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R - It happens.
I had one SB who lived about 60 miles from me. She messaged me 1st, and despite my initial rejection due to distance, insisted that we meet.
I low-balled the allowance and told her she would have to find a way to get to me on her own. She agreed! Of course, this was waiving several red flags for me. So I gave her the address of a fast-food place near me and told her I'd pick her up there. I arrived 20 minutes early, found a place to park that gave me a full view of the parking lot and waited. She arrived in an Uber - alone. I saw no signs of pimps, thugs, or other allies and after letting her wait alone for 5 minutes brought my car up to her and took her home. The BCD was adequate - after I suggested we both take a shower.
She visited me about 6 more times over the next few months, and eventually she stopped asking.
But the math never made sense... I priced her Uber rides at $70 (with tip) each way, or $140 per visit. Her allowance was $250, which means she was only netting $110 per date. And her travel time was around 90 minutes each way (LA traffic sucks), or 4 hours total trip when you add a one-hour fuck. My speculation is that she just had zero viable SD's in her area.
Life is good
The Cat
A chick paying to come to you has risks too. I hear from enough SB's that guys flake on them all the time. So they could be out the traveling expense and end up with a NCNS.
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One SB told me of the time a potential SD invited her to a restaurant. At some point he excuses himself to the men's room, except actually he headed to the parking lot and took off, then texted her he wasn't interested. Left her at the restaurant without even ordering food. And I met her, so I know she was an attractive girl. Really shitty behavior.
I've met some great girls by letting them drive to me (say, an hour or more). I meet only at restaurants or my hotel so my only real risk is a NCNS as long as I maintain my rule of never sending money up front. I can't even remember a NCNS if I knew they were driving an hour or more.
One girl would drive from Baltimore to DC (her choice, for her discretion) and we saw each other several times.
Last week a girl in Manila wanted me to send money up front (a pittance, really) just to "prove you're real." I simply, and politely, said I never do that and could not do it for her. I also wasn't set on seeing her since I had several other promising girls in the queue.
She had a two-hour drive and she asked what would she do if I didn't show up? I texted back, politely, that that would not happen because we would both be excellent communicators the entire way of her trip (I knew she'd have stop and go traffic), and she could be assured by that that I would not ghost her and she would not ghost me. That seemed to satisfy her. She was awesome in bed, conducted herself properly at all times, and seemed very grateful for the allowance.
Elsewhere I've written that I've even flown girls to me for a first meet a small handful of times. But I've made it clear I reimburse their airfare in person, in cash, when it's time for their allowance. They have to really want to see me and trust me to make that deal. (No, it wouldn't work with a broke girl, no matter how hot.)
For me, the keys are to limit the downside by never sending $ in advance, not setting my mind on that particular girl, and texting enough to filter out the unreliable, devious, and crazy.
Rockford
