In this business there is no such thing as zero risk but I'd have to think especially carefully before getting involved in this drama. If she is at risk due to abuse directed at her, do you really want to get mixed up in that? It could go south for you in a hurry. There are too many Dateline stories about this.

That said, caution is definitely your best course of action. Go slow and see how it develops, also keeping a wary eye on whether she is using the deliberate pace to her financial advantage and to your detriment. Rinse seems a very possible course here.

There is a hotness level where I will tolerate some drama and modest rinsing if the payoff is amazing  

But never for a main SB — she is your regular , predictable escape from the real world  

We are all experienced men but some of these women are hella lot smarter than any of us in terms of emotional manipulation

and in this case, while i obviously have no idea how she is, there is still a decent chance she is baiting you as a “white knight” to save her  

Without setting some hard limits on $ support, she will nag you for extras every time you meet and also trauma dump often to incite guilt in you for not helping her enough  

While fairy tales are possible, I would suggest proceed with caution and don’t “fall for her” — keep pursuing other POTs on the side

Drama is never your friend in the Sugar Bowl.  Drama means unpredictability, and that means shit can go down way beyond your control or even awareness.  

 
Domestic abuse is a SERIOUS thing, and the (mostly) women who are victims deserve all the emotional and physical support they can get.  Those needs do not mix well with sugaring.  As she's going through this painful process, she will need good friends and even better professionals (like lawyers, financial advisors, and medical/healthcare providers) to help her move on and ensure she lands safely away from her abuser.  Picking up with a "rando" for casual sex doesn't fit in that scenario. And let's not forget the risk of her soon-to-be ex finding out about you. Do you really want a guy with demonstrated violent tendencies to see you as a serious threat to his life?  

 
I get her attempt to try to fuck her way into financial support while she transitions through a dangerous life crisis. But I need to point out (at the risk of being the asshole in the room) she chose HIM, and he choose HER.   Whatever flawed evaluation process she used to partner with an abuser will likely remain her primary tool for finding a new partner until she has had a LOT of counseling and therapy.    

 
Please do not sign up to be her therapist.  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

Seen similar before.  Several times.  For whatever reason, she can't get away.  But send me money so I can save up for a divorce.  If you like her, keep her at arm's length and see if she can really make a date happen.

Otherwise, keep looking.  Remember, the one you think is the best bet is usually the best actor.

You def don't want to get suckered into being her White Knight or savior.  This is exactly what happened to a buddy of mine some years ago when he got involved with a woman on SA who was an extreme sports pro.  She wound up having some major injuries and he "stepped up" to bail her out in may ways that wound up costing about $30k as I recall.   It also cost him his marriage when his wife noticed the money being spent.  I couldn't understand his attachment to this woman and advised him to cut her loose.  To no avail.  And to top it off, he only had sex with her once!   Cut your losses early when you know you're being used!