So I have run into a provider who says it tickles when I lick her, also had another woman in a strip club claim she didn't like DATY because it tickled. The provider was OK with my continuing DATY and said she was enjoying it, but her reaction wasn't encouraging me, so I cut it a bit short.

Has anyone else had an experience like this? Any recommendations? I really clicked with this provider and love to warm us both up with DATY, so trying to figure out how to get it right so we can both enjoy, if possible.

Is it possible that if I keep going, the tickling would subside or become over ridden by more pleasurable feelings?

Well, cabeachbum,
That ticklishness you're describing is not that uncommon in women. For some, it's a certain kind of sensitivity that translates in "tickling" sensations.

Yes, you are right - for some, the ticklishness can be overcome and actually translate into pleasure. But getting there...hmmm. It really depends if the provider is willing to relax into it. Not all women are, providers or not.

We also need to think of receiving cunnilingus as an act that involves psychological "submission." This means lying down and NOT controlling the action while opening up to another, literally and figuratively. And if the woman does have a hard time relaxing in that position, DATY may not be for her. Some women's clitorises are so sensitive that a mere puff of air can translate into discomfort. And others will beg you to almost chew on it!

If you ask and she begins to squirm or show no particular enthusiasm, then she's probably not entirely into it. And then it becomes up to you to continue the liaison, or not. Those are the benefits of paid sex - YOU can decide if you want to pay for an experience that may feel limited to you.

Happy trails,
the Love Goddess

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You'll need sort of a long tongue though.

It is a fact that one can not tickle oneself. (Go ahead, try it.)  So, have her reach down and grab your tongue and rub it against her.  This should alieviate the tickle reflex.

After a (hopefully short) while, she may be able to hold your head instead of the tongue itself and still obviate the tickle reflex, then, by degrees, let you go solo.

You have to admit it would make an interesting experiment, and might even get you into an Academic Journal!

My ATF loves DATY. In fact, she prefers it to penetrative sex. That being said, I can't just dive in and lick away without being in tune to her reflex's and sensitivity.  Once or twice I have done something that "tickled" and even though she said it felt good I could sense her moving away if she felt that I might do the same thing again. The obvious solution is for me not to do it again and move on to another maneuver. Not a problem since there are so many positions and variations that we both enjoy.

I enjoy giving my fav multiple orgasms but I am also aware that her clit becomes more sensitive after each O and eventually pleasure can become pain if I over do it.  

Communication is key here.  I've always enjoyed DATY but only recently have I met a few great ladies who are very honest with me about what works for them and what doesn't.  It helps us both enjoy the experience to the fullest.

from favorite ladies about this. She'll be pushing on his forehead to get him to lighten up and he pushes harder! She'll be trying to move away from him and he'll pull her toward him. She'll move to try to "direct" him to the right spot and he'll move to "where" he was. Based on my conversations, this is a really frustrating topic to many ladies. How simple is it, really, after all, just to respond to the lady's cues?

who was very ticklish. I didn't know quite what to make of it at first, but she assured me that she wanted me to continue very gently. She sort of "coached" me without being a traffic cop. It did take a while, but it did seem to turn to pleasure for her. Getting to that point was kind of fun. Of course, she was giggling, which made me laugh. It really was a fun experience.

If you do, it might be the reason.

I really don't like to get DATY from guys with beards or moustaches.

Not only tickles but also I get irritated after prolonged DATY.

Shave IT!!! lol

You brought up a great point. I have facial hair and I'm convinced that I wasn't allowed to perform at the "Y" a couple of times because of it. What a quandry! I LOVE to DATY, but many people have told me how much better I look with short facial hair.

What to do??