Actually, a couple of days.

Two days ago, the hot, LOCAL 22 year old blonde college student met me for coffee after exchanging a few messages. We had a great time chatting; she thinks I'm smart. And, partly thanks to a local partner in crime, was quite happy to arrange our first BCD date a couple of days from now...for $200.  

Today, I drove 70 miles to the nearby "big city", a town of around 500,000 with the flagship campus of the major state university, as well as a sizable community college. And....

1. SB #1 flaked. She was a NCNS for our coffee meet. She's been flakey all along, in our messaging, so this was not exactly a shock, and I pivoted to

2. The lunch meeting with SB #2, who turns out to be a stunning, slim, half-Hawaiian, half black, dance instructor. Gorgeous, smart, chatty, not mercenary, apparently fascinated to talk to me, and, in the end, very pleased with a $200 ppm arrangement. After her divorce, she had a lesbian relationship for a year or two, and they were a DUO on SA "to spice things up", but now they've split up. Oh, the thoughts this provokes! And, she's happy to drive up to my small town  2 days from now, or, "Whenever that helps us get together". Her suggestion, not mine!

3. SB #3,  that I messaged on the way to the "big city" turns out to be a pee four listed pro (Las Vegas based) who's in town for family reasons, leaving tomorrow and it's 250 "roses" while she's in town and advertising on SA. This woman is 2.5 years on TER and an overall 8.6, with a $400/hour rate. She's happy to accept $250 and would gladly go to lunch as well.

4. SB #4, who I saw 2 weeks ago, messages me (while I'm waiting for SB #2 to arrive) that she "misses me" and gives me a detailed list of the days/times she's available this week. Also $200, and she is a tiger in bed, and has no gag reflex .

5. SB#5, who works in my small town, messages me the same "When can you sneak away again to see me?" (I'm married, and she knows I have limited availability). I saw her 3 weeks ago, and she wants to meet again, in her even smaller town north of here.

The takeaways here: (1) 4 months ago, I knew nothing about SA, (2) I read, listened, asked questions here and tried to applied what I had learned, (3) I made mistakes, I got blocked, I was too blunt in some cases, and too oblique in others, overpaid in some cases, and missed a few by negotiating too hard, but I learned to read the signs, (4) I gradually learned that, while SA is totally (TOTALLY) different than TER/pee four, it does, kinda sorta have rules, or at least somewhat predictable processes and responses, (5) unlike client/escort setups, here the CLIENT can set, or at least influence, the rules of engagement, (6) there are more, possibly MANY more SBs than SDs(!!), (7) SDs are in demand, (8) politeness, consistency and the willingness to walk away work well.

I don't know how to summarize all of this, except for two points. When I started seeing TER/escorts I was eventually amazed at how easy it was. You learn the ropes, and it's...easy. SA has a totally -different- learning curve, but in the end, it is in many ways, even easier. You need a LOT more patience, but the rewards are amazing. Once you get a critical mass, you're in a very good place, although you still have to expect and accept glitches. (Note that nothing I am describing got me laid in the past 3 days...but it will soon!)

I retired 2 years ago from a large East Coast city to the small town where I now live. I'm 62. I'm "not repulsive" as GaG says, but also....nearly 63. Women in their late teens to mid-20's are chasing me, telling me I'm "amazing" in the sack (I think I'm average), and seeing me for 3-4 hours at a time (all I can usually "sneak away" for) for half to a third of the comparable provider rate. And there are 5 of them texting me for repeat dates, and there are 3 or 4 more that I have declined to see, plus 3 or 4 on the "potential" list.

I just can't believe it. Keep working on it guys. It's worth the effort.

That’s some serious juggling.  Hats off I don’t think I could keep that up.  
I met a new one yesterday morning at her place $200.  Local 27 year old beautiful long black hair, She wanted it pulled and rough sex and squirts everywhere.  She texted me asking for a return visit last night. So Move to the evening, my stand by girl, little chunky 27 year old but pretty girl. She is submissive and asked me to tie and blindfold her.  Wants me to be nasty all over her, my gosh...incredible.  Now today I have a new one coming into my little city from a small town 90 miles away.  21 year old blond, she’s sent me nasty pics, this should be an oral feast.  
I’m an old guy too.  I will have fucked 3 women in less than 36 hours.  All contacting me, all at least 30 years younger than me.  The bowl has been good to me.

kinda of curious, what what would be your best summary of them?

don't be a jerk  

no gordas, no feas, y no Viejas.  

 
Those are my three inviolate rules for both the Hooker World and the Sugar World alike, and come to think of it, the Civvie world as well. lol

It really is unbelievably amazing to discover the sex positive attitude these SBs have, not to mention the geezer positive attitude.

END OF MESSAGE

Because this shows the good and bad things about the bowl. SB #2, above, who seemed so promising, and who had fun, vivacious conversation with me, told me that she wants to meet me tomorrow, "But it needs to be $500, not $200, although that could change once we're meeting regularly. We can discuss that then."

So, I politely declined, wished her well, told her lunch was fun, and it was nonetheless a pleasure to meet her, because it was. And, then....

I called SB #4, who's happy to "squeeze me in" tomorrow at 1 PM, for our usual $200. And she's a petite fun blonde, with no gag reflex who thinks I'm "Amazing" in bed.

So today, I'll see if I can find a new one who would like to meet for coffee before the BCD meet with SB #4.

And this is kind of a worked example of how I said SA is very different than escorts. SB #2 seemed very pleased with $200-$250 two days ago, but has now totally changed her mind. And deleted her profile. And I have no idea why. And, I do wish her well and will just move on.

And this why the bowl is very frustrating at first. You -must- be flexible, because they flake, they change their minds, suddenly decide "I'm worth much more", or whatever. Until you have that rotation group, this just leaves you SOL. But once you're up the learning curve, you can adapt to these changes.

"And this why the bowl is very frustrating at first. You -must- be flexible, because they flake, they change their minds, suddenly decide "I'm worth much more", or whatever. Until you have that rotation group, this just leaves you SOL. But once you're up the learning curve, you can adapt to these changes."

This parallels my experience...   I have gotten better, but the environment here is more challenging...  I am not sure that the cost-reward balance is not as good...

what does that last one mean?

and for anyone who doesn't know the other two

fea= ugly woman

gorda=fat woman