I would think not that common, but it appears from reviews (more fiction than fact ?) that it's a lot more common that I would have thought, given the circumstances (being at work, time constraint, focusing on pleasing the client, etc, etc.)
I am curious about this.

LG, thanks in advance for any professional insight.

- Twicemidnight




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Providers know that hobbyists often experience more satisfaction from a session if they believe the provider has enjoyed herself.  It's part of the fantasy that they provide.

That's not to say that it doesn't happen. Certainly it can and does when everything is right.

It's not that difficult to tell if a woman has an orgasm.  There are physiological changes that happen and that can't be faked.  But you have to get a little education about what those changes are and that information is available far and wide.

I personally find it a huge turn-off when a provider tries to fake an orgasm.  It ruins the session.  I would much rather she either not try to impress me with her fake enjoyment or let go enough to truly enjoy the session.  The lie is an enormous turn-off for me.



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with me, orgasms are very rare, in or out of the hobby. i may have had one or two with a client since i've been in the business. but honestly, my own orgasms are meaningless to me, they don't enhance my pleasure (the distraction and embarassment of them ruins whatever fleeting physical pleasure they may have brought), and they do nothing to help me serve my clients better.

now that is not to say i do not enjoy sex with clients, i often do, VEEEEEEEEERY much (hehe)...however for a woman, sexual pleasure and orgasm are not necessarily entertwined. the last thing i would ever do is deceive a client and fake an orgasm or any other sign of pleasure. it's important to me that i provide a genuine, honest experience.

Dear TwiceMidnight,
We've had some previous threads on the topic. I'm attaching one, and then including one in the body of this reply. If you can't click on the link, please go to the date it was posted (1/30/07.)
A hot - well, for us on the "non-flaming board" - debate ensued.

Check 'em all out,
the Love Goddess

http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=3955&boardID=20&page=

Good Lord, never. Come on, guys! I saw an interview with a Montreal provider who summed it up best when asked if she ever had an orgasm. She said, "Oh, yes, twice! Once when he pays and once when the door hits his ass one the way out!"

I'm inclinded to believe post by SB1111.  And I don't want this to sound as demeaning as it probably does:  Women who take this profession are certainly "special" in the way they can control their emotions.  So faking orgasms, or even "I like you" is no doubt part of their intellectual and emotional tool kit.  Frankly, I'm new at this but I had intercourse with one woman who contracted her muscles during my orgasm that it just seemed other worldly.  I'm thinking during the entire process (a few seconds!)"that has to be practiced - not natural."   Geez, thinking of this during an orgasm, I think I'm weird too!

If she is "squirting" is it true she is also orgasming?  Or, is it possible to "squirt" without the orgasm?

I have two ladies that I see on a regular basis. One has at least one massive orgasm and one or two smaller ones every session and the other gal has between two and four every session...all of them are achieved oraly. I don't think either lady has has ever had one with me while we were boinking.

My ATF frequently O's more than once a session. I would say at least 15% of the providers whom I've seen actually O'd.

I understand internal stimulation of the G-spot will do so, however, ran across someone who will not squirt from internal stimuation.  It was externally via the clit...why is that?

When I started out in this biz I did not achieve orgasm during appointments, but at that time neither had I achieved orgasm with a civilian partner. Over the past couple months I have actually started climaxing with partners- not always, but fairly often, whether a client or civvie partner. So I think it was just a matter, for me at least, of training my body and getting used to orgasming through partnered activities. I'm sure there is variation, from not ever coming to coming all the time, and everything in between, but for me personally it's pretty freakin' great that I can finally get off with another person. However, I think to some extent ladies feel they have to act as though they came, even if they didn't through no fault of yours.. often there is that pressure, whether from clients or other partners, and I think that pressure/expectation can sometimes make it harder for men or women to reach a climax.

