I am not too good in giving oral myself but is it important that I learn to be good at giving oral when I am with a provider? Some people say the point of the provider is to satisfy yourself not them, but then some people say by satisfying the provider you get better service.

Interesting question, PowersD,

Here's what I'd do - be brave and ASK the provider you're with. Providers are no different from civvies. Some providers aren't that into oral - to them, cunnilingus is a bother and they don't want to have any of it. They want to take control and suck or hump you dry while you stay passive. To them, that's a perfect session.

To other ladies, sitting back and letting the man's tongue go wild on their clit is the ultimate sexual Nirvana. If you happen upon a provider who says she loves it, ask her to gently guide you to her sweet spot. Tell her that you're no expert but that you're willing to learn. Imagine THE INCREDIBLE FUN you're going to have! She will show you exactly what she likes (and no two women are the same, so don't go imagining that there's only one way to lick a vulva) and you'll both get off. Pretty soon, you'll develop your own style from which you'll then deviate according to the lady's needs.

Believe me, licking pussy is not rocket science - if you've got a tongue and know how to lick, you'll be proficient in no time.

Have fun learning,
The Love Goddess

A good escort will make sure you have a good time regardless of how good your skills are.  That being said, many guys, myself included, find that their experience is heightened immensely if the lady is enjoying the sex and getting off as well.  Now, there are some providers that this is just not going to happen with. Some gals are simply not interested in breaking down the provider/client barrier enough to actually enjoy the sex.

But thankfully, many of them are!

LG is right, licking pussy is not rocket science. Ask the lady yo are with what she likes. Treat her as you would a civvie partner, not like a rubber fuck doll and remember, it's sensitive down there and every gal responds differently to stimulation.  When it comes to pleasing any lady it is always best to follow her lead.  Relax and have fun!

I live by the premise that the provider (or civie) must be satisfied or act very convincingly that she is satisfied or I won't be back.  A good portion of the satisfaction of making love to a woman is knowing that she enjoyed it as much as you.  Like anything else in life practice practice practice and you will be a good "clit licker" and the gal will be appreciative.

I have a slightly different but realistic answer about satisfying providers.
First of all, I would hope that your objective would not be to solely concentrate on getting a provider off. Most times that can be an exercise in futility.
Despite what most people think providers are not all nymphomaniacs. Not all providers can see 5 different guys in a day and have multiple O's with each. Yes, there are exceptions.
I never make it a goal to get a provider to have an orgasm. I do not DATY in every session. What I will do is to hope to get some arousal out of her when I DATY, but it is never intended to satisfy her. Sometimes it happens, most times not. Just go with the flow.

There is also a different level between a hobbyist and provider that have seen each other multiple times. I think it is important to distinguish the difference between an average session, and a not so average session which comes with having a connection with an ATF or a multiple partner.

BTW, I have never had a provider complain when I did not DATY.
I would not get too wrapped in the scenario.

but what if the provider doesn't speak english that well and you can't communicate if you want it or not, do you do it anyway? and is there an optimal method of datying besides just licking?

Dear PowersD,

Believe me, you WILL understand a woman who tells you in BODY LANGUAGE that she doesn't like something. If you think that words are the only way to signal displeasure, then I'd suggest you get out of the sex game altogether because, boy, do you have a lot to learn in terms of human communications!

NO, THERE ISN'T AN OPTIMAL METHOD OF CUNNILINGUS. Read this sentence 100 times, please and take it to heart. There isn't ONE WAY to lick something, there are as many ways as there are people.

PLEASE STOP FOCUSING ON THIS, BECAUSE IT WON'T MAKE ANY DIFFERENCE. Instead, try to follow the woman's lead. And if she doesn't speak English, she'll indicate with gestures, moans and looks.

Why is this so difficult to understand, I wonder,
The Love Goddess

I was laughing the whole time I was reading it.
I was with a lady last  week, she tells me that our meeting is going to be all about ME! Two hr session, no daty,but just about everything else. I had 2 cups, both russian and she tells me she loves it that way. I apologized at the end for the lack of daty, she don't worry about.

Money is what satisfies your provider. That's why they dod what they  do

as a man I am turned on when a lady responds to me.  It is a huge ego boost if the lady enjoys me as a lover.  Occasionally a session ends up being all about me...  & if that happens, so be it.
Do not expect to be a great lover with no guidance...  so right every woman is individual...  but I like to daty.  In overview, I am the motor but she is the driver.  I give a variety of licks & flicks but I let her move to put what I am doing where she wants it.  Let her lead...  you'll do fine.
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