Once I rent a hotel, I've never had a no-show.  I have one no-show on a public meet.  I think if you have established a good understanding that there will be sex, you are less likely to have a no show.  If the possibility is still up in the air, then I think the possibility of cold-feet is also more likely.

... Many here have suggested that you choose a hotel that ideally:  

 
1. Offers half-day rates - typically check in around 2 pm and check out around 7 pm, and  
2. Can be booked same-day without a paid reservation.  

 
Then you book the room only after you get a text that she's "on her way."  

 
There are also mobile phone apps that can be used to find last-minute room deals within your metro area.  Search your app store for hotel rooms.

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

I've found that a surprising number of SBs are very happy to host our visits at their homes. When that's  not possible I guess I'm the only guy here who hosts SBs in his RV.  The RV is a really cozy, private spot for an intimate rendezvous.   The girls all seem to get a big kick out of it too.  I'll park the RV in a big shopping area parking lot, where it's very anonymous, just another traveler stopping to shop.  She meets me there at the time and place and we have a great time, very much BCD, and with all the comforts of home.  I avoid hotels for the reason you mentioned, the very real possibility of a no show.  Also the RV costs less to drive than a hotel room. (But not much less at 8mpg!) Plus I feel conspicuous walking through a hotel lobby, not a problem with the RV. Additionally, I have dated several SBs who did not have a car.  So it's convenient to pick them up in the RV and then drive to a comfortable location to park for a while.  One possible drawback to the RV idea is that many parking lots these days have security patrols who are instructed  to enforce no overnight parking policies.  I always prefer to meet my dates during daylight hours anyway, so it's usually not a problem.  But if you're going to be out after dark you do have to be very sure they won't chase you out.  I've had literally hundreds of dates in the RV and it works great.  

I don’t personally have this problem as I’m always traveling so I’m already in a hotel (and I don’t play on my home turf). I would plan on hosting in a hotel but wouldn’t book it till the last minute. Go out to dinner and enjoy yourself. If you decide to go bcd, pop open your phone and you can have a room booked in less than a minute. If she no-shows or it doesn’t work out, no harm, no foul and you aren’t out anything.