XoXo,
Marea

I strongly agree that I can experience immense sexual pleasure without orgasm- they do not necessarily go hand in hand. I am finally at a point where I do often orgasm with partners, but there are probably just as many times when I don't, and that's not to say it isn't sexually pleasurable.. I think that it is possible to train your body to orgasm differently over time, though, so you may notice things changing in terms of your ability to orgasm through different kinds of stimulation or with different partners.. I think the sexual response is constantly evolving, wee just have to be aware of it.

XoXo,
Marea

Love the chance to try to get you off, Marea!!!!!!!

I know there used to be some sort of hierarchy that was believed to classify different types of female orgasms- clitoral, vaginal, g-spot, etc. I believe they ("they" as in sexologists and other such researchers) have discovered that physiologically all female orgasms are the same in their occurrence and characteristics.. so referring to, say, a g-spot orgasm just means an orgasm induced by stimulating the g-spot as opposed to another technique/location, right? And how about mental orgasm? Here's another question for ya~ how many of you have orgasmed in your sleep or while dreaming? I have, and I feel that it is just as real and intense than real-waking orgasms. Sometimes it is the result of direct stimulation or sexual encounters (within the dream) but otherwise I have had some of my most intense and powerful dreaming climaxes in distinctly non-sexual situations and bizzare contexts. In addition, I've had a couple dreams where I have had a penis and have orgasmed as such- you guys sure do have fun!- although I've never had sex with a female with my male part in these dreams.. Anyone else have interesting experiences with orgasming while asleep?

eom

Whenever a thread like this comes along, all I have to do is remember the famous deli scene in "When Harry met Sally."

We think we can tell when a woman fakes an Orgasm? NOT.  What I've chuckled about is how Meg's partners have felt ever since if she has a big O with them.  Was that one real or not?

I have several regulars with whom I have shared my knowledge of this with. It's true. I can have 5 very different kinds of orgasms from very different kind of stimulation.

#1: The clitoral orgasm.

Usually achieved while DATY. Some times when I am also just stimulating my clit with my fingers masturbating. This is my favorite way to climax. I enjoy stimulating it while I am with a partner, especially during doggy because it does produce some of my best orgsms.

#2: Vaginal Orgasm

This is from straight balls slapping ass sex. If I get with someone who is a decent size, 6 inches or above I can cum this way if they can maintain the "momentum" for at least 7-10 minutes. I know my body very very well and know what it takes to get me off in any one position.

#3: G Spot Orgasm

I have achieved this orgasm very very infrequently due to the fact most men can't find it. They think it's a myth or they are too shy to ask...but I am not too shy to show them where it is!  I have had more of these with my female partners rather than male however.

#4 Anal Orgasm

For a woman who truly loves Greek like I do having the right man put it to me can produce a fantastic anal orgasm. It's different than any of the others . It's more tingly, with me at least. I love the experience because I know that my pussy will be dripping wet with cum when it's over with.

#5 Sensory Orgasm

By far the most difficult and rare of orgasms that I have ever achieved. Have had some while doing tantra and erotic massage but without stimulating the vagina at all. It is correct in saying that we have "control" down there. If I am being stimulated in a sensory fashion...i.e.  Kissing, licking, touching of the skim and especially the back of my neck my "girl muscles" will have a powerful reaction.

This is my favorite orgasm. I have only had 6 in my entire life. I remember every single occasion when they happened. Only one time has it ever been  with a client and I was very very surprised that he took the time to push my buttons that way but damn did he ever reap the rewards of that.

I do know that while I do NOT have an orgasm with every person I am with I will definitely become aroused. I hardly ever have to use artificial lubricant for sex unless it's with someone for a very extended period of time, condoms do dry you out.

I would say that I have had an orgasm with about 75% of my clients. There are some that you just know will never bring you there, they don't have what it takes but the Arousal is still there. I don't believe in faking an orgasm. If someone asks me if I had one and I didn't I will tell them but also make sure they feel how wet I am inasmuch that I may not have had an orgasm but that doesn't mean I didn't enjoy myself.  

Just my perspective.

Alyssa