Hi LG,
i am in my 40s, and all my life, i was lik a minute man (so to say), meaning once i get started, in about 3 to 5 minutes, it is done.. i can reload 2 to 3 times in a 2 hour session but always wondered how some guys maintain action for 10 to 15 or more minutes before poping?

I have seen guys use cock rings and stuff.. anything like that helps?

i have tried to think of work, ugly women, my grandma.. but none of it works..

Minute Man Needs Help!

You must be Playing-Nice,
Or else, you wouldn't be able to "reload 2-3 times in a 2-hour session!"

Now let's get real here: do you know how many men would give one [if not two!] of their family jewels to be able to ejaculate and/or orgasm more than once in an hour??? Plenty!

Of course, you can try cock rings, desensitizing jel, reciting the periodic tables, or whatever else will detract from the task at hand. But there is no guarantee that any of these measures will work! Please look at it this way instead:

From an evolutionary standpoint, we really need quickshooters like you to propagate the species. In days of yore, one [or several] of your ancestors with that particular talent probably ran into the cave, did the deed, deposited the load, and then ran off to either fight another battle, or, perhaps fertilize another female...all in the service of fecundity. Heck, it could even be the case that Caveman Nice took liberties with someone else's lady, and became the originator of cuckoldry-on-the-go!

Hence, your particular DNA has evolved this way. There's nothing wrong with it, that's just how your body is configured. Personally, I think it sounds great. Almost like some females who describe their multiorgasms.

Now, I suppose you could visit a tantra practitioner and see if you can "outwit" your bodily rhythm. But if I were you, I'd just thank my lucky stars.

I bet the females aren't complaining!
the Love Goddess

Ejaculation Delaying Exercises:
The muscle responsible for delaying and preventing ejaculation is the same one used to stop urination while urine is already flowing. This muscle can be contracted and relaxed voluntarily (at one's wish). Every muscle can be strengthened by contracting and relaxing it repetitively. Thus, if one contracts and relaxes this muscle repetitively (50 times for instance) on daily basis for a couple of months, this muscle will be stronger and one gains control over ejaculation.

I suffered from premature ejaculation also, but I decided to practice delaying it by masturbating and getting almost to the point of coming and then stopping, focusing my attention on something else (I've heard baseball cards work, they don't pick 'em for their looks ya know.)  I would repeat this as many times as I could stand it, sometimes delaying for up to an hour.

After time I found that I could last much longer with a woman.

Tantra providers are skilled in showing how to avoid quick ejaculation also.  I've met up with a few of them and I enjoy the tantra scene very much.

Good luck.

sorry wrong place

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The part that he told me which wasn't included,  was to try this while urinating.  Once you get the feel for which muscle, it's easier to practice.

It worked well.

I prefer the guys who cum in a minute then spend the rest of his time pleasing me.  :P

I also had that problem.  I too can go 2 to 3 times in 2 hours, but if I go 8 min I am very happy. I have gone 3 times in one hour with the right woman; however, to answer your question:

First -- Sunny is right. They are called Kagel exercises.  Google Kagel, and you will get several sites to tell you how to do them.  I do 300 a day.  100 a session 3 times daily.  Don’t expect immediate results, but over 4 months, you will have more control, and more pleasurable orgasms.

Second -- If you masturbate, only do it like mrfisher wrote.  Do not masturbate to Porn.  That causes "trained response" and that is the worst thing to do.

Third -- this helped me allot.  When starting to go do the following.  Relax; DO NOT tense the abdomen muscles.  Tense muscles will cause the PC muscle to contract (causing ejaculation). Then try to breath slow and low.  Keep your muscles loose, and your breathing slow and soft.  It takes practice, but it works!

Forth -- Enjoy your strokes, and sometimes just "put it in and do circular moves."  Play with the Clitoris, etc.  It reduces the “point of no return” that comes from quick hard thrusting.  Surprisingly, thrusting (as an only move) is boring to a woman. I was surprised how much other movements in addition to thrusting made it more interesting for her and me.  Don’t forget your hands; they are great tools to use while doing it.

That is what I did to improve from 3 min. (max) to 8 to 10 min now.  I’m still is not a 20 min pounder, but I have come to enjoy my ability, and maybe that is what is most important.  Remember to RELAX. – Concentrate on breathing, loose muscles, and train with Kagels.

It will work.

CruzingLA

Sometimes I wish I had that problem.  Mine is just the reverse.  I hold off cumming so long during intercourse, not intentionally, that sometimes junior goes limp.  Then I have to go back to BJ and maybe HJ.  As far as multiple pops go, that hasn't happened yet, but I am still hoping.  Maybe I need to get things going quicker and dispense with the chit chat.

I started using cialis and that helps maintain hardness, but has not accelerated ejaculation.  It has only been recently, that I have been able to cum in the cover.  (with my last 2 providers)
When I first started using C, I only took half a 20 mg pill.  Decided to try whole one, and like the results.

My experience, don't know if it will help.

Swim

OK, I can see how it could be tough on your lady since maybe you aren't lasting long enough for her to O. My suggestion is that you make sure that your oral skills are fine tuned so that you can please your lady while "recharging". Damn, I wish I could fire two or three times in an hour. I have the opposite problem and honestly, I usually can only ejaculate during oral stimulation...not that this is a problem as long as you are with the right lady!

First off let me say that I can relate to everything you posted.  In fact, I have posted a similar situation here: http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?BoardID=20&SortBy=DateCreated%20desc&SearchType=1&Author=tuclan&DayFrom=300&DayTo=0&MessageID=3161&frmSearch=1

While I certainly can appreciate the advice given by LG it does not remove the frustration of being able to have intercourse for only a few seconds.  I have also tried every delaying technique found (start/stop, PC muscle control, herbal supplements, desensitizing creams, breathing techniques, tantra, cock rