The Erotic Highway
thanks for the reply. u sound like a mature individual, so i'll take it on faith that you're not yanking my chain. multiple orgasms?!?! dude, i thought that was a myth! i mean, i can see a chick having them, but guys too?!?! WTF! how can u have an orgasm WITHOUT ejaculating? just doesnt make biological sense, unless YOU are a freak of nature, in which case, sir, you are TRULY blessed! 
i've heard of tantra, especially after Sting divulged his now infamous "technique." i think it involved staying still inside your partner, without moving, for hours on end. not exactly my idea of a good time! but i do intend to do further research on the whole tantra thing. thanks for the FYI.
thanks for the info, love goddess! this is a pretty neat new app TER is offering. out of curiousity, r u a licensed practioner, or maybe human sexuality was your major in college? i dont recall TER making reference to your qualifications. nevertheless, from the posts i've read on the board, your advice seems to be spot on, regardless of your educational backround.
there's actually such a creature as a woman who doesnt want more coitus after 3 min?!?! in my experience, i've yet to meet her. call me lucky (or cursed)!
i'll admit to having RE, which most guys might think is great, but can be quite frustrating when you're with a provider, where TIME is MONEY.
in general, i've found that most women won't tolerate a man who wont hold out for at least 15 min. i agree with your advice about foreplay. if the mood is right, and the woman is ready, willing and comfortable, there's no reason she cannot be brought to orgasm, although i understand that there are some women who, no matter what you do, cannot reach climax.
i'm also gonna heed mr. fisher's advice (check out above post) and look into tantric. my goal is to have ULTIMATE control over my body, no matter how GOOD the nookie is, to become like a faucet, able to turn it on & off whenever my MIND feels like it, NOT my body. is that being realistic? thanks for the advice. keep it coming. i plan to be a regular reader of your board. best of luck to u!
p.s.: why doesnt TER make it more convenient to access your board, like the rest of the boards? unless i'm missing something, I had to go back to TER's homepage to get into this board. just asking...
Dear lololancer,
Yes, this is a very "neat" board, moderated by me, a licensed psychotherapist in the states of California and New York, with a practice in Los Angeles. I have a MA in Clinical Psychology and am a PhD cand. of human sexuality. I am also a clinical sexologist and I specialize in "gender identity and sexual disorders," as listed in the DSM. So that's that!
Dunno about Macs, but on your PC, you can mark this board as your favorite and go directly to it. That's what I do in order to bypass the home page for extra speed.
Well it's a pity we didn't meet when I was young and cute, because that's just about how long it took me to get going and over with. All of 3 minutes! Dang, I was really synched with evolutionary babymaking, LOL. But those days are over, and now you'll just have to take my word for it; there are some very young and horny chicks out there who want just that. Of course, remember that said chicks often want it again and again, which makes them very well suited to those 18 year old guys who can get it up at a moment's notice. Aaah, that is indeed Mother Nature! Luckily, maturity seems to bring patience and all of a sudden, it's no longer the destination but the journey. And that's where foreplay comes in!
So you just be the Paderewski and play them gals loooong and with gusto, tantra included 
Welcome to the board,
the Love Goddess
well, Ms. Goddess, you're lucky i was sitting down. i was COMPLETELY blown away (and intimidated) by your C.V. i'll take u at your word, but i might make u regret having listed the impressive credits u did. i'll have to come to u w/any and all peculiar questions in regards to human sexuality. i suggest u start brushing up on your DSM now!
seriously though, not only for myself, but for ANY and ALL men who read this board, even in passing: male multiple orgasms, as mentioned (proudly, i might add) by mr. fisher in a posting above - is it for real? i mean, you're the MA, not me, but how is it possible to have a (male) orgasm without ejaculation?!?! i mean, that's like telling me i can eat without swallowing? dont both ejaculation & orgasm (for men) go hand in hand? please share any and all knowledge u may have. as the enquirer is fond of advertising, "curious minds want to know."
welcome aboard!!! i think u'll end up being a much needed (and used, i'm afraid) resource when it comes to providing factual info about human sexuality to the TER community vs. the anecdotal and dubious posts that pass for "info" on these boards.
one more thing while i have your attention (see, i'm starting already!), I have a "friend" who suffers from PE from time to time. My "friend" has read the Masters & Johnson & Dr. Singer lit on the subject, but finds that the squeeze method as advised by both, just doesnt work for him. in fact, he finds it counterproductive. the last thing a man who wants to control himself while in the heat of passion needs is to squeeze his "member." Know of any new techniques (and sorry, but stop and start is less than ideal, too!) thanks SO much for your time. good luck.
Dear lololancer,
Thank you for the approbation! Actually, "dry orgasms" are more common in males than you might think - and you don't have to get into tantra to experience them. Just think of those who have had prostate surgery - the orgasm is there but there is no ejaculate. In addition, there are many men who first orgasm with ejaculation, and then are able to experience a second round [oftentimes from BBBJ or handjobs] without any ejaculate leaving their body. Anecdotal descriptions show that these orgasms are more "all-over, body centered" rather than strictly genital. Those lucky enough to have this capacity report that these are most pleasurable feelings, LOL.
As for "new" techniques other than the start-stop method or squeeze techniques..that's where the tantric exercises may come in handy. On the other hand, no exercise or particular remedy works for every single person. And don't forget that there is a second person involved as well. Your partner's desire to stem the tide and his/her interventions can certainly help matters.
Actually, I think you'll find the members on this particular board very erudite and very educated on various sexual matters. Since we veer mostly toward psychosexual issues rather than medical matters, all posts become worthy of examination and commentary from not just me, but all serious posters.
So yes, we are all very special and worthy. Hang out and you'll see!
the Love Goddess
u failed to assign any homework! That's okay, i'll guess i'll just bone up (pardon the pun) on this whole tantra jazz. man, multiple orgams! I'll crack the books on that topic anyday as long as there's the slimmest chance it could happen to me! I'll drop u a line sometime to let u know if i've made any progress. thanks and keep up the good work!
i'll drop u a line to
I do not care how hot the girl is or her skill with a condom it is at least 15-20 min for me