Wow this is certainly an eye opener and word to the would-be-wise. No POT no matter how hot, sweet acting and promising is the genuine article until her actions prove so. This experience and some of the others as recounted by Herb [and many thousands before him on these boards] affirms that this space [sex and money] is filled with mentally unbalanced women who will use every manner of persuasion to manipulate you into parting with your cash and your sanity.    

I've personally been robbed several times by POTS I've met on Seeking, as well as have been lied to, psychologically manipulated and continually led on wild goose chases that terminated at dead ends. Anyone in this space has similar stories to tell, but it's worth mentioning again and again that pussy can cloak all reason in the fog of desire. Your spidey senses and critical thinking + patience are your fog lights.  

It's a perilous obstacle course these days and it does not seem to be getting any easier.  

You can't win if you don't play.

Thankfully there are genuine and honest SB's out there who simply want a nice older gentlemen to have fun with and treat them well in exchange for some reasonable financial assistance and some emotional support. In my experience, the hotter the girl the more problems she presents.  

My most reliable and consistent SB's have been reasonably attractive but not beautiful. I think extreme beauty can be a curse, but more importantly, far less obtainable and certainly more fraught with danger than the less attractive, average GND types.  

Proceed with caution, gents, it's a jungle out there.

That’s my experience too  

Nothing as utterly insane as this example  — but entitlement is off the charts  

And man traffic is insanity in LA  / OC - this is why I try to keep my dates on weekend as far as possible  

 I also guard my real name and real phone number like a hawk — even when we are paying at a restaurant I hide my name when handing out the card and make sure if name shows up on the bill it is concealed  

Only after trust is established can they know my identity

Brother netnoy,  

 
I feel your pain... because I have felt it as well in the past.  

 
Sometimes the scammers don't start scamming until after the 1st BCD.  And it usually looks exactly like what you described. You were right to cut bait on this and I agree that blocking and reporting was the best way to try to extricate yourself from the crazy. My guess is she really thinks all of her Johns (I'll get back to why I use that term below) are simps and can easily be brow-beaten and guilt-tripped into shelling out massive amounts of cash over and beyond any agreement for allowance.  

 
Now, sadly, I must double down on your pain and show you how you could have easily avoided all of this. And I mean ALL of it.  

 
Did you do a reverse-image search on her pics? I am guessing you did not. I have three separate services to find profile pics. But I only needed to right-click and use Google Image Search on the 2nd pic in her profile to find her multiple escort ads on h** dot com. One of those lead to another well-known escort ad site (TER will properly not allow me to name it or post the link) under the name of "Therealmaya."  In that add I found that your hard-negotiated allowance of $500 is her standard 1-hour outcall rate.  Her phone number ends in 1319. Her ad specifically states: "NO BARE SERVICES" and her No List is:  
My "No" List: CIM ,   Greek ,   FIV ,   DATY.  

 
So damn, I know this hurts and will make you hesitate with all new POT's before committing.  It should make you hesitate.  As I have stated in the past, in general finding a POT with an escort ad in not necessarily a disqualifier. But if she has no TER reviews, multiple ads in multiple cities and a highly-restrictive "no list" I generally pass.  

 
Rule of thumb: If I wouldn't hire her as an escort, I won't qualify her as a POT Sugar Baby.  

 
One last "tell" that you may have missed in her Seeking profile text:  "I’m seeking a successful man who knows how to treat me like the queen I am."  When she calls herself a "queen" that's a bright orange flag that she will be, at best a GPS POT and will expect a lot more cash than you will be comfortable spending.  

 
My apologies for kicking you (in the nuts) when you are down, netnoy.  But as I mentioned in a previous post: A lesson learned HARD is a lesson learned WELL.  I will speculate that the silver lining here is that your Spidey Senses are now exponentially sharper than they were before you met this train wreck of a POT.  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

Herb,  

Please list your photo search tools again. I need to start doing a deeper dive on POT photos before getting in too deep. I for one don't want to end up with an SB that is also doing escort work. I have used the Google photo search tool but I've not been able to get matches with it, it only brings up shopping page photos with the same outfits/colors of the photo I'm searching.  

Adonis  

NOTE: My TER VIP account has lapsed and I'm not renewing, thus my alias 'Adonis' has been deactivated. Moving forward I will use my regular account name BdrmFun48.  

Bab, very bad, but could have been a lot worse.

Did any of you notice the recent news reports about the two women charged with murdering their sugar daddy, and cutting off his thumb, to keep access to his bank accounts? Link provided.

In my own case, I had what was potentially a narrow escape. Met with a supposedly mid twenties grad student for a M&G. White, blond, slim, attractive but not a head turner, maybe 10 years older than stated. Proceeded to agree on an allowance and go BCD. Met on a different day for first BCD session and paid monthly allowance, for 4 meets. Never saw her again. After she ghosted me, I proceeded to do some internet sleuthing that I should have done before meeting her.  I originally did this routinely, but gave up when (back then) not that many profiles showed results. Got no matches for her photos, but got a hit on her telephone number. Name, phone number and location description matched on sheriff's department arrest records, for:
- Manslaughter
- Child abuse
- Illegal gun possession, and
- Drug possession

Just wow! When I saw that, I had a feeling of relief that I escaped lightly. Maybe those 10 missing years of hers were spent in the big house?

You can search for all of my posts titled: "Let's talk about flags." There are 6 parts and number 6 covers all of the tools and resources I use. The link below will take you to Part 6.  

 
And here's the relevant snip:  

 
Types of tools:  
Photo Research: reverse image search, face match search
- Google, Bing, Tineye, Yandex  
- FaceCheck-id (fees)
Real Info Identification or verification: name, address, phone, email, criminal records, etc.  
- BeenVerified (fees)  
Maps: Location analysis for logical flaw discovery
-Googe, Apple, etc.  
Communication Tools: Diff apps offer certain clues and advantages.  
- WhatsApp, SnapChat, Telegram, Google Voice  

Life is good

 
The Cat

I did an image search.  She used her real number with me.  So I have her actual name.  Not that I'm gonna stalk her.  Just blocked and reported as spam.  

Unfortunately, she still calls and texts from other numbers.  I sent one last warning that I am going to file a restraining order if she does not leave me alone.

I've sent copies of all of it to seeking so I imagine their reports department is annoyed as hell.  Definitely stay away, bitch is crazy!