The Erotic Highway

Mixed messages - and totally unaware.
herbtcat 6 Reviews 420 reads
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Started texting a new POT this morning. After 2 messages on site, she sent her cell and asked me to text.  

 
I sent a "hello it's me message" and about 2 hours later got a reply: "hi how are you"

 
I asked her how her search is going.  I often do this to try to move the conversation forward into what she's looking for and to get a general sense of her personality and temperament.  

 
Her reply was somewhat convoluted:  

 
"well, to be honest with you not so good I'm meeting people that tell me they just want me to come to their house and fuck me but yet they're not gonna give me a dollar or do anything for me or help me right now. I'm doing instacart trying to make money to feed my son. I'm not a escort or a hooker and I don't wanna fuck anybody for a dollar."  

 
Let's break this down:  
1. She is not looking to be ran through for free, which implies she wants cash for BCD.
2. She wants "help" feeding her son, which implies she's desperate for financial help, but...
3. She insists she is not an escort or hooker, which implies she's not interested in getting paid to fuck.  

 
Anybody not confused by this?  Of course, I empathized with her getting treated poorly and told her I am looking for a friendly, casual arrangement.  

 
She told me she needs to back to work (delivering?) and will contact me later today after she gets home.  

 
Not making any big bets on this working out well... but I'll ride along to see where it goes.  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

I think this may be straightforward

- She doesn't want to get paid just to fuck. This is understandable for women who don't want to be hookers.
- The better SBs aren't hookers or escorts, and don't just want money to fuck. But they are willing to do the deed, and sounds like she is willing.

That said, sounds like she may be desperate for money, or may have constrained availability.

I ran into something very similar very recently.  Had a M&G with a very pretty young one.  She was very quick to tell me that she was NOT dtf, and thought taking money was the same thing as prostitution.  But then she said my allowance offer was way too low, which I interpreted to mean she'd do me if the price was right!

Is what it sounds like.  She knows she needs to fuck and get paid but doesn't want to get paid to fuck.  So, the direct question I would ask, "what does an ideal arrangement look like to you?"

If she refers to not having sex, "Are you open to us dating but it would not be platonic?  Intimacy is part of dating."

BdrmFun4851 reads

Excellent replies, Net. You win a big stuffed animal!

BdrmFun4858 reads

That you even got a reply at all beyond 'Hiiiiii' is a step in the right direction! She's at least open to dialogue. But her focus on money this early in the communication isn't a good sign. She says she doesn't want to fuck for a dollar. Would she consider two dollars?

Ive got 2 SBs that do delivery gigs.  That's our new economy. One told me she wants ab escort/john relationship. The other said she wanted  " traditional " SB arrangement.  She ended up double booking with me and a buddy. Then co tacted him to see him 75 minutes before she came to my place.  Got rid of her.

Your comments mirror my own view of this POT.  She recognizes the necessity of a P4P deal to accomplish her objectives but wants to maintain the appearance/format/routine of something traditional. Fortunately, that is the essence of sugaring.  

 
There's an old joke by a famous comedian from the 60's or 70's:  

 
A man approaches a woman on the street and says: "Will you sleep with me for one million dollars?"  
The woman replies: "Yes! I will sleep with you for one million dollars!"
The man then asks: "Will you sleep with me for one dollar?"  
She replies: "No way! What kind of woman do you think I am?"  
The man says: "Madame, we already know what kind of woman you are. We're just negotiating the price."  

 
Anyway, she did not contact me last night to follow up.  I'm going to wait until she does. No need to chase this opportunity right now.  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

It goes back to George Bernard Shaw:
George Bernard Shaw supposedly asked a woman if she would sleep with him for a million pounds. Her demure response was “Certainly.” But when he asked her if she would sleep with him for 10 pounds, her response was “Sir, what do you think I am?”, to which Shaw retorted “Madam, we’ve already determined what you are. Now we’re just haggling over the price.

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