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Good decision, but keep in mind "some" SB's don't want to be thought of as hookers
GaGambler 125 reads
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and because they want to play mental gymnastics with themselves and try to convince themselves that they are "better" than hookers, many SB's don't like the "idea" of PPM and will ask you for a weekly or monthly "allowance"

 
Here is a suggestion I have when a POT tries this argument with me, I simply ask her how much money she is going to need each month, and assuming she doesn't answer with something stupid like $10,000, in which case there is no reason to even keep talking to her, take her number, lets say it's two thousand, and break it down into smaller amounts, the amount that you want to pay her each date of course, and tell her that $2,000 a month is fine, but that instead of giving her two thousand once a month, the two of you can plan to see each other five times a month and you'll just give her four hundred dollars every time you meet. Then of course you can be available as often or as infrequently as YOU like, and you'll only be on the hook to pay her when you see her, and of course she gets to "think" she is getting a monthly allowance and that you aren't really paying her four hundred bucks to fuck you like a "common hooker" lol

Drumguy25523 reads

Dipping my toes in this, and trying not to be a train wreck while popping my cherry . But, I do have some concerns about what type of budget it will run to maintain an SB on a monthly basis. In the pro world... it's easy. it's X, give X, done.... everyone's happy. In this world.... it's Gray area everywhere. I know expenses are not uniform, just trying to get a general idea of what others expenditures are for a single SB. Simply put... I don't want to dangle a carrot that I can't produce. I bow to the wisdom and knowledge of your experience.  

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mrfisher90 reads

A lot of threads discuss price.

There seems to be a lot variation, more so than in the escort world.

I've seen threads suggesting that $200 will get you a dinner date (not sure how many pops though), while others seem to spend up to $1,000.

I supposed geographical area and of course, age and looks factor heavily.

Then there are some gals that expect some serious $ just to meet and talk over dinner.

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GaGambler113 reads

But there are some consistencies and correlations that I have noticed over the last couple of years where it comes to price. From what I have seen, whatever the going rate for an hour with a "well reviewed TER provider" will usually get you a multi hour date with a SB of similar caliber, sometimes as long as overnight.

 
I am assuming you are in the DC area because it's the only regional board on which I see you posting. In DC the "average" hooker rate for a lady of decent quality is in the $4-500 hr rate as far as I can tell. For that same $4-500 rate you should expect at least a three hour date with an SB and usually longer.  If you do commit to a weekly or perish the thought, a monthly commitment you should expect much better value than a third of hooker rates.

 
For the record, I would definitely advise AGAINST giving a SB anything even approaching a monthly allowance, or if you do, dole it out to her in smaller amounts during the month. SB's can be more flaky than even the flakiest of hookers and the last thing you want to do is "prepay" your SB for the month only to find out that all of a sudden she has become the busiest woman on the planet and can't break loose of all the important commitments she has to spend any time with you.

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Drumguy2591 reads

No. I would never consider paying the allowance thing. I am hoping for a ppm situation. Actually... that's probably the only arrangement I would be comfortable with...

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GaGambler126 reads

and because they want to play mental gymnastics with themselves and try to convince themselves that they are "better" than hookers, many SB's don't like the "idea" of PPM and will ask you for a weekly or monthly "allowance"

 
Here is a suggestion I have when a POT tries this argument with me, I simply ask her how much money she is going to need each month, and assuming she doesn't answer with something stupid like $10,000, in which case there is no reason to even keep talking to her, take her number, lets say it's two thousand, and break it down into smaller amounts, the amount that you want to pay her each date of course, and tell her that $2,000 a month is fine, but that instead of giving her two thousand once a month, the two of you can plan to see each other five times a month and you'll just give her four hundred dollars every time you meet. Then of course you can be available as often or as infrequently as YOU like, and you'll only be on the hook to pay her when you see her, and of course she gets to "think" she is getting a monthly allowance and that you aren't really paying her four hundred bucks to fuck you like a "common hooker" lol

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herbtcat94 reads

So you are off to a good (or at least typical :p start!  
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Seriously, expect no shows on M&G's from 25% to as much as 75% of the time. It's all part of the process. Why would she flake?  Here's just a few possible reasons:
1. She got cold feet - probably as much a NOOB as you are
2. She found a better offer (i.e.: he's got a bigger wallet, or talks a better SD game)
3. She is a scammer and is working several POT SD's at one time, picking the SD that looks most likely to pay off w/o BCD
 (be glad that's not you!).  
4. She sucks a planning and had to (insert any activity you can think of here) instead. Yes, this is real. 20-somethings are not known for excellent time-management skills
5. Alien abduction (honestly, just as likely as any other excuse you will get - IF you ever get an excuse).  
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As to potential budget, I think GaGa gives a good guide. Search for past posts on "sugar amount" or "budget" for more info.  
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Life is good.  
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The Cat

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Drumguy25106 reads

I got a text from her later,  saying she had changed her mind about it. Truth? Who knows...  
Is what it is, I'll keep looking. Or just stick with p4p.

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sweetman90 reads

The regional variation in "normal" budgets is well documented.  For whatever it's worth, my own budget is the $200 ppm zone, and I have good success with that in my area.  I've noticed that the older SBs have greater needs, hence greater expectation$$ than the younger ones, which is just one more reason I tend to stick to the 18-23yo range.  College girls can easily compare these the risk/reward ratios:  A crappy minimum wage part time job that at best supplies a take  home pay of $15o-$200 per week, vs a fine time screwing an appreciative kind gentleman  for a few hours and taking home $200?  No brainer!  

As for flaking, it's just part of the game.  I just had one coffee date result in a NCNS this weekend.  There's always more fishies in the sea, even if some are too skittish to show up.  Don't worry about it too much.

And do be ever mindful of the mental gymnastics Gagambler talks about.  Sugar Babies, escorts, hookers, pros, whatever you call them, it's all sexwork of one sort or another to me.  I don't care about the definitions or labels, but some of the SBs care acutely.  So let them think whatever makes them comfortable.

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