I have been on Seeking for a while but because I am married, I have been very cautious about engaging.  I have messaged with a lot of young, pretty good looking young women, but I just haven't been able to wrap my head around relying for discretion on a young, broke girl who will have sex for money.  Then I got a message from a 40 year old (I'm 53) who seemed pretty normal.  She was an 8 in my book, and she seemed down to earth and drama-free.  Just horny and in need of a little extra cash.  She screened me as much as I screened her (figuratively speaking) to make sure we fit each other's needs, and that made me feel a little better.  We set a date to have a drink.  She proposed a time when I  only had about an hour before I had other obligations.  I told her I could make it if she wanted to just get the public meet and greet out of the way, and she responded that we should find another time because she wants to be sure we have plenty of time for fun if the M&G goes well.  Yes!  So we set a time a few days later.  The M&G went well, and soon we were on our way back to her place where we had great sex for a couple of hours.  She had complained that the last encounter she had was lame and that she didn't even cum, so I made sure to get her off as much as I could.  I knew from our texting that she loved having her pussy eaten, so I spent plenty of time down there.  We both agreed that a repeat is a must.  I always thought it would be great to bang hot 20 somethings, and I get plenty of that in the professional P4p world - But for my situation, as far as sugar goes, a horny 40 year old might be just what I need.  Anyway, got the first one under my belt.

The first successful BCD experience totally changes your outlook!  It's not theoretical anymore, it's real, and you've done it!   Your future is bright my friend, congrats!

If you do your OpSec properly then the hot, horny 20yo beauty won't know your real identity. That way you can rely on her discretion.

The sweet spot is for you to decide on.  Doesn't have to all be young, hot and dumb.  Young girls are definitely a lot of fun.  But I've never done this while married or in a committed relationship.  So idk.

Congratulations on your first success. Sounds like you used your big head before using your little one.  I'll leave the OpSec topic for others like DickE's and other's expertise.  

Congrats on your success, Minty! I too have found that for the most part, the older ones deliver a better experience all the way around. Many of my best SB's have been over 30. Good to hear a success story. All too often we can get bogged down and discouraged with the ones that don't go so well or don't go at all. When it works, it's a real high! Enjoy it while you can as these arrangements usually end sooner than later. Which is not to say we can't hope for the best!  

...not to be anal compulsive over the language, but having lived in Italia for a few decades, "bravo tutti" is something you would say to congratulate a group of people...say a football team, etc, but not an individual.  

There were two people there... doesn't that meet the minimum criteria for a group?  :p  

Again congrats to OP.

I generally have to agree. There are definitely more obstacles to navigate with older SB's. But like any generalization, "...there are always possibilities" (Mr. Spock - Star Trek II: The Wrath of Khan).  My worst M&G was with a 45-year-old Russian divorcee who told me 15 minutes after we sat down for a drink that she needed me to "straighten out" her 22-year-old son. WTF? That's a negative, Ghost Rider!  

In the beginning I wanted 35 to 45 but quickly discovered older meant ridiculous expectations combined with some bitterness.  

I'm almost 10 years older than you and would totally  express the same experience.

I've actually found the opposite.  The hot young lasses that I would want to bang are asking more than the good looking but older ladies.  The young ones who are attractive with great' bodies know that every sugar daddy on the site is trying to bang them and they price accordingly.  Sure, you find desperate ones now and then but as a rule, I've found that the younger and hotter, the more expensive.  The older ones are as interested in the sex as the money.  I'm hoping to find a nice mix for my rotation.

Thanks, Minty.  

The silver lining.....  You find your sweet spot and don't justify it.