I know the “no deposit” principle. This is a little different.  

I have a hot 27yo Latina 95 lb spinner… great bcd. 9/10 looks. We know each other’s real names and backgrounds.  

Scenario is we miss a weekend session mainly due to her issues actually…She wanted to come at midnight, which I tried once but just left me too tired given we always have some drinks… so she sends me screenshots of her class tuition this week and overdue credit card … asks for half her weekly now before the next weekend. If I do it, I would make it clear it is an advance not a gift. And it wasn’t an unanticipated emergency like a flat tire.

Anyone would do differently? Thanks

She asked for half her weekly allowance in advance? I don’t see a big issue with that. She didn’t ask for help in addition to her allowance. Plus it’s only half of the weekly not monthly. Considering you have been together for a while, I’d definitely go for it. If it works out, it shows that you do “care” for her, and that she is a little trustworthy.

This is not a new issue. It comes down to how much you trust her, how often you want to be her "fix" for shitty budget skills, and how much risk you can tolerate if she burns you.  

 
Hey, if it's less than, say, $75-$100, you're not going to lose much sleep if she ghosts you or (more likely) "forgets" about the advance when you next go BCD.  But lest my friend GaGa roast me alive, I'll remind you that rule is the same: No advance money - ever.  

 
Now I have had SB's, including a current Latina, who have asked me for $40-$100 for some urgent expense and I have sent it (or even $10-$20 more) - only to deduct it from her next allowance. I didn't even negotiate it. I just give her an envelope that is $50-$100 light. She's earned my trust by coming back, always thankful that Daddy helps her, and providing eagerly BCD.

 
But! I've also been burned by ongoing SB's. The worst two were both with me for 3-4 months. Both were reliable on schedules, and BCD skills. But each set me up for a $700-$800 loss when they ghosted me after a large advance. Kind of short sighted really, as they  "lost" many more months of allowance.  And if they had offered me something interesting, like bringing a hot friend over or a weekend of nakey time, I'd have agreed to double up for that instantly.  

 
So pick your pain threshold. What is the max amount you are willing to "test" as an advance without regretting it if she burns you. Find that number and see what happens....  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

enough said

She probably won't ghost now, but her financial needs will be ever present. Be prepared for future asks.

Herb explained it well. I'll just add that my own experiences have been really varied on this point.  One absolutely gorgeous SB I had not seen in months contacted me for $500 to pay a court fine. She said had no other resource and would make it up to me.  And she did!  Very enthusiastically.  Another I had not seen in months begged me for some rent money, just $200, and said she'd make it up to me.  when the time came she said she had a BF and didn't want to cheat on him.  I didn't press the issue cuz she'll probably dump him at some point and cum back. Several years ago I was very actively involved with a SB who needed $600 for a vacation she was taking with a gf.  We were on excellent terms so I was really surprised when she ghosted on me afterwards.  And so it goes.  Of course I promote the "absolutely no advances" rule that is accepted wisdom here, but I've made exceptions and may do so again.  Just remember what the professional financial advisors say: past performance is no guarantee of future returns, and, don't invest money you can't afford to lose.

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The dollar amount is $300.  We’ve been together for only a month and a half.

I don’t think she’ll ghost me but I am sure that I’m setting myself up for further asks in the near future.

Once I am with an SB and she is no longer a POT my rules relax a lot.

 
I do have kind of a rule of thumb to never give a hooker or an SB more money as a loan/advance than she can pay back on a single visit unless I know her very well. Otherwise she looks at the total debt and starts thinking to herself "I'll NEVER be able to pay that back, maybe I'll just find someone new" Then you are out both the cash and the pussy. lol

 
I learned that from a bar owner in Las Vegas who used to let a lot of his regulars run tabs. He also used to cash paychecks so he knew how much most of his customers made and he would set their limit at about 50% of their weekly pay.

Anyway, I had made up my mind to do it for the reasons I said…plus we crossed over to bare bcd in the getting ready to leave shower lol and she has a friend on SA we’re trying to get a 3some with.

But it’s helpful to have a rational advance strategy.  

If I lose the $300 and her, I’ll account for it in the value already gotten from the last session.