My dear The_HappyHooker,

Welcome to the world of TER and the wonderful world of reviews! I hope you get many high scores and become very successful! Now that's said, and we should get into the nitty-gritty of being a provider...which means that you, just like the hobbyists, need to create some healthy BOUNDARIES for yourself, in order to stay sane.

If this particular client has "admitted that he cares" for you more than he should and is confused, then you'll need to step in and protect both him and yourself from the relationship becoming a real problem. Clearly, he's NOT capable of being "just friends." He has been quite obvious about it. Hence, it's going to be difficult for you to maintain a friendship stance with him. It's the same in any relationship where a guy is in love with a woman and she's not in love with him. Ask yourself if there were no money involved - would you have sex with a guy you're not into, even if he were into you? Probably not. Even if he was your "friend."

So you'll have to lay down the law. It's as simple as that. Next time he starts in on you because of some new review popping up, give him ONE CHANCE to shut up. If he doesn't, then terminate him as a client. Because he's your client first, and "friend" last. And for the future, please don't get roped in with all this "friends" business. Ask yourself this question brutally and honestly: if he weren't paying you, would you be hanging out on your own private time? Would you be calling each other, supporting each other through thick and thin and taking a genuine interest in each other's lives? Like true friends?

We've had this come up on the Highway many times. Now, this is ONLY MY OPINION, but I don't believe in providers and hobbyists getting too chummy. Of course there are exceptions, but when all is said and done, this is a business. A fucking business.

There, I said it. And if you don't believe me, check out this thread from the General Discussion board,
The Love Goddess

If he has those feelings for you, he should not be reading your reviews.  Also, if he told you he doesn't want a monogamous relationship with you, I don't understand why he is so bothered reading your reviews 'juicy details'.  To me that's kind of an oxymoron.  

I also don't understand he feels why your friendship should have any bearing on your job as a provider or vice-versa.  Not all providers have close friendships with many of their clients, as it often leads to your situation.  His jealousy is his problem, not yours.  I think all you can do is tell him he is more than a client to you, and if he can't handle your profession, that is also his problem, not yours.  

He is sending contradictory messages to you, IMHO.  He wants to see you as a provider, wants you as a friend, claims to not want a monogamous relationship, yet is jealous of you seeing other clients?  Seems to me, there is more to his feelings than he is telling you.  

I have a small number of providers whom I consider to be friends, and I no longer read their reviews.  I prefer to think of them as friends and don't want to read about what they are doing with other guys.  I still see them professionally as well from time to time.

Swim

Are you the only provider he has ever seen? If not, ask him how many other women that he once paid for sex have maintained a relationship with him after he stopped being a client.  I'm willing to bet the percentage is pretty small.

It's pretty clear to me that this guy is in love with you.  Why on earth is he reading your reviews if it bothers him so much?  I think he needs to gain some perspective on your relationship and the only way to do this is for you to be honest with him about what the two of you can and can not mean to each other.  If he is truly your friend he would be happy for your success and simply not read the reviews if they bother him.

Thank-you everyone for your input..

I can best relate to what G2 recently posted:

"Which is why guys of my age and experience group don't act like a bunch of moonstruck pussies when a woman we've paid to fuck us asks us to stay for a glass of wine"

I clearly need to work on my professional boundaries and appreciate all the advice that has been offered.

Thanks again!