Have been having a great time with my current SB. We're still fairly new together and have had a couple dates that ended up at my place. We seem to be getting more and more comfortable with each other, everything is flowing well and she texts me today trying to coordinate our next tryst at my place. I let her know what part of town I'm working in and s he ends up inviting me over to her place, which is about 10 minutes from my work making it real convenient compared to my house 30 miles away. I arrive and everything is fine, a little wine to relax, nice chit chat and she snuggles up to me on the couch. She also brought some homemade vegan appetizers that her roommate made. Then I find out her roomie is a private caterer that specializes in vegan food and is getting ready for an event this Sunday. Oh No..., no freakin way. I have been messaging a POT SB several days ago that was telling me about how stressed she is about this vegan event she's doing this Sunday!!!!! Could it be possible that there are two SB's under one roof and I have found them both? Now what... At this point I am only mixing with one of them and have not had or scheduled a face to face meet with the second, and figure I don't need to create any drama since things are going so well with #1. Planning to politely bow out of pursuing #2, but wouldn't mind re-kindling something in the future if the opportunity presents itself.....wishful thinking??? Have I already been outed? Needless to say, SB and I had our best encounter to date today and casual dinner out which seemed near civie like as far as dates go and already made plans for our next date.
Am I just jumping to conclusions and is this a real coincidence to worry about or am I reading too much into thisand if you really like SB number one, I would try to get ahead of this if I were you.
You want to sound like a gentleman, not a rutting pig. ESPECIALLY, if like me, you are indeed a rutting pig. lol
It is not rare at all for SB's to have friends that are also SB's, it's how many SB's are introduced to the site. Personally, if I were you, i would make it a point to put things on hold with POT SB number two and give yourself some cover, something like "I would love to pursue things further with you, but I started seeing someone and want to give that relationship a chance before misleading you" or something to that effect.
Living in a small city, with a limited talent pool, i have already run into this type of thing a couple of times. You really don't want them comparing notes about you. lol
Sister number one was crazy. Saw her once. Sister number two was better and saw her once but she never returned txt or emails after the first meet. I realized they were sisters when I saw it on Facebook. Made sense later when I checked and saw they both made profiles within a few days of each other.
I've seen other SB' s that are facebook friends or know each other. Very common in my area
Both told me that their roommates were also on SA and in fact they both had claimed that their roomies had turned them into "this". As it happens I had never contacted either of the roommates but could also easily have contacted them! While it is a competitive environment out there, some of these girls still share intelligence on the SDs and hence as to why I genuinely try to refer to something in their profiles which had piqued my interest rather than carpet bombing any and every "currently online" profile I come across.
OT: I usually do not bother with the profiles which barely say anything about them and hard have had any effort put into them. If they are so lazy and/or so boring to NOT say a few words about themselves, I would hate to find out as to how "interesting" they are when we interact. By the same token, I usually also avoid the ones who utilize the entire 2000 character allowed fields (on both about me and about you). FFS, I write a lot myself but on my profile, I have curbed my own enthusiasm to 1000 characters per side!
Something similar to this happened to me on the sister site, WYP. About a week before I had a date in a nearby city to meet for lunch, I got an offer to meet another POT SB in the same city. Of course, I scheduled a dinner date and booked a room nearby. Also made reservations for lunch and dinner at separate restaurants.
On the way to pick up the lunch date, I texted her to confirm and tell her where we would be eating (Italian). She texted back and told me she was training for a fitness model show (I know, right?) and couldn't eat pasta - preferred fish. So I looked for another place, booked it and told her. She replied "Great! My sister is a bartender there."
Got to the restaurant, sat down for lunch, opened a bottle of rose and things went well... until she mentioned that her other sister (not the bartender) told her about the site and that her sis had a date later that night. My fork stopped moving half way to my mouth, and a very tasty bite of sea bass fell on the table. I fessed up that I had a second date and we compared names. Busted.
Turns out she is one of 11 sisters all living in that city, all between 19 and 45 years old, and 4 are single and using SA. We got a good laugh out of the situation. She appeared totally cool with it and we finished lunch. The rose did it's job and I mentioned that I had some "down time" before I met her sister and offered to show her my room. Negotiated a minimal $ p4p and made a solemn promise not to tell sis about our extra fun and off we went.
After dropping her off at her place, went back to the hotel, cleaned up and headed to the (same) restaurant to meet the second sister. The bartender sister served me, told me she was fully briefed by sis #1 (except for the hotel bit) and hooked me up with free martini's. Unfortunately, this did not end up as the Penthouse Letter you thought it was - sis #2 never showed up. Texted me apologizing saying she was "stuck" in Napa with her friends and would not be back soon. Promised to come to my city next week to make it up to me. She did; nice lunch but nothing more.
As it turns out, I dodged a bullet and got a bonus fuck out of it all.....
I found out 4 months later from another POT SB from the same city (not one of the sisters) the following:
She met a guy who had a terrible meet with a POT SB from that city about 4 months earlier. He agreed to take her wine tasting in Napa. She showed up for the date - with THREE KIDS and asked him to take them to Target for some things the kids needed. This poor schmuck agreed, spending about $400 on the brats and then took her to Napa, with the kids. That's why she was too late to meet me that night.
Naturally, I never accepted a meet with anyone from that city again.
So my advice, if the relationship is new, you might have an option to tell her you do have another meet as part of your process to choose just one for a LTA. Benefits: you could end up with a duo of SB's to play with, even a standard 3-way for BCD! Risks: She could bail on you and have her roomie bail as well.
If you are already fairly established in your SD/SB arrangement, bail (delay) on the roomie as described above