I had a text conversation with a POT off-site about meeting. She initiated some conversation and said she was excited to meet. We set a date and the day before I texted a time to confirm a M&G and said if we click perhaps we could "spend some private time to get to know each other better". I never heard from her again. We never got to the point of discussing PPM. What do y'all make of this?

Ghosting happens all the time for a lot of reasons so it's difficult to know if it's the result of your comment.
At the same time, I didn't see the full message but based on what you wrote it sounds like you were offering to jump into bed immediately following the M&G and that might have scared her off.
I wouldn't worry about this one but would slow down next time. Do the meet, decide if there is chemistry and then figure out the terms of the BCD.

Yeah I figured I might have spooked her with the mention of BCD after the M&G. I was trying to set reasonable expectations for what I was seeking but may have been too aggressive since she didn't bring up allowance.

... don't put too much weight into that.  

 
POT's do flake and it can happen at any time.  What you don't know and never will, is what was happening on her side. She may have received a parallel offer from another POT SD she liked more, or who offered a big allowance. Or she may have been asked by her work to pick up an extra work shift at the same time as your M&G.  Or her - and we've all seen this one - phone battery died (because there must be some law of nature that a SB simply cannot understand that that the red low-battery indicator is a real thing.).  

 
I had a 19 year-old blond spinner lined up for a M&G this week. She has already hinted on her desired range and I told her I'd make her happy. We agreed on a place and I suggested a time and 3 different days that would work for me.   After 8 hours of no reply, I sent a polite follow up (have you had a chance to check your schedule?). But it's now the 3rd day and no reply.  

 
So I moved on today and messaged two Asian spinners.  My conversion rate for Asians is comically low, of course. But a fella can dream, right?  

 
Lie is good

 
The Cat

The fantasy meets the cold reality of daylight.  

One thing I will not do is pay to watch a POT eat and drink. Been there done that in civie dating.

So when I have a M&G scheduled, or when I ask for one, I always tell them that it's just lunch, zero obligations or expectations.  Obviously if they want to go directly from the lunchroom  to the bedroom I'm game.  But saying there's no obligation or expectation accomplishes 2 worthy goals: A: They can relax knowing you're not going to pressure them to have sex, and B: you're making it clear you won't pay them to have lunch with you.

I've had M&G's rollover into playtime, but I keep my mouth shut about that unless/until she brings it up.  Some SB are experienced and not shy about broaching that topic, usually it seems because the tryst is their main objective, same as it is mine, and she's eager to close the deal.  If she brings up the topic before you've made it to your M&G, it's pretty much a sure thing.  That's of course the lead into gift talk, and I'll say, sure I'm up for that, if we hit it off and are in agreement about the gift.  Almost universally, once at that juncture, the M&G has been cancelled in favor of going directly for the gusto.  With the inexperienced ones, baby steps is the better approach.  I suppose it will vary from one locale to another, but when I'm "premium" the interest is often more than I wish to handle, so I do not worry about why someone just stops communicating.

Sometimes, just the back-and-forth in advance can change things. I had one lady agree to meet for dinner after both of us got off work. She gradually moved to asking where we would go on a second date if things worked out, suggesting we meet near there for the first M&G-only meeting (fortunately near lots of nice restaurants), suggesting that we both park in their lot so she could drop off her work stuff there rather than leaving it in her car, and then spending 2.5 hours together in the room until we realized that we were getting near the last reservation time for restaurants, and finally returning to the room after dinner for another few hours. It was the only time that I had a M&G after/during the second date with its BCD playtime. We were together for about a year or maybe a bit more.

This POT was definitely experienced she had been on SA for years and was 28 years old. Do you think there is anyway to rehabilitate it or is that one lost? I had high interest.

Just the week before I set up a M&G and agreed on a PPM with a younger POT and when I texted day of to confirm the M&G I let her know I had a work obligation after and could only stay for one drink. Her response was "my roommates dog just threw up on my boots and I have to put them in the washer".

I agree with sweetman.

She wants to be treated like a lady, regardless of how experienced she is. Don't act cheap, or in a rush to get her panties down, or anything other than respectful. SBs, especially experienced ones, are just like experienced civilian girls. They don't want whatever you know of their history to color how you treat them; if anything, POT SBs are more sensitive to being treated respectfully than other ladies because they experience a fair amount of disrespect

There are many reasons for this. First, wouldn't you want to be with a woman who is a lady in public and a sex kitten only BCD? Second, "no pressure" is your version of hard to get. She already knows what you want to do with her because it is what all men want. However, let her know that you are interested in her beyond that, and let her know that you want to be with her for more than a roll in the hay. Ask her about herself, her kids (if relevant), and what she likes to do for fun (outside the room - hiking, dining, travel, etc.).

I'm probably better off not wasting time on POTs who get their panties in a bunch by the suggestion that I am interested in intimacy. I'm looking for an SB not drama. I can get all the drama I want an then some outside the sugar bowl. There has to be some happy medium between SB who want transactional meetings and SB who want to get paid for a relationship.