Re: first time with 3

Dear jazzinxx,

Nice to see that the old ménage á trois phantasy is alive and well!

As to choosing a playmate, well, TER is full of exciting ladies. I say, get with a MATURE, sophisticated woman who is adept at understanding subtleties and the wily ways of women . Let your female partner do the final choosing, no matter what. Peruse the ads, make contact, let her speak on the phone to the potential provider. Understand that she may screen BOTH of you, for safety's sake, and explain this to your lady friend.

Book for several hours, to create a natural and more female-friendly atmosphere. Women relate to one another emotionally more than just visually. A dinner together may work well, or an evening of wine and cheese in a romantic hotel suite prior to engaging sexually.

Aside from all that...try to let the women take the lead, and then follow happily. Another potential caveat: your lady may have phantasies of seeing you in action with another woman, but when it finally comes to the deed, she may change her mind. Play it by ear and see what happens. If it just turns out to be an evening of bi-curiosity while you watch, so be it. Or, if the escort leaves you two lovebirds all steamed up and going at it together afterwards, don't fret. Better than getting this event dredged up months later as a simmering item of jealousy in an argument or a fight.

On that note...have fun,
the Love Goddess

But if you have to do a threesome I would consider leaving your SO out of it.  Nothing good (beyond the act itself) ever comes out of it.

Why not go to a swing club? in NYC Le Trapeze or Checkmates - the key is to let your lady lead and go at her pace. There are also many pvt get together for couples where you meet like minded couples and single ladies and if you hit off you take it further.