And this is not because I know you personally and intimately. Well maybe.

Have you ever considered that she may be bisexual? I have questioned many many men on this fact in regards to their wifes. Many women have bisexual tendencies that they feel ashamed and or emberassed about and are too afraid to talk to their husbands about it. This is just my opinion but Porn is not usually the way to go.

Most women that I know do not watch porn for the simple fact that most of them know that it is completely unrealistic to 90% of women. Most women do not give 30 minute blow jobs. Most women do not beg you to stick it up their arse.

If her sexual skills are lacking perhaps you should just come out and be honest with her about it. Tell her that you don't get off very good when she sucks your dick and you would rather she do x, y, or z to make it better. Then talk to her honestly about the things that you do to her.

An open line of comminucation can do wonders for people. Put all the bullshit aside and just open up and talk to her about it. If she wants to know "how you know so much" just tell her that you experimented in college, watched porn or something like that.

I wish you like my friend but just know I will see you in a few weeks for a full oral report!

hugs and kisses,

Rae

Dear Packman14,

First of all, I'd take Rae Monroe's posting below to heart, as she has some very good insights. In agreement with her observation, I can tell you that women don't learn to give good blowjobs from watching porn. The way women engage sexually is through feedback inspiration...in other words, by enthusiasm and encouragement from the other party - in this case you.

If you want your wife to expand your mutual repertoire, then you'll need to communicate deeply and honestly about your likes and dislikes and then encourage her to do the same. Always offer lots of praise for what she CAN do, while gently asking her if she wouldn't mind experimenting a little to spice up your sex life together. With this, I don't mean watching porn. You have to remember that women are sexually wired slightly differently than men. They respond to intimate touch, scents and aural stimuli more than pure visuals. Thus, if you want her to become more proficient, you'll need to participate on a much more active level than you would with a professional who is engaging in a seasoned performance. Put chocolate sauce on your penis, dip it in honey, ice cream, ask her to lick it off, read a sexy story to her to get her going...you'll really need to use your imagination and become very inventive in your pursuit of stimulating her to perform differently from what she has done in the past.

Now, it may be that you prefer to be passive, as with a professional who gives excellent blowjobs...in which case you can ask your wife if she wouldn't mind some role-playing. There are zillions of games you can act out, where you are the passive one and she the active. All of these options need to be negotiated in a very different way than when you pay for a sexual service executed by a professional. As for "how you know so much," that's not even part of the equation. You aren't going to give her a lesson, you are going to try to get HER to figure out what turns you on when SHE does things to you.

Finally, there is no harm in letting your partner know that your sex life is stale and in need of sprucing up. It happens to just about every couple. The fact that you will be able to discuss it with her and stay open is half the battle. But having her become a better lover entails your participation as well - otherwise, you'll have to stick to professionals who serve up their sexual menu for a fee.

Happy spelunking,
the Love Goddess