD's for transportation to meet ups.
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This could be SB's that don't have a drivers' license or a car and who don't have funds to cover an Uber, Taxi, Lyft, etc.
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What are some of the pro's and con's of SB arrangements with this issue? Here's how I see it:
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Con's:
1. You need to figure out how to get her to your meets and BCD sessions - every time you meet.
2. You will probably need to pay for her to get to you: Either drive your car to get her or hire a ride.
3. She is (probably) going to be highly dependent on you for cash. (Also listed as a Pro)
4. If you offer an Uber she may (will?) abuse that and ask for an Uber to get her to other places (like work, her friend's place, or even her BF's place).
5. You will need to add an hour+ to your total time allocation for sugar as you drive to/from her place, or wait for an Uber.
6. Your safety is at higher risk. Picking up a stranger with your personal car (or having her "delivered" to your home/hotel room) is potentially more dangerous than meeting in public. Vetting her info is even more important than ever. Imagine showing up at "her place" and seeing her hop in your car, along with a 6'4" 250 lb gun toting thug who gets in from the blind side of your car! Yikes!
7. Limits the practical distance you can maintain with an ongoing SB arrangement. You can probably tolerate a one, or two time BCD with a hottie that lives 90+ minutes away from you. But sustaining that for 2x a week over several months would likely be difficult.
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Pro's:
1. She is (probably) going to be highly dependent on you for cash. (Also listed as a Con)
2. She is probably also going to be younger and less experienced in the sugar bowl and with having sex. This may mean you have a distinct advantage in negotiating (she has to find a SD who will deal with the transportation issue) and, for some SB's may mean you can "train" her sexually to be a top performer. I guess this presumes she is generally a submissive type.
3. Once you get her to your BCD location, she is less likely to try to scam you, or fail to provide her sugar. Of course, consent can be (and has been) withdrawn any time she wants to. That will always be true. But she may not want to piss you off without a confirmed method to get home.
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Other pro's and/or con's?
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What's your normal practice here? Do you tend to stay away from these SB's, do you prioritize for them, or do you just not care?
Interesting you mention this, I just got wind one of my on the side occassional SBs, her car took a shitter. She has not asked for anything, but did say probably means we can't see each other anymore. With that said, I am tempted to go sink $800 on a junker just so she can drive to me because she is 45 minutes from my house, and as much as I already drive during commute and how busy I am, I have little desire to sustain an arrangement when I tack on an additional 3 hours of driving every time. I'm leaning toward just moving on. If she was closer, I wouldn't mind, something like 20 minutes drive would be nbd.
about buying her a junker...who do you think is going to be the first one she calls when it konks out? That $800 is going to go up up up. If you are willing to pay for her transportation, I would just have her get HER OWN uber account and you just up the gift to include it. At 45 minutes away, I am guessing that would be about $150 -$200 per date. Just depends on how much you want to see this one.
I thought about that and yea, that's where my fiscal responsibility kicks in, lol I can't justify $150 per date for an Uber rather than just chunking 6 or 700 for a beater car, presuming the car doesn't crap out right away. I would give her the money to buy something and she can choose it and all that so I can more easily absolve myself if it goes south. And it wouldn't be a complete gift anyway, I was going to offer I give her half her normal allowance for a few dates so she ends up paying some of the car too. If the beater car dies, then I think that would be the end of that SB, so in the end, to me the question is could she get a car that will last at least 4 or 5 dates! Then I can feel it was worth it, ha!
Oh and about how much I want to see this one? 19 year old tiny spinner beautiful black girl that has been coming over for about 70% of what I normally would offer and looooooooves to have her pussy and ass eaten out....yea, I enjoy seeing her!
This summer one of my sweetest SBs got drunk and rolled her car. I wound up buying her an $800 Kia off CL, drove it myself for a couple weeks to find out what needed to be fixed and then gave it to her. She has been so damn appreciative ever since, even got a job recently doing deliveries which she said she could not have done without the car. So it's been a very worthwhile investment. This girl is very independent and never asks me to buy her stuff, so I felt she deserved it. A car that cheap is a risk though and certainly could end up a money pit.
Do you get her real life ID at some point? I personally think it would be strange to have a long term SB relationship and not know her real name, address, etc. That cuts down on the thuggy stuff after the first meet.
Also if she can host, her not having wheels is not really your problem (except for her need for cash.)
The main thing I would hate about long drive distance is that it cuts way down on spontaneity.
The most fun I've had in the bowl was 2 different SBs that would ask if they could come over and get their pussy eaten. Miss those 2.
Many of the SBs I've dated don't have a car. One lived a good 2 hour drive from me, so I'd drive to her place and either pick her up in my RV or she'd host. Either way we would spend the night and I'd go home the next day. After a year and a half of that, the long drive got annoying and I moved on. Two of my recent SBs don't have cars and usually ask me to pick them up which I'm happy to do. One of them actually got a car recently but I still pick her up, it's become our habit. More time to talk with her, and she's a good one for conversation. Another SB has a car, but she really likes to drink wine before during and after our dates, which is ok with me. So I picked her up so she doesn't have to drive inebriated. 3 others do have cars and drive to meet me although one of those 3 invited me to visit at her place recently. So I really don't care if they have a car or not. It's all good. The extra time and trouble of picking them up is often a fun way to spend more time with them. My only word of advice is to tell them NOT to give their home location as a pickup point until they know and trust the SD. One of my SBs made that mistake recently and the guy vandalized her father's car in the driveway when she correctly refused to go to his hotel for $80!
The ones that don't drive have been kind of a mess in my experience here in Orange County. They more or less can't get anything done on their own, depend a lot on their family and friends for every little thing and also burn tons of cash on Uber, Doordash, etc. In my experience, they've been harder to schedule with and tend to have more frequent asks for random shit.
I did have one totally BSC SB decide she didn't want sex after getting naked at the hotel. Of course, I promptly took her home and did not give her any sugar. This was much better than her sneaking off with a wad of cash. I don't think she would have done something like that, but you have a point about it being less likely to be a scam.
It actually hasn't effected me much on actual dates, because I often pick up SBs at their places or go over their places.
There can be many valid reasons for not having a car when you are young, so it isn't sufficient to offer a clue about your maturity level. However, those who do have cars (similarly those who do have a place of their own to live) have demonstrated some maturity and personal responsibility -- if that is important to you.
She lived 3 hrs away on the other side of Florida...we always spent entire evening and overnite together, first. sex then out to dinner or a show and then back to the hotel for more sex...I still miss her...a real sweetheart and she fucked my brains out every time 😋
All others who don't drive have been only one time affairs for me....usually just too problematic !
and with my Uber I can “follow” the completed trip. But, yes, the con is that I am starting to be her only source of transportation and get calls late at night saying she is stranded somewhere. Also, some Uber-abuse in that she, on occasion seems to be a no-show.
I think your pros vs cons is a good summary which reflects my overall experience.