I’ve noticed that it’s been a minority of pots i’ve encountered that are on hormonal birth control (including IUDs). Is it me or does it seem like the y Jen Z  generation is not as committed to preventing pregnancy as Gen X and millennial feminist generations? Since I’m looking for long-term SB arrangements I’m ending up forgoing a lot of these pots. One of my top SB’s is in this category and I usually just pull out or only CIP when she’s close to her period. Any thoughts or advice?

I've noticed quite a few younger women I've met have gotten away from birth control methods such as IUD, implants and pills. Some say the drugs wreak havoc with their hormonal balances and create other health issues. One solution to this is VCF, vaginal contraceptive foam, which is available at drugstores [and online]. It comes pre-measured in tampon-like applicators which is injected into the vagina just before intercourse with spermicide. VCF works great and is safe. I've not encountered any issues with it.

If you don't plan on having any kids you should take care of it yourself and get the vasectomy. I did this and it freed up that whole conversation. It allowed my wife to go off BC as well. I had it done one Friday during March and sat on the couch all weekend watching March Madness basketball.  It's a great excuse to binge whatever show you want. It's much less invasive than having the lady go through it and was not all that painful. Uncomfortable to be sure, but tolerable.

Trying to time it out is playing with fire IMO.

In my experience, there are a few key factors that tend to affect a POT's decision to use non-condom birth control on a regular, ongoing basis.  

 
1. Costs vs budget
2. Religious and/or cultural taboos
3. Ease of access
4. Personal/women's health awareness
5. Have some level of intolerance for hormonal treatments like BC Pills, Depo Shots, IUD's etc.  

 
This tends to mean, at least in my experience, that younger POT's, POT's who are Catholic or Hispanic (especially from poorer Latin America backgrounds), can't afford or do not have health insurance, and who have not had or seen serious health issues will all be less likely to be on BC.  

 
In general, I have found that a POT who has been sexually active for a long time (say 2+ years) and who definitely does not want a child, will be on BC.  That means older POT's (say 25+), who come from middle-class or higher families will be more likely to be on BC. Still, I have had perhaps a dozen SB's over the last 10 years who could not deal with the hormonal changes to their bodies.  With them, I used other methods like the sponge (no longer made after covid), spermicidal creams, Female Condoms (you now need a prescription), etc. All of these are less effective than BC pills or the Depo Shot, and less effective than a male condom. But I was able to use some of these with success.  

 
It's always a good idea to discuss before you go bare (along with talking through tests) about her BC status. It's also critically important, but much more difficult to assess what she might do if she gets pregnant.  Prior to my vasectomy, I have offered to pay for her BC more than once. That usually leads her to do enough research to find out she can get free BC from Planned Parenthood and other sources.  

 
Here's some proactive steps you can (ok MUST) take if you have not had a vasectomy and do not want a baby.  
1. Beware the SB who may try to set a pregnancy trap. If she's already a single mother with 1 or more kids, says she would never get an abortion, and still has not decided to get on BC, time to bail. She's made it clear that when (not if) you get her pregnant you will be on the hook for 18+ years of support.  
2. Even if she says she has had one or more abortions, that does not mean she will with your kid.  You have to make an objective assessment if you can trust her when needed.  
3. Relying on the pull-out strategy is a myth.  By the time you are ready to cum, you have already dropped more sperm from your pre-cum drops than your full ejaculate will contain.  

 
What can you do? Use the Level 1 Hail Mary first:  
Buy several doses of generic Plan B on Amazon and keep them in your go-bag.  If the condom breaks, or you did not pull out prior to pre-cum, have her take the pill ASAP - while you are still with her. Don't give her the dose and trust her to take it tomorrow.  I'll add a link in Amazon.  Note: I'm not sure if post-Dobbs SCOTUS decision and states have banned the sale of Plan B by online or retail sales.  I know it's legal in California. You will need to check for yourself.)  

 
If the Level 1 Hail Mary does not work, it's time for the Level 2 Hail Mary:  
This one is, frankly, mean and manipulative.  
But the alternative is to start writing checks. Start talking to her about your desire for a meaningful and permanent relationship. That may mean telling her you will leave your Wife, SO, whatever. That may mean telling her you want to marry her - at some point and have her fully share in your life (and assets) as an equal partner.   Just make her believe it without ever documenting it. Then explain that the timing needed to achieve your future can't include a baby right now. It's just too soon and won't work. BUT, if she waits until you (divorce, break up, move, get a better job, whatever), you can start an amazing, loving family together.  Offer to pay for all expenses, offer to drive her to the facility. Once it's done, take her home, give her a $25 Starbucks card, then leave and dump her by text just before you block her. I have never had to do this. And it has a very low percentage chance of success. But what else can you do?  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat