Made contact with a cute 21 yo on Seeking.  A few messages, switched to text and agreed on a slightly below market rate for my area.   I don't have a photo displayed on my profile and she never asked to see my private pictures (warning sign #1).  Tomorrow we were set to meet for drinks and dinner.  She accelerated the plan by suggesting we skip food and do a hotel meetup (warning sign #2).  I countered with let's meet at a restaurant adjacent to a hotel.  She doesn't want food before sex (her words and warning sign #3).  She wanted drinks only and then BCD.  

Today, I requested to move tomorrow's meeting up 1 hour if possible.  Apologized, but explained it's a work request that came in late.  Alternatively, proposed drinks and conversation only; or meet another day this week.

Here is the text exchange.  Verbatim.

Her:  No drinks then we’ll just do what we have to and I’ll leave simple.

Me:  That is not my preference.  I would like to spend a little time getting to know you.  I think that makes the entire experience much better.

Her:  I’m not picking a different day once you schedule something with me pleas be aware I have other people to see and meet and hang with I also have a job I have a life too I can’t just drop everything if you’re not available don’t make plans

Her:  I’m sorry that’s not you’re preference but this isn’t really about preferences you don’t need to know much about me to have sex with me 2/3 times a month

Her:  I’m very into business I have a full time job and a business on the side I don’t have time for games

Me:  I wish you all the best, and hope you find someone who agrees with your philosophy.  I am looking for a mental as well as physical connection.

Her:  Mental connection to have meet ups 2/3 a month ? If you really wanted that you would’ve been talking to me this entire time but you haven’t been untill today

Wow!  Dodged a crazy.  Blocked her and moving on.  Already set up dinner and drinks tomorrow with  a new POT who is a stunner.  Hopefully she is not BSC!

I think you handed it correctly, especially your timely decision to cut and bail.  

 
And I agree that the (or at least MY) best arrangements are made of more than just agreeing to a price.  I've certainly had SB's who were exclusively interested in going BCD, cashing out and bailing before the hour ends.  Typically the 1st BCD is off the hook and fun. But then it all slides downhill and 90-95% of these end within 3 to 6 weeks.  On the bright side, you may have avoided a "fuck now-scam later" play.  I've lost more hundies than I care to admit to that scenario.  

 
For future opportunities, I'd say the picture issue is a bigger red flag than you want it to be.  As a general rule, SB's are not looking to meet a guy who looks like Brad Pitt. But they do want to at least see a face and full body pic to ensure you don't throw off "axe murderer" vibes.  if a POT has never looked at my pics and doesn't ask to, that puts her squarely in the Pro check box. Nothing wrong with that IF you are looking for UTR Pro's posing as SB's. But I take from your description of the process above you are more interested in actually dating a young, submissive, and enthusiastic hottie PLUS getting fucked like you have the last dick on Planet earth.  

 
Cary on, because...

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

Agree Herbcat,  the lack of picture request perked my Spidy senses from the beginning.  This SB had several additional early warning signs:  Poor grammar and lack of punctuation; originally requesting an 8PM meeting because she didn't want to be with me "all day"; and of course melting down at the mere suggestion of changing our 1st day by an hour.  

This would have been a new experience (the hotel meetup AND explicit request for BCD as a 1st date), but ultimately, trusting my instinct proved right.

That said, this one sounds VERY mercenary and I doubt you would leave satisfied at all. LOTS of red flags as you have mentioned.  

 
Yes, she is not even trying to pretend that she is not a hooker, which is usually just fine with me, but in this case she doesn't just sound like a hooker, she sounds like a BP hooker who is going to try to grab your money, get you off and get out of there just as fast as she is able. Hardly the type of experience you (or me) are looking for.

 
I agree with Herb (big surprise) you handled this absolutely correctly IMHO.

LOL @ mercenary

You definitely dodged a bullet on this one. I’m in a similar camp as you in that I prefer both the mental and physical connection in the relationship. Not everyone practices this and so you understand that side but for her to act like you are the only guy on SA to not want to hit and run is a little comical. We all run across profiles where we just aren’t a match. Typically, you just thank them and let them know that you are looking for different things and that ends it. At the end of the day, you wouldn’t have connected with her anyways given the setup. I do agree on the pics., most want to see a pic of you at some point prior to meeting. Definitely a red flag if it never comes up  The other aspect is how open she was about the quid pro quo. Mist SB’s (and pros as well) tend to stay away from discussing this directly. Another red flag. I wouldn’t have waited around for strike three...

Not to disagree with Herb, but I've had some surprisingly good arrangements in which the SB was really interested only in getting laid and getting paid.  Several of these lasted for months and were highly enjoyable.  Of course I still prefer the ones that develop into a more multifaceted friendship. But even the purely transactional arrangements don't always slide downhill.

That was my initial thought and I like your terminology (get laid and paid).  I really feel sorry for that young lady as I think of how she lost her shit over a request to move our date by 1 hour.  WTF!  How does she handle adversity or situational changes in real life?  Can only imagine what she has gone through and how fucked up her past relationships have been.