LG, not sure if you can help me or not.

I kinda have a thing for more mature women. Not 50 years old but like around 25 to 35ish.  Now im 22 and I consider im mature for my age.

All of the providers I've ever been with have all been older than me.  To me it seems like mature women know how to treat a guy well.  Compared to girlfriends I've had who have been my same age or even a year younger and just not mature yet.

Alot of ladies I talk with always say that they like older men.  How would I make myself standout to a woman who is say like 3-5 years older than me?

Would it be weird to bring an older woman home to meet the family?  Or is it more common than one thinks?

Don't mean to make it sound like a dating question but I guess I really want to know if society is "cool" with younger guys being with older women?  You always see older men with younger women, so what would be wrong with a young guy with an older woman?

"Wrong," BoyToy4U,

That depends on whom you ask. Some people would definitely feel that it's "wrong," while others would understand it perfectly. In addition, "older" is certainly in the eyes of the beholder. Someone 25 is 3 years older than you - hardly defined as "older" other than strictly chronologically. Now 35 on the other hand - that's 13 years and yes, that would be considered "older" on many levels, including maturity and experience. But is it wrong?

For whatever it's worth, it's your preference, just like some people prefer blondes to brunettes, or vice versa. If you present yourself like a mature individual, it would make sense to most, although again, it really depends on the woman you're dating. Some 35 year olds look like they're in their 20s, and some girls in their early 20s have lost the "bloom of youth" and can look quite a bit older, for various reasons.  Lifestyle, genetics and temperament all play parts in how a person is perceived in terms of age.

I suppose if you look like Little Lord Fauntleroy and your "older" girlfriend looks like Cruella de Vil, then yes, you will get looks because the age difference will be obvious. In everyday life, however, not many people will notice, because women and men dress more gender-neutral than ever before. You and your girlfriend in jeans and T-shirts - no one will really pay attention.

Now, would it be "weird to bring an older woman home to meet the family?" Depends on her age and depends on the family. Can't say, since I don't know your specifics.

Is "society cool" with younger guys being with older women? Again, it depends on where you hang out and with whom. In my Westside LA liberal, middle to upper-middle class circles, no one would care. If you're bright, ambitious and outgoing, that's what people will see and hence understand that hey, maybe you prefer someone more emotionally mature. But I'm sure eyebrows would be raised in the Bible Belt - although I could be wrong of course.

Bottom line, it all comes down to individual differences. As to how to make yourself "stand out" among women who are 3-5 years older - don't act your age, of course .

I'm a mature woman of almost 54, and I like 22 year olds - can you help me?
The Love Goddess

I have been thinking alot about lately.  Sometimes when I go out to the bars I end up ditching my buddies and go sit with a group of cougars.  Maybe I just like the attention that they give me?  They never tell me to "get lost."

Anyways, Im a pretty open minded person and would entertain the thought of being with an older woman.  I would have to say screw what people thought about the situation, as long as Im comfortable and happy.

Thanks LG for helping me better understand how things might actually work.

Im on my way to help you LG, we can help eachother lol.

They say there are 4 ages. Your chronological age (the traditional meaning I'd age), your biological age (some people look youner and healthier and age slower or vice versa), your mental age ( some are wise beyond their years) and your heart's age (as the say - the young at heart).  

You can be 55 and look 35 and be 18 and young at heart

I don't even know if this movie is still available, but you might check Netflix or one of the big DVD selling sites. It is from the 60's and since you love older women, I'm certain you will appreciate it.

It involves a love affair between a teen something and a woman in her 50's or older and is absolutely hilarious with lots of social satire about the taboos society places on age differences.

I was in the same boat in my 20s.  It's cool to be attracted to, hook up, or date older women.   I had a relationship with a woman 15 years older than me when I was 24.  She was at a point in her life where having some young man to have fun with was appealing to her.  We knew it wasn't going anywhere, but we defined that early, so it wasn't a big deal.  Just be honest with each other about what you want & proceed on that plan.

At 22, 3-5 years is a big deal for you.  In our early 20s, our friends are mostly a couple years from our age, so 5 years seems like a big difference.  As you get older, you'll realize that it's not really that big of a deal.  If it's just about sex for you & her, then who cares about age.  Have fun.  In my mid 20s in LA, it was 10x easier to pick up women in their 30/40s b/c most of them were willing to have casual sex with me knowing that I wasn't looking for a strong commitment.  If it's about a relationship, here's my thoughts.

Most women want someone stable for a relationship at some point.  Young men in their 20s rarely are stable in most aspects of their lives, so older women try to date men their age or older.  To make yourself standout to a woman older than you by 5 years.  1) be a good conversationalist.  Women love someone that can hold a witty banter with them.  Staying in shape helps, but turning her on via an intimate conversation will get you way farther.  2) Don't bring up age, unless she does.  It's the elephant in the room, so no need to make it uncomfortable unless she does.  If she mentions it, have the thoughtful conversation about your interest in her regardless of her age.  3) Treat her like any date & be yourself.  Don't change who you are.  Use your looks, swagger, & confidence to woo her.

Lastly, the main reason women don't date younger men is that women hate dealing with immaturity in a relationship.  They could be 16 or 66.  They don't want to deal with drama.  Looks can trump a lot of things initially, but for a relationship, women want stable men who treat them well.  I'm sure any 35 year old woman you hit on is going to have her guard up b/c she doesn't want to deal with a 22 year old's frat boy antics.  The reality is that immaturity happens at all ages, but people in their early 20s are a lot more likely to act like assholes.  Regardless, if you really love someone or want a committed relationship, age becomes like race in that you don't care what others think b/c you enjoy that person.  Really you shouldn't care what others think in general, but most of us are weak in that regard.  

Good luck & have fun.

Thanks for the advice.  You brought up some good points.  It gives me something to think about.