As someone who has a bad habit of letting arrangements get too serious and go too long I've really been thinking about this lately.

My current SB is my GF now.  I do support her financially, we have weekly dates and have grown close.  She even talks about how she can't wait to cook for me and be my housewife.  She is a Mexican citizen and would be immigrating here.  I live close enough to the border for regular dates.  As I look at this potential future. There are the obvious red flags.  Using me for papers, money, etc.  But there's also the, what does she bring to the table?  

My past long term GF/SB relationships were really just me falling for a hot, cute girl that gave me sex and attention.  None of the ones I ever talked future plans had a good idea of life.  No real career, unless I was the one pushing them.  No actual relationship skills.  Couldn't even be a decent housewife, I cooked a more than they did.  I have some trying to get back with me now they realized the grass wasn't greener before they stomped on it.  

So, I sit here and think, I've got a young, smoking hot girl who says she wants to be the perfect housewife.  Even wants to work in my office part time to help with the business.  Is it just me not seeing through a smoke screen?  Or did I accidentally become a passport bro and found a keeper?

You don’t say what you think of her as a person.  

Do you feel chemistry with her?

Is there a cultural and/or intellectual compatibility?

Also, are you a one gal type of person, or like the rest of us, want to pursue other erotic interests?

If the answer to the first two questions is no, and the last one, yes, then I suggest extricating yourself as nimbly as possible from this situation.  

Best of luck.  

Let us know how it goes.

You are right.  Here's the answers.

She is awesome.  We can hang all day, go to eat, have great sex, go play VR games, or just watch movies together on the couch.  She was telling me how in Mexico men tend to have 2 women, the wife type and the party type.  She wants to be both.  When we first met she definitely was the fun party girl.  Now she's showing wanting to be the other side too  

Definitely culture differences.  Her English is really good which helps but we both miss stuff.  Fortunately, we now realize it and know to ask.  But it will always be a barrier of some point.  The education difference is there as well.  She has street smarts and I have book smarts.  She's working on the Mexican equivalent of a bachelor degree where I have a PhD.

I've been monogamous before and I was not the one cheating.  The sex is great with her and she loves to please.  Although I can't imagine that staying the case after years together.  Fortunately, as we get older the drive goes down.

The funny thing about regret is that it is better to regret something you have done than something you haven't done.

 
So, go for it.

 
The worst that happens is that you decide to break up somewhere down the road.   In the meantime you have gotten a lot of fun, and she got a lot of stuff plus maybe US citizenship.

 
But you might want to bring up the subject of a pre-nuptial agreement in case you have a lot of assets to protect.

 
Oh, and there's the whole topic of having kids.   How would you feel about that?

Good questions.

Prenup is mandatory.  I told her about it, she shrugged and said "I only get nothing if we breakup?". Basically, as long as stays faithful and is good to me I'll take care of her.

No more kids for me.  I was clear on that with her.  I'm making sure I can't have any oopsies.  She doesn't want kids, rare for a Mexican woman.  But she works as a baby and sees spoiled shits all day long so she's happy being the hot aunt.

I Like having the best of both worlds.  I have a rock solid marriage at home,  and also have her permission and encouragement to enjoy sugar dating.  Win/win.  But maybe you don't want or need that.  How would she feel if you did allow her to move in, but with the caveat that you are allowed to have other playmates?  hHow would you feel if she wanted other men in  her life besides you?  

I agree the prenup is vital.  But you are mixing immigration issues with the finances.  

 
I suggest you consult a family law or immigration attorney alone first. I'm no expert, though I suppose I qualify as a passport bro at some level. But I do know that the US citizen sponsoring an immigrant spouse is bound to significant long-term requirements. You may have to "prove" to the government that you have a "real" relationship, that you are capable of and will guarantee her financial support for several years, even if you divorce, that you cohabitate, and other topics.  

 
You will need an attorney's advice on how to make it work, as well as what happens to you if it doesn't work.  

 
For my Bro excursions, I exclude any possibility of asking a non-US women to marry me or come to the US to live with me.  I might (ok I am) consider(ing) moving to another country (like the Philippines) and finding a primary partner there. But even then, that will stop short of marriage.  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

Answering Herb first.  Lawyer appointment is next week.  Going to follow their advise on how to protect myself in case I'm being played for papers.

Sweet, I don't share my toys.  Not even in Kindergarten.  If the trade is I have to stay clean too, which I'm sure it will be, I'm fine as long as I'm getting it when I want.  She seems to understand the assignment but after a few years?  What in finding as more and more guys our age find young wives out of the country, the girls come here knowing what they need to do.  The ones that go crazy either had the plan from the start or get into a friends group of golddiggers in the US.  Right now I'm making sure she's not the first one.  I can try to mitigate who her friends in the US are.  If she's around a bunch of trophy wives or divorcees living on alimony and child support....

I've known two couples who got married simply for the sake of allowing one of the parties (one a woman, and one a man) to get to become US citizens, and then they divorced (Though in one of the cases, they remained good friends.)

 
So, it does happen, and it does work, if done right.

 
Advice from a good immigration lawyer (Which at least one of those couples got.) is sound advice.

 
The INS really does look up your ass in these cases, especially these days.

Living together is a good test. Can she stay with you eg for 3 months? Living day to day together would get you out of the honeymoon phase so you can see if you are truly compatible. Then you can decide if she is worth the time and trouble to marry her. Have you had a fight yet? How did that go? What is her goal in all of this? People will do whatever it takes to get what they want and then once they've got it, their rules change. Is she really the one? I fell in love with my SB about a year and a half ago and then had to do the hard work of falling out of love once I realized the true, unvarnished reality of the situation. She never knew this. Now I can approach the arrangement with reality and still enjoy my time with her.  I'm all for having fun and going for broke in relationships, just make sure you do it with a clear head.

I only wish we could bet on SB relationships on Kahlsi or Polymarket. I would bet a ton that this relationship doesn’t survive the year.

Good idea.  We are doing a week long vacation in July.  We can see how that goes.  Maybe a longer stay together over the holidays.  She's in school in TJ so it's got to be around her time off also.

We have fought a few times.  She's always backed down and given in to me.  I'm not being over demanding.  She knows I treat her well and realizes if I'm giving her more than other guys have it's natural to want more.