Just wondering if you guys are sketchy with girls sending nudes ?
I was suppose to see a SB today during the evening, when I had to cancel. I apologized and felt bad and she like immediately started talking about how we can do a hotel etc.after the second date and sent me a few nudes of herself after we met last Thursday. Kind of came across as her fearing I was going to flakeJust their way to entice you.
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Though it depends on the picture. A full on shaved pussy shot is definitely a hooker, while a cute, titty shot could just be flirtatious.
You need to make your own call as to whether that is a good thing or a bad one. Probably depends on how much you like the woman. At least it does for me. I am a little surprised that a woman sending you a nude picture wants to wait until the second date to have sex. The ladies who have sent me such pictures have either just wanted to meet me in a private place for fun (usually those are the more explicit shots), or at least have said that going to such a place after we meet is "an option."
But, no, it does not bother me at all. What's not to like about an explicit, sexy picture of a pretty girl?
zig
but of the several girls who have sent me nudes or semi-nude pics unsolicited (which is the only way I ever get them as I NEVER ask for nude pics) only about half of them turned out to be hookers. One of my biggest successes on SA sent me a topless pic before we ever met, I thought to myself, "Ok, this is a sure thing, but probably a hooker, so be careful" Turns out we met (and fucked) four times before the subject of money ever came up. Ironically, she is also the hottest of my SB's so far, she would most likely get nothing but 9's and 10's if she were a TER hooker.
I will concede that the first thought that goes through my mind when getting a nude pic either sent to me or in her "private pics" is "hooker", but then again please remember that unlike my very good friend Z, I LIKE hookers.
Also interesting that women sending unsolicited pictures of themselves naked are not hookers. Who would have thought it?
I tend to bring up the issues of money myself, and early, because I do not want to waste time chatting with someone who is going to want way more than I know I need/should/will pay for a date. I also want to get some idea of what a date is in her mind in every sense. But I am in the middle of a couple of conversations where we never did get to money, so I will see how that plays out. I guess my years as a hobbyist have programmed me to think that taking a lady's time without paying for it is stealing. Not something I want to do. But I do understand that while there are similarities, Sugar World and Hobby World are not the same. As I may have said elsewhere, or not, the first thing I had to learn was to relax and see how each exchange goes, not have a standard approach, plan, and expectations. Which is fine.
The second is that, unlike hookers, SBs want to chat, a lot. So far, I am finding this pretty charming, and I expect that going forward one of my criteria is that any SB I spend time with will have to be fun to talk to. But it is sort of like that old line - "If you can stay up for 4 hours and listen to whatever crap she says, you can get laid." An endurance test.
zig
but I have found myself going for "older" women. I have a difficult time talking to a "teeny bopper" for hours on end just to get laid as that is all I want from a 18-21 year old 95% of the time. I think my new sweet spot is mid twenties to early thirties and most of my best SB's seem all to have been in the 27-29 year old range.
and yes, one of the first things to remember is that there is no "clock" The less in a hurry you are to get from the restaurant to the bedroom, the more likely you are to actually get to the bedroom. A hooker doesn't want her time wasted and wants to "get right to it" where as a SB "usually" wants to be romanced at least a little bit.
One thing I have found about SB's is that you need to "set the table" for success. Z recommends a first date in a very "safe" environment for the girl, "guaranteed money for the date" "Daytime encounter" most likely an alcohol free environment, nothing conducive to getting laid. OTOH, I try to arrange a dinner date, complete with wine, a nice quiet environment, a bit upscale just enough to prove you aren't a cheapskate or brokedick and most definitely nicer than where her deadbeat boyfriend or ex boyfriend would ever take her. I also scope out the local hotels for convenience and availability if I am not close to home, If I get a yes, especially after we have shared a bottle or two of wine, I don't want to be worried about where to go for a bit of privacy and I find it rare that an SB is going to invite you to her own place, or that she even has a place totally of her own that you can go to. So yes, being prepared is important. I blew a date a few weeks ago by not having a room, having shared three bottles of wine with the young lady and having her end up at home asleep by the time I secured a room. Lesson learned. lol
I've had this type too! Now I'm no prude and find a bit of such flirtatious behavior exciting but the red flags pop up when there has not been any kind of sexual or at least quite intimate relationship!
That said, I would be less guarded if the girl was European for instance because Europeans are generally not as guarded about nudity as we are here in the U.S. as our general populace goes, but other than this one exception (someone from a much more liberated society) I would be cautious and would assume that she's someone somewhat or quite familiar with more adventurous forms of P4P.
A former stripper or someone who worked in a strip club as a waitress / server who knows and has seen how most men respond very positively to nude selfies, would not be entirely out of the realm of possibility.
I was suppose to see a SB today during the evening, when I had to cancel. I apologized and felt bad and she like immediately started talking about how we can do a hotel etc.after the second date and sent me a few nudes of herself after we met last Thursday. Kind of came across as her fearing I was going to flake.
Thanks guys for feedback. I met her once already for lunch and she was telling me how her older sister met her BF from SA, so she seems legit and not a hooker. She wants to meet one more time for dinner before anything fun starts. She explained how she knows how arrangements work just wanted to feel comfortable.
I guess we will see how it goes. Her body pics totally blew me away as she seemed very reserve and wasn't expecting her body to look like that. She had a sweater over her dress first meet, so body was hidden.
I'd been messaging this lovely young SB for several days and we exchanged phone numbers. To my surprise she started sending me some nudes of herself. I thought, ok, this girl is hot to trot, not an unreasonable assumption I think. We had planned to meet for coffee but after receiving her nudes I suggested gently that if she wanted to skip the coffee meeting and meet in a hotel room instead that would be fine with me. She went ballistic! She said how dare you suggest that and what kind of girl do you think I am and I thought you were a gentleman and don't ever contact me again. OK maybe I dodged a bullet and she was actually more batshit crazy than I first would have guessed, but honestly, what's a guy to think when a woman starts sending nude pictures of herself? Never heard from her again. But I still have the pics!