So sometimes we get into discussion with SB about what sort of things we find erotic (as opposed to talking about what we expect in a session.). I find that often if you just mention "a little kink" that's like exposing a little string that when you tug on it you get an explosion ... she'll quickly escalate admission of her burning desire to get tied up, slapped, nipple clamped etc.  If you're into that, you just have to expose that string a bit and tug on it. It's almost 50/50 among the SB's I've seen.

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One person's kink is another person's plain vanilla. But I do know what you mean.  My newest SB is a tall, model pretty girl who has a demanding school/home/work life.  But when we're together she wants me to pull her hair, hard, and slap her butt, hard, and of course fuck her brains out, hard.  Extremely submissive.  Is that kinky or just good old fashioned fun?

you're a caveman.  The cavemen really knew how to slap their women around.  Usually, modern kink is distinguished by sensual overload and a slow build up to a major O.   Women that want to be a punching bag have usually never experienced classic sexual domination, and therefore have a distorted idea of what its all about. Next time you give her a good beating, check and see if her pussy's wet. There's your answer on whether she really enjoyed it or not.  

 
I have known a few girls that claim to be able to O from being paddled on their bare ass, but I have met many more that will respond better with a much more explosive O to restraints, a blindfold, and a light, teasing touch to various erogenous zones with everything from fingers, to metal objects, to ice cubes.  When they let you put cuffs or other restraints on them, or insert objects into their pussy that they can't see coming because they are blindfolded, then you know you have a real submissive.  However, they have to be comfortable that you know what you're doing and trust you completely not to injure them.  Spanking and hair -pulling to not build trust.  In fact they often achieve the opposite.  You have to ask yourself if the abuse you think she likes isn't just her way of punishing herself for selling sex.    

The massive popularity of Shades if Grey among women worldwide prove that it's an inborn impulse. Of course it varies among individuals. Some women are the opposite, dominatrix.  Some life experience may add or subtract from the impulse, but it is there in some form for many nonetheless.