You have an interesting approach in that you actively refer your chat buds to your current or past SB's.  That's something I would never consider for my SB's.  Not calling you out.  It works for you.  

 
But I have to wonder if you discussed the referral with her before you shared her deets?  I can see why she may have been upset if she was "blindsided" by this. Did your buds tell her they got her info from you?  

 
Also, the promise of including public activity being unrealized is something I've experienced as well.  It's frustrating on more than one level. Not only do you not get to have those fun experiences outside of BCD, but it speaks to her lack of honesty or at best her lack of understanding of what she really wants in a sugar relationship.  In my experiences these arrangements tend to eventually end as a result of diminished results versus expectations.   On the other hand, maybe she just realized she liked my money more than me. LOL  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat