Simp:  
A "fan" who pays a woman cash with no expectation of any return. A guy who apparently gets off on gifting women who they like in the vain hope that she will someday notice them and pet them like a good dog.  

 
Sugar Daddy:  
A (typically) older man who dates (typically) younger women for companionship, sex and emotional connection in exchange for financial support.  

 
It's been a growing trend over the last several years. Perhaps the "normalization" of sugar dating, or the proliferation of women on social media (especially Reddit and TikTok) who claim they have multiple "SD's" who just give them scads of cash without sex or without even meeting, has blurred the understanding across the space of what sugar dating really is all about.  

 
I don't disparage Simps here. (OK, I completely disparage them! They are fools!) If you want to toss money at a "hot" chick (who absolutely does not look that good in real life once the filters and clever camera angles are gone) you will never meet, let alone fuck, then have it.   Your cash, your time, your dick.  

 
But Sugar Daddies are not simps. Yet I see a growing abundance of what we call POT's (Potential SB's) who don't see the difference and are expecting simp-like behavior from POT SD's they talk to on sugar dating sites.  We used to call these scammers. And to be sure, many are scammers. But I see POT's that appear to be new to sugaring who really expect me to give them cash upfront - ridiculous amounts of cash - for the privilege of being able to talk to them and maybe commit to paying a "fap tax" whenever I jerk off to her picks.    

 
Of course, if possible, I explain that sugaring is a different space then OF members, IG followers, or webcam viewers. That sugaring IS dating and not simping,  And that's about the point when I get called a time-waster and, in once case, actually told to pay her for abusing her time. Honestly some of this is not the fault of the POT. They have been influenced by the dirge of social media posts that falsely equate Sugar Daddy with Simp and have no resource to validate that narrative. Indeed, they see no reason to even try to validate. Confirmation Bias is a real thing in dating as well as politics, science, any other topic of interest.  

 
What to do? I'm not sure. The idea of creating a counter-strategy of social media posts and Reddit threads espousing the benefits and realities of actual sugar dating is a non-starter, of course.  But trying to break through the bad perceptions one POT at a time is an even bigger waste of time that could be spent balls deep in that 19-year-old Asian spinner we finally found after wading through several dozen (or more!) misinformed POT's.  

 
Am I seeing this trend correctly? Am I just late to recognize it? Or am I just overblowing a minor bit of "noise" in the signal?  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

There are several girls with channels and are looking or subscribers and patreon supporters who say they have pay pigs.

Girls who are texting guys, just send me $500 and they get it.  But.....  They ask for likes, subs, and donations to keep their channel going.

I lost count of how many pots I have met that think that is reality.  It isn't.  Most of these girls are really broke.  They may have gotten a guy to simp and send money a few times.  But it is not the norm.

Now the not so funny story .....

My last SB has a large online following.  She does make money from collabs and sponsors.  However, she was borderline bankrupt when I was paying her rent.  Why?  Most didn't pay her on time.  Or just traded for services and product.  The few that did had hard results to measure against.  An accident attorney paid her 2k for one month.  Got 0 clients and cut her off.  She made on average about $3000/ month.  Not a living wage in California.  

Adding to her having 0 business sense.  She was not maintaining sponsors and subscribers till I stepped in and managed it for her.  She was getting more consistent till I ended things a year ago.  I just looked back recently, every sponsor is gone.  No idea how she pays her bills.  If she is.

So don't believe everything someone says online.  No idea why I have to tell people that.

I recently got drawn into the Instagram to Onlyfans conveyor belt (saw a knock out girl on Insta, checked out her 'links' page, which brought me to OF).  Once there, I did accept a (couple of) discounted subscription deals.  I also took a turn on Chaturbate.

 
After a few days, I realized that it is just a 'tease machine'.  Yes, the girls are smoking hot.  And, some of them will be very explicit (and one had great dirty banter).  But, you get nothing for it, but your dick in your hand.

 
I canceled all of the subscriptions (before the promo ended) and am now setting aside those funds for my next SB.

 
Thanks Herb.

Herb is correct, as always.  I think the number of women on seeking who expect simp-like behavior from men has increased.  One recently told me I was wasting her time cuz I refused to pay her for a M&G.  Her exact words were, I don't meet for free.  Another asked for $1300 so she could pay her rent, before we had barely started chatting.  No way!  I do think many requests of this sort are not only delusional, they are fake.  I mean, the ones who tell you they got Xthousands of $ per month from their last SD are simply lying.

Fortunately, there are still serious and reasonable women seeking a SD in a traditional arrangement.  As I've said here before, sometimes you have to sift trough a ton of dirt to find a true gem.