Two of my SB's had birthdays in April, a week apart.  Generally, I think of a birthday as an opportunity to get a big return for an incremental investment.  Treat her to a nice dinner, have the restaurant do the "Happy Birthday" treatment, then take her home for a marathon session eating her pie.  This is often rewarded with extra time or an overnight, or perhaps she'll be ready to try that next level in sexual adventure you've been looking for.  

 
But the reality can often fail to live up to the dream.  Here's a few things I consider when deciding what, if anything, I will do for my SB's birthday:  

 
1. Timing:  Depending on her age/circumstances, she may be planning (even required) to be with family and/or friends on her day, so I generally assume that my date will need to be scheduled a few days before or after the actual day.  
2. What message am I sending?  Will she see your actions in a bigger context of wanting more relationship and less fuck buddy?  Or if you decide to skip, will she be hurt or disappointed?  
3. Scope and scale: If you want to give her a Daddy Birthday event, how much do you budget?  My guideline is to limit my additional expense to 1x her usual allowance. So if her allowance is $300, I'll budget up to $300 for a birthday date.  
4. Presents? Oy vey! This is complicated.  A well-considered modest (less than $50-75) gift might be good.  Too expensive and you set a bad precedent that you "owe" her expensive crap for every holiday. Too cheap and you look like an a-hole who thinks she's not worth the effort.  
5. How about skipping the whole thing?  This is a valid option, especially for your B-List SB's.  Just make sure you have your story figured out.  The easiest story is travel.  Just casually mention a few weeks before her birthday that you will be out of town, like you are not even aware of her birthday.  

 
For my April birthday's I treated both of them to nice dinners and a special treat - shopping for new dresses for one, and a one-hour massage by a pro in my home for the other.   Both were delighted and made a special effort to show me their appreciation.    

 
How about you? What's your SB birthday game?  

 

Life is good

 
The Cat