I had a session recently with one of my ATF's; I've been seeing for 3+ years and IMHO the passion is gone. My session with her this evening was for an hour, but I was in and out in approx 20 minutes. She seemed to be in a big rush and told me she would be calling me in about week to set up another appointment. IMHO, if the passion is not there it's time to move on. My dilemma, how to tell her the passion is gone and I want to move on. Should I just stop returning her calls or do we need to talk this through.

IMHO, ladies who stay in this business long enough, tend to change in ways they may not notice, but their clients do.

BTW, I met another gal a couple of days ago and she just blew my away.....definetely ATF, GFE, material.

Dear giddyup1979,

I can understand that this is a frustrating issue for you but evolutionarily speaking, the passion SHOULD more or less be gone in 3+ years, perhaps more on her side of the fence than yours, since this is a job for her and perhaps doesn't carry the same "naughtiness factor" that it does for you.

And...true to evolutionary form, you have now met ANOTHER gal that "blew" you away [pun, hehe]. Isn't it nice how Mother Nature has a way of working these things out? No harm, no foul...just move on.

Which brings me to your advice-seeking question: should you "just stop returning her calls?" Excuse me, but who is the seller and who is the buyer here? I can't believe that SHE is calling YOU for setting up appointments. Why? Is she dialing for dollars? Aren't you in charge of the process? Whew...in my day, a refined courtesan would NEVER deign to call on a gentleman...why should she, since she had so many that eagerly waited to see her...my how times have changed!

Ok, so back to the new millennium then. Personally, I wouldn't call back, but that's crass little me. "Talk it through?" No way. What is there to "talk through?" This is sex for money and not some sort of relationship counseling. The fact that you were willing to spend your discretionary funds on one particular girl more than others is nice, but it doesn't mean that you were married. OTOH, if you are the emotional sort, then I guess call her back and say that you no longer are interested in seeing her. Thank her for the lovely times you've had and then hang up. And don't let your next ATF become in charge of the process.

And they say that evil johns dominate poor downtrodden sex workers...sheesh,
The Love Goddess

I'm just kidding, of course.  But you've managed to bring all the drama and angst of a relationship into something that's supposed to be free of all those things.

Sure, it can creep into a provider "relationship" if you keep seeing the same person for three years straight, but that's why most guys venture forth after a while so they don't just duplicate with a provider, what they're trying to escape from in real life.  

And yes, some providers will start to get client fatigue after such an extended period of time.  After all, you chose her, she didn't get to chose you.  You may have been experiencing "passion," but she may have just been doing her job.  At some point, you've just got to know when it's time to move on- she'll be just fine.

But you do have my sincerest  congratulations for not saying that after three years you had fallen in love with her.  Because that means you'll be just fine too as soon as you book an appointment with someone new.

I think at first she was looking for something much more than the provider/client relationship. I've always kept it real. I'm not looking for a permanent Girlfriend, just want to experience a GFE for an hour or so and I leave.  

She has invited me over to her house a few times, and given me her private phone #. Maybe it's time for a long break.

Don't keep paying for something that you are no longer enjoying.  You don't owe her any explanations. Just stop calling/seeing her.  If she persists in calling you (she may try once or twice, after that she's out of line) then tell her to stop.

I once had a slightly similar situation (although not based on three-year client relationships). I told several providers that I had met a new lady with whom I felt that close that I did want to see only her; hence they (the previous ones) would not get calls from me anymore. All of the previous providers appreciated my telling them and wished me good luck for the future. Just to disappear without explanation seems impolite to me.

and doesn't that mean, no call necessary, no matter how long you've been seeing her. Your posts started started to read like BF/GF not GFE.
A good period of sport fu*king will cure you of your ills. Good luck.

There is nothing wrong with trying to do the gentlemanly thing but quite often it will bite you in the ass.  Some ladies get quite upset when you tell them that the gravy train is pulling out of the station.  

It really depends on the situation.  I have stopped seeing many women with no final contact. I have also had long-time favs disappear with absolutely no hint that they where quitting or a goodbye.  It's part of the hobby and part of the provider's need to close a chapter of her life in many cases.

I have an ATF that I ma quite fond of and have seen every two weeks or so for almost three years now.  If I decided to move on at some point in her case I would definitely say something to her. It's one of the few times in my hobbying life that I have felt that way.

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You could also try the:  "It's not you, it's me." routine.

I tried that once.  It worked for about a year, but now I'm going to be seeing that gal again next weekend.

What can I say?  It's my nature.

i think that will take care of the issue in a nutshell.  thank goodness u arent one of the ones who has 'fallen in love'.  if she is a professional she might regret the loss of your business and feel a tinge of regret at the loss of loose friendship and contact, but this IS the no drama, NSA business.  You dont owe any explanation if u are uncomfortable, but it would be polite to at least be upfront.  While I am against any sort of disrespectfulness being shown to a provider, I am also a strong proponent of respecting the client.  You pay for the entertainment, not ANY hassle or uncomfortableness whatsoever.  Union rules .

"It's not you, it's me!"

Doesn't help at all!

How about this one "you're basically a good person"  WTF!  Last week you loved me

Just decide to seek out others. If you still want to see her in 3-6 months, give her a call.

You don't need to tell her anything. If you don't enjoy the service anymore, get it somewhere else. It's a business. She'll understand.