Re: I have been posting in the wrong place all these years

Because, SinnncerelySHILO,

Most men, contrary to popular belief, are not jerks, but actually want the woman they are having sex with to have a very good time. Thus, they ask so that you can have what Masters and Johnson have promoted as the ultimate sexual experience, namely the simultaneous orgasm. Men can only proceed from their own physical experiences and for some, that "point of inevitability" just prior to ejaculation is clearly felt. So they may imagine that women have something similar, and they want to make sure they time it just right.

If you feel uncomfortable in answering, then don't say anything and just enjoy the moment. If you are a panter or a screamer and are having a damn good time, then ignore the question and continue to scream/pant/moan instead of answering with words. If you are a clawer, then claw away [watch for marks though, some men might have a tough time explaining what cat got into them, LOL].

My answer was always "why yes, of course," because frankly, whenever the question was asked and I didn't say anything, the guy would come anyway. Perhaps it's just a case of noblesse oblige - and I'd much rather have that, then some lout who just porks away and shoots without at least checking the ambient temperature.

Aaah, those were the days,
The Love Goddess

ironic too, as i have one client who ALWAYS asks me that question as the end of our time together draws near. in his case, he absolutely WILL NOT cum unless i give him a response. He happens to have Asperger's, so i take it as a possible personality quirk relating to that. i know that he asks the question when he is physically prepared to cum, but he cannot actually release without obtaining my verbal consent first. it seems to be a mental block for him, not a quest for mutual pleasure.

as he is the only client i have ever had to ask this particular question, i cannot assume reasons other gents may have. but in his case i know it's simply that he needs permission, he needs to know that it's okay.

(oh btw, my answer is always "yes!" but just when i say it may vary).

That I'm glad all my favs orgasm orally!  

I have never asked this question but I can certainly see why a guy would. The mutual orgasm, when practical, is an amazing experience!

Honestly, I would never ask it if I thought the lady just wanted it to be over.  I have been in those situations and it's really not hard to tell what with all that bad acting going on and all.  The lady may be nice enough but it's clear that it's just a job for her so I stop worrying about her orgasm and concentrate on mine.  Fortunately I don't see too many ladies that fall into that category anymore.

Welcome to the Erotic Highway SHILO.  This is where all the cool people hang...

SHILO,

I have asked this question once in awhile over the years and have gotten a few different replies:

"I already came so go ahead"  (this was an honest answer).

"This is for you sweetheart, so whenever you want to"

But the best response by far is:  Don't you dare!  Keep pounding me baby!"