I’ve done many multi day trips with my regular sugar babies and never paid anything directly to them. They’ve been nice trips where i pay all of the expenses and they get spoiled way beyond their means so the girls were stoked and fucked my brains out for nothing.
When you see the Instagram posts going, you’re in for a treat.Still a bit of a newbie on SD/SB relationships, so for the veterans here that typically do a pay-per-meet, what is your system if/when you take the SB for a 2-3 day mini-vacation? Talking mostly a local trip where the expenses are minimal.
Personally, unless she had told me she needed money for bills while we were gone, or that she was taking time off of work to go with me I would just treat her to a great time and give her a few hundred bucks for "shopping money"
I find the more you treat an SB like a hooker by giving her money based on "time spent" the more they start acting like hookers and start wanting more and more. Once an SB starts charging for "her time" she's no longer an SB anymore, she's an amateur hooker. lol
Agree with Papa GaGa,
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One of the major advantages of the sugar world is the concept of "sugar for experiences" as opposed to "pay to perform certain acts." Part of the attraction for SB's (at least the non-pro's and non-semi-pros) is being able to have a lifestyle "upgrade" beyond their current economic reach. So all-expense paid trips, staying in upscale hotels, eating at top-shelf restaurants and getting bling from their SD are all part of what they are looking for. Take her on a trip to some place she wants to go, in a style she could never afford on her own and she'll be a happy SB. Just unobtrusively look at how often she tweets/snaps/FB's when she 's on the trip and you will know what I mean. My #1 SB is always sending snaps to her besties of her gourmet food, exotic cocktails and premium wines, her wearing some shiny bling, a pose in the lobby of some upscale hotel or a view from the beautiful locations that her friends could never even hope to see. When we get to the hotel room we fuck like rabbits as much and as long as I want (or can manage).
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So offer her a grand experience. Offer her a chance to live the life. And let her know you'll cover any out of pocket expenses she needs to be able to unplug from her job at Burger King or the reception desk, plus some sugar shopping, etc.
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If she really gets hung up on some math formula for "sex X times plus $ per Y non-sex hours" then she's a pro or semi-pro and is NOT looking for the lifestyle. She's looking to get maximum economic benefit for sucking dick. Nothing wrong with that! It's the foundation of establishing a sugar arrangement. But SB's in that mode will probably not enjoy the travel time with you (they may not even like you - they just like your money) and are best left behind in favor of a different SB for travel time.
One SB who I've been dating for a year and a half is going to join me for a 4 day stay on my sailboat in CA in January (assuming the entire state has not burned to a crisp by then). She's a very sensible and no nonsense girl, and actually identifies as being a sex worker. No illusions at all with this one regarding what we are about. So we talk openly about everything and are very comfortable with each other. I've made it clear that I will expect some intimacy with her during her stay, and she's quite ok with this. I usually give her a gift of $200 per visit, but for this vacation, I'm paying for expenses only, plus a $100 gift for pocket money. She's traveling to and from on her own dime! But she needs money for the trip, so I've agreed to give her $500 upfront: two regular $200 gifts which will cover our next two dates after we get back from the trip, plus the $100 pocket money. Normally I won't pay in advance, but she's proven to be extremely reliable and trustworthy, so we'll see. If this goes as planned we will both have lots of fun and it's a bargain deal for me.
Sounds good, but...
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You still risk losing the 500 and one of your top rated SB's. I had a similar situation last year. It wasn't for a travel deal, just a marathon overnight. She said she desperately needed $475 for her kids medical needs (her youngest has autism) and asked me to pay on Monday for a 12+ hour overnight Friday-Saturday. We'd already seen each other doing p4p at $300-400 per visit several times over the previous 3 months and her story about kids, work, housing etc. had been consistent all along. So I had no reason to doubt she'd show as planned.
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But to quote Mike Tyson, "Everyone's got a plan until you get punched in the face."
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She'd confirmed the night before, and again that morning by text. But - NSNC that afternoon. Sent the usual "are you ok?" messages and no response. In fact she's never contacted me since. Her SA profile is still active and I'm not blocked. She just iced me and moved on. I could speculate on why but ultimately who cares? I just went back to SA and found a replacement SB for the open slot in my rotation. Took about 3 days.
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You're taking a risk, but I agree, it's probably worth it.
Prime Directive: Cash is only exchanged in person, after the fun.
To me, it's not worth the risk. I've been asked for cash advances from SBs I've seen on multiple occasions. Demurred, and every time I was iced. I think it is a common tactic to extract money from an unwary SD after a replacement has been found.
Might just be my naivete, but have always felt that if I give a little sugar in advance and the girl stiffs me, she's the one who will ultimately pay the price.
Karma is not a force to be toyed with - LOL
I appreciate all the well meaning cautionary advice, and I too believe in Karma. I'll report on the outcome of this plan around mid January!
It never turned out positive. I was able to stay with some SB’s but I was chasing the extra cash I gave. Looking for the free couple visits I believe I was due. Never got them. Eventually broke it off and moved on. I don’t always pay in advance, but when I do I become less money with my Johnson in my hand. Stay thirsty my friend!
I’ve done many multi day trips with my regular sugar babies and never paid anything directly to them. They’ve been nice trips where i pay all of the expenses and they get spoiled way beyond their means so the girls were stoked and fucked my brains out for nothing.
When you see the Instagram posts going, you’re in for a treat.
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