I am a young male (in my 20's) but I am always only able to get in one cup. I have trouble getting to the second one and even have trouble staying at attention after cup 1 is over. It sucks because I have to take my time and try to hold out to get through a 2 hour appointment and a 1 hour appointment is too short because I like to relax with my date as well. Is it just my body or is there something I can do to help get that mysterious second cup? Sometimes I almost feel like I don't want anymore action after the first one as well. It's wierd. It's like after I pop, I am done. What can I do!?

. . . even in my 20's; never had a desire to pop more often. However, I liked to spread it out into evening (before going to sleep), night (waking up in the middle of the night) and morning. I enjoyed not having to feel the pressure to pop, so that I could have extended foreplay and time to relax. That was when I was with GFs and then wife. Unfortunately, in the hobby we have to watch the clock, which I don't think is conducive to love-making.

I can last, but my problem is that I have to fight to keep from popping in the first 5 or 10 minutes of sex. In other words, I have to schedule a date out so that I don't pop to early, otherwise I waste time and money. Usually an hour and a half works because we can start slow, work up to it, pop and then cuddle for a short while before leaving. I just wish during some appointments I could just go ahead and pop and start working to number 2. With some girls it's hard to last!

You're pretty normal sweetie.  Having had a bit of experience at this from both ends so to speak...

What I've noticed is most guys are done after the first one.  Then there was my favorite guy.  He was 73 and we did it like 5 times in one night!

At the other end of the spectrum is the guy who jacks off before a date and then can never climax, even though your hand, neck and everything else is worn out.

Guys, don't do that, please.  It's frustrating to the girls.  Our sign of succes is when the gyser blows!  We don't run your business for you, so don't do our jobs for us!

Giggle,
TS Jamie

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Hmmmm, mafishman1,

My first inclination would be to agree with other posters..that's just your natural bodily rhythm!

The only other possible culprit might be...drumroll please...masturbation! See below, there's a little threadlet about someone having meetings with Rosy Palm almost daily, and yep, it did put a crimp where none was needed.

Other than that...have you ever thought that for SOME, a second cup might be totally overrated? If they splooge off monumentally the first time, the second time may just be a little disappointing glorp...and what's so great about that?

As you get older, you'll find that it's never the destination, it's the journey that counts. Don't push yourself...practice [and have major fun] with foreplay instead. You can drive a woman half crazy with fingers, tongue, words, etc..and do it over and over again, before releasing those millions of mafishmen from under.

The only other possibility would be if your general health was suffering, or you had an immunological condition such as EBV, CFS or something that impaired your general potency. But we don't know that from your posting, so let's hope for the best. Heck, what about doing one hour appts and checking out different babes on different days? Would that work for ya?

DATY 'til you drop,
the Love Goddess

From day 1 in this hobby I was always a two cup per one hour session guy.  Anything less and I felt I wasn't getting my money's worth.  But over the last year I have been having a hard time getting that second cup finished in one hour and I can't afford two hour appts.  So instead I began prolonging the session as much as possible.  Now, I can usually go about 35-40 minutes non-stop before I finish.  Which leaves enough time to relax with the provider, if that's your thing.  My personal advice is if this is where you might be going (one cup and all), forget about passing Go twice, savor the journey and make it as great as possible.

Having been 29 for so long that I admit to a multiplier I have learned that more often than not "the journey is the destination" and the orgasms (hers and my single one now) are mere checkpoints. Very very nice checkpoints. Interspersed with all the other wonderful occurrences - including friendly conversation.
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PS. Now if the ATF were right here handy, we might just take a little stroll - but she isn't. Tomorrow however...(or the day after...) Mhmhmhmhm