I was chatting and texting with a gorgeous young lady on Seeking and she is eager to meet.  She is 19 years old.  I'm in my mid 50s and I think to this point the youngest SB I have been with was maybe 28,  This young lady seems mature, is definitely my type and wants the same kind of arrangement as me (something discreet and BCD - I think she just wants extra money for school).  Is it a good or bad idea to move forward?  

If you aren't comfortable don't do it.  I'd also ask for her ID.  I stick to over 21.  Even if they have a fake ID, they are still probably college age.  I take them to a bar and have them order a drink expecting the server to card her.  

Im 67. I like them 25 and over but Ive seen several 23 and 24 yo.

The law assumes that by the time a person is 18yo they have the maturity and good judgement to make their own decisions, including decisions about their sex life and relationships.  But as we all know, that arbitrary age limit is unreliable.  We've all met older women who are basket cases, as well as younger teens who are remarkably self aware.   That said, if you are attracted to a younger potential sugar baby, I say proceed, but with caution.  Go slow, and make sure your intent is to follow Dan Savage's Campsite rule:  always leave your lover in better condition than you found her. She has her own reasons for being attracted to a much older man, reasons she is eager to explore, reasons you may learn more about as things progress. Practice consent impecably, recognizing that the power/age/knowledge imbalance means that the burden of care is on you, and you are responsible for guiding the relationship carefully.  Honesty, respect and affection are keys that make any relationship work, but especially when there's a big age gap.  I've dated quite a few SBs in the 18-25 range and enjoyed some delightful arrangements. For me, the big age gap is exciting.

I have dated SB's from 18 to 40.  Each woman who choses to Sugar Date has her own personal mix of reasons and motivations, and a good SD will take care to understand those reasons and ensure that, as Papa Sweet notes, he leaves her better than he found her.  Assuming she is acting on her own and is not under duress (from a pimp, or other) and is not fostering bad intentions (like scamming you, or working to harm you in other ways), the real question is can you find enough common ground to maintain an ongoing relationship.  

 
That does not mean she needs to be able to discuss 21st century geopolitics and economic strategy with you in a meaningful way. It means you need to have at least some genuine interests in common at some level.  That will enable you both to enjoy spending time together and will allow true affection to develop (beyond the ego-boost of fucking a nubile 19-year-old silly on a regular basis).  Just like dating any woman at any age, give respect and ask for respect.  

 
I have had at least 3 long-term (3+ years) arrangements with women who were 18 or 19 when we met. Were they perfect? Nothing ever is. But they were fulfilling for each of us and definitely FUN!  

 
Please let us know what you decide.  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

I met a girl on snapchat (see my previous post) and found out she is 19. I'm mid-40s.  

Got to know her. She has a 6 month old kid with shared custody. Steady job. Just super busy.  

She doesn't have time for the standard dating BS with teen to early 20 guys. She wants sex, just no drama and a little spending cash is a nice benefit.  

We have had 4 BCD meets and she seems to be a great option for my bench.

Good for you. I don't know how you do it but I am very jealous. I would love to know how you describe yourself in your profile.

Robin