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The Hotwife?
herbtcat 6 Reviews 1011 reads
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In the last week, I've seen the term "hotwife" used in about 3 newer profiles., I had to take a detour through the Urban Dictionary to find out what that means, besides the obvious (i.e.: A hot married woman looking for a SD).  

 
So in general, "hotwife" refers to married couple where both of them agree to, and want to, share the hotwife with other men. This can take any of several models:  
1. Married couple with another (married or dating) couple - I think this is what us old guys used to call "swinging,"  
2. A male, presumably a SD in this case, who joins the hotwife and hubby for activities. The hubby can be either bi and join in, or straight and presumably watch or bring another female along - this sounds close to the Polyamorous lifestyle to me.  
3. A hotwife who meets SD's for activities with the permission of, but not the presence of, the husband - the more typical "married but looking" POT?  
4. (Seen on one hotwife profile): A single female who wants a "hotwife" vibe. Not really sure what that means, as she didn't provide any other details - isn't that really what we call a SB with multiple SD's (i.e.: 70% of the SB's)?  

 
I'm not married, was never married, and will never be married. And I've never dipped my toe into the world of fucking married women (except that one time on a cruise ship...).  So this term is new to me. But it seems that the "hotwife" concept has entered the Sugar Bowl, just as other (are they?) niche groups like BDSM, FinDom, Trans, Poly, etc.  

 
I'm not sure this is inherently bad or good - although generally, I think it's better to be inclusive of anyone who is interested, rather than trying to put up barriers to consenting adults who want to explore sugaring. However, I would prefer to have the option to filter in or out on these criteria. SA does provide Tag filters (include or exclude) on Trans members, although a Trans member can slip past these by not using the tags.  

 
The search function for paid members allows us to search by the presence of a keyword (include profiles with "keyword").  So searching for "hotwife" works (found 8 in a 100 mile radius of me).  And for hotwifes this may be redundant as I can also search for "married, but looking," but it's not quite the same as hotwife.  However, there is no exclude keyword function (do not include profiles with "keyword").  Should there be an exclude keyword function?  

 
So, what's your experience? Have you seen "hotwife" profiles? have you met any? Would you meet for one BCD? Would you enter a long term arrangement?  Do you see the power dynamic of a SD and Hotwife SB as different than the more usual "older SD, younger & single SB arrangement? Does that matter?

 

Life is good

 
The Cat

DeClemente88 reads

Some platforms or programs allow it by you placing a minus sign just before the word or phrase. For example: -hotwife, -hotwives, -hot couple, -married couple seeking, and so on.

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herbtcat120 reads

When I placed a minus sign "-" in front of the word "-hotwife" I get the same results as without it. I also tried adding a space "- hotwife" with the same result.  

So I don't think SA has implemented boolean logic in the keyword search field. :(  

I went on to test "+".  1st I searched for "wine" and then I searched for "wine + travel." A boolean search should give me all profiles with the word "wine" plus all profiles with the word "travel." Instead I got all profiles with "wine" AND "travel."  

So adding multiple keywords always acts as an AND modifier, not a OR modifier.  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

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lester_prairie101 reads

Where the husband is aware and watches the wife fuck?
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I like fucking married women, but only if their husbands don't know about it.

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girlfan1959117 reads

I agree. my hot neighbors don't want their husbands to know. Washing up while still together was standard. One lady did not, and wanted to me her bed her so that she would be obvious about it with husband while she was still wet from me, but she was was very much the exception.

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liqq6383 reads

a couple years back on SA.  Although she didn't identify herself as a "hotwife" on SA, I'd say that yes, that was what she was.  In this scenario, she entertained me while the hubby watched from where I couldn't see him.  She was totally my type and an incredible lover.  Had three dates with her before she ghosted.  When she and I had the intro coffee date I told her that my only reservation was that I hoped her hubby wouldn't empty a loaded gun in my direction.  But he was totally cool.  We'd all meet for drinks in a pub, then she'd return home to "get ready", and he and I would follow shortly after.  Once at their home, he'd disappear, and she was all over me.  I suspect he watched from outside on the dark patio through the undraped slider to the bedroom.  She wanted some pocket mad money and was totally down with what I offered, but the hubby was not to know about the gift.  On the 2nd and 3rd dates, she told me that she'd spent some of my gifts on the sexy lingerie she was wearing, and damn she looked hot in what she'd chosen!  I still get a smile on my face just thinking about this one, so heck yeah, I'd have continued to see her given the opportunity.  There was no "power dynamic" here...just pure lust going both ways.    

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GaGambler86 reads

One of my more enjoyable arrangements, and one that lasted well over a year, was with a late 30's "hot-wife" who had lost her low-paying job and was looking to replace the income with the knowledge and blessing of her husband.

 
She was very attractive, loved to fuck, loved to suck dick even more and was a "swallow bird" AND the income she needed to replace was only about $300 week for which she was willing to see me multiple times each and every week.  

 
As for your other scenarios, I have less than zero interest in swinging, cuckolding, etc. I have to admit I am NOT really into fucking married women either, but in some circumstances where it's "just sex" and he and her are fine with that I have to say it has worked out just fine for me.

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