First off sorry if anyone is offended by my alias name.  

This morning I was supposed to meet with a potential SD. Yes, I am a provider, yes I do have a job outside of providing. I started providing after being in a relationship with a SD and it ended. Over the past few years I have become a little jaded so I want to take time off from providing and just be myself. I enjoy having the SD/SB relationship because it's like a boyfriend without the hassle of doing his laundry and picking up after him.  

So we were scheduled to meet for coffee quite early in the morning. I wanted to respect his time so it was earlier than I would normally meet someone. He was running late and he sent me an email acknowledging that. I arrived on time, ordered my coffee and waited at a table near by. After 10 mins had passed and I finished reading my news online, I proceeded to check my email and noticed he sent me an email that he had left. He did give me an excuse as why, but that still doesn't make me feel any better.  

Should I feel as if it was something I had done or just chalk it up as a lesson learned.  

As a provider I know what is expected of me, I am not paid for my thoughts or opinions. If someone cancels last minute I place them on my DNS list and move on. As a SB though that's a whole different ball game. If I am meeting someone then they are getting me. Who I truly am as a person, no fake smiles, or acting as if I am interested in what they have to say. I am actually wanting to be there and spend time with them.  

So should I be upset that I got stood up, or maybe my ego was just a little bruised as I have yet to be stood up for a "real" date?  

Thanks,
Feeling hurt

SA has more flakes than a box of cereal or an avalanche of snow lmao. Don't take it personal but also don't go out of your way or normal routine for a POT until you have met them or made a connection. Many SDs and SBs are all talk so you have to balance being open and being guarded until someone shows you they are worth your time. Arrangements are supposed to be mutually beneficial and fun.  

Don't get discouraged but also keep your expectations realistic and don't put all your eggs in one basket, just like you would with your normal clients  

Good luck.

So, it's not a NCNS, at least.

Life happens, and maybe he had a legit excuse.  I'd be bummed also, but this is part of the life we lead.

Don't let it sour you for much longer

Do you mean he actually came, didn't like what he saw and just left? If that was the case, it was very rude of him. I had several meetings with some SB's that I knew right away would not work out after seeing them. Still, I politely sat through our lunches/coffees/drinks. At the end, I just said nice to have met you and that was it. I could also tell right away if an SB was not into me. This had happened a few times. They were all nice enough to stay until the end of our M&G. What he did was really low-class IMO.

That was not the case. He left due to seeing his significant others best friend where we were scheduled to meet. He sent me a nice complementary email as he was leaving.I guess, I would feel differently had he said "Hey, I have a conflict of interest in here can we meet somewhere else" or have been honest with me and I would have set our meeting at a public place that was a little more private.  

I look just like my SA profile pictures as they are all selfies that I change about every few weeks. So most people tell me I look better in person.

First you say he emailed that he would be "running late", then you say you ordered coffee and waited at a table, only to find out ten minutes later that he had "left" Left where? Left his house? Left to go to work? I am really unclear about this and I really can't formulate a response without being clear on what actually happened.

If it was a matter of simply getting stood up, but stood up with both an email he was running late and then that he couldn't make it at all, those things do happen, both in the P4P, the Sugar and the Real world.  

Now if I am reading between the lines to infer that he actually showed up, saw you sitting there and then left the restaurant without so much as a hello. Yeah, I'd be pissed. If that really did happen I do have to ask, are your pics an accurate representation of what you actually look like? I have had "first meets" where the girl was a good fifty pound heavier than her pics, I never actually walked out on any of them like I would if she were a hooker expecting to get paid after lying about her appearance, there were a couple where I have to confess I was tempted.

3 years ago I had arranged an early evening date with a POT SB and I was also running late which of course I had kept her abreast of my later than scheduled arrival (about 15 mins) due to bad traffic. Once I got to the venue and while waiting for the valet (a popular complex of restaurants and bars in Del Mar) I saw my Ex getting out of her car about 6 cars or so ahead of me!!! I should've never picked that place to start with because it was not only a Saturday eve thing when epople are always out and about (I knew that the Ex would be hanging out with her BFFs) geographically closer to the Ex's than my own but it was a convenient and easy to locate place for this POT SB. Luckily, I had enough room to back the eff up a bit, do a U turn and get out of the valet line!

I called the POT SB and told her the predicament which I had just encountered and also told her that if she wanted to cancel, I would totally understand and give her a rain check but I also suggested to her that she could get her car from the valet and meet me at another venue literally 10 minutes up the road. She was both understanding and a good sport so she agreed to my alt suggestion. I went through the date but my mood was already soured and I know that she had picked up on that neg vibe. Although the POT SB was pretty in the face, sadly she was a few pounds too large for my shallow taste but in order to remain a Gent, I did offer her another date which she accepted. Sadly, somehow she looked larger on the second date and I just thought that I could not go to the next phase with her. Thereafter I went on a totally silent radio mode after we parted ways.

It happens and it sucks at both ends. "Dating" and courtship has such consequences when elements stack up against you specially when one person is more into the other, as opposed to bot being on the same page. Take it in your stride and dust yourself off.

Yes, Ga he showed up and not as much as a hello. My pictures are accurate as I change them all the time on SA every time I change my hair. The last thing I want is for someone to expect to meet a lady with long hair but I just cut my hair for charity which I do once a year.  

I fully understand his SO's BFF being in the coffee shop but I feel like he could have went about it a little different. It's not very often I wake up at 3:30 in the morning and put a face full of make up on and get dressed to have coffee at 6 am.

I would have been totally game to meet somewhere down the road. I completely understand that things like this come up, but to not even offer the opportunity for us to meet somewhere else is just rude.  

I have had provider appointments where the restaurant we were meant to meet at was full of my work colleagues it takes a quick email or text to change locations.

First off, I wouldn't be fucking around on my SO at all with an SB, but that's just me.

All he had to have done was to tell you that because of situation he couldn't come in, but he could have suggested you simply change venues. Flaking on someone at any time is rude, but to flake on someone who got up at 3:30 in the fucking morning is inexcusable.

I'd be tempted to reschedule someplace fifty miles out of his way and then once you knew he was there, I'd send him a "Fuck you" text to let him know how it feels.

Oh well, people can be rude, I wouldn't let one jerk ruin me for the whole site, maybe you should stick with single guys for the time being though? lol

Still fairly new to SD/SB scene but have been canceled last second several times now. After messaging for a few days set a dinner date, made reservations and about 2 hours before the meet I get a text she can't make it because a client needed her hair done. Obviously she is a hairdresser, and I had previously made an appointment to get a haircut the following week already. I went ahead and honored my commitment and met her in this setting for our initial introduction. Things were nice and friendly, she had an attractive face but was about 30 lbs heavier than represented, so I think I actually may have benefited by her canceling on me. The most recent one was a young gal where we had been in contact for about a week, she texts me and says she can meet that evening in a couple hours.  I respond and give her a time and place and then nothing....no response...no show..A week later she texts and say sorry I didn't get back to you and wants to know if I am still interested. I let her know at this point it's entirely up to her, pick a time and place and follow through on it and I will be there. She has fully met my expectations and haven't heard from her since, even though I see her online quite often and is still viewing my profile. Go figure. Not that every experience has been bad, my two current SB's are really great and but it's taken some time to find them. Good luck, there are some good ones out there.

Please note that I was merely sharing a story on here regarding bumping into someone from one's present or past.

What that POT SD did as you have accounted for that experience was wrong.

I did not think you were playing the Bro card. I thought your story was quite humorous and you handled the situation like a gentlemen.  

Thank you for sharing your experience with me.

Kissmyazz you will learn the Princess is the kindest, most gentlest SD on this board.

END OF MESSAGE

Above and over getting some recognition as the "kindest" and the "most gentle" (thank you very much) I would like to also be recognized as respected

Truth is, almost everyone get a fair chance from me including hookers and SBs. Too bad that when I was active on TER, I got burned more often than not by hooker misrepresentation. I never got into SugarBowl to save $$$ per se, as I have no problem dishing out 500 for a session, but I naturally would like to get better odds of returns on my play fund$ plus I would like to see if I'm going to be physically attracted to the person I would most likely end up being intimate with. I kid you not if I tell you that when engaged in hobby I got used to leaving the donation for the provider without wanting something in return when i had realized that I made a bad decision or that I was duped.

I'm not saying what he did is right, he should have texted and said meet me elsewhere.

I walked into a bar with an SB once and my basement renter was sitting at the bar. I turned and dragged my date out before he could spot us, but I remember the feeling.

Many guys are very new to this and haven't thought everything through. Every place is smaller than you think. Someone will run into you. Guys need to have an excuse ready. I am interviewing people for my next project, some happen to be millennials.

If the guy really apologizes and makes it up to you, he's cool. If he doesn't know he fucked up, dump him.

I don't think there is any doubt that folks respect you and appreciate how open, revealing and honest you are about your feelings, views and adventures.

Just curious as to how long you both messaged or emailed one another before meeting? So far, everyone that I've gotten far enough along to actually set a day and time and location to meet has had my cell phone and we've already communicated via text.  
So, I'm just clarifying that neither one of you had each other's cell phone number in order to contact each other in case of a last minute change of plans or change of location?  
And if you didn't exchange numbers, is there a good reason to not do that? Thx

No we did not exchange cell phone numbers. He asked for my email or a cell phone number and I choose email. This is because if we met and we didn't click and he discovered my online personality I didn't have to run the risk of being stalked by phone.  

I had a gentlemen one time that I met on what's your price.com we went to dinner and a show. I didn't care to meet with him after as our personalities didn't click and different political views. He later discovered I was a provider on p411 and had the nerve to ask for an okay. When I told him he could schedule an appointment he blew my personal phone up. After that I decided to choose wisely who I gave my number too.  

It didn't matter that we didn't have each other's number as we both have email on our phones.  

I've read the previous replies and agree with most of what's been said.  I have my own stories of being stood up, and it sucks, and it does hurt my feelings, and I try like crazy to get over it as fast as possible and move on.  I do sympathize, especially considering the effort you made to accommodate his early morning schedule.  I think your date must have been a newbie.  He had no back up plan ready to go, and you really do need a back up plan if you are meeting in public and don't want your cover blown. My preferred back up plan for coffee meetings is to bring my briefcase, my iPad, etc and plan on having a pleasant time all by myself drinking coffee and reading/working if she doesn't show up.  Believe me that has happened several times.  More annoying is when we are meeting for what's supposed to be an intimate date and I am showered and dressed and taken my vitamin V and driven halfway across town and she cancels or DNS. Crap! On the other hand, it sometimes works out oddly well.  I was supposed to meet a brand new POT SB for coffee last year.  We agreed on a Starbucks to meet at.  But just before I got there she texted me and said her ex was working there!  She suggested we just skip the coffee meeting and go BCD instead.  That sure worked for me!  We wound up having a very hot time and saw each other several more times before she moved away.  Anyway, I am sorry your date flaked on you.  Keep searching, there are some excellent gentlemen on SA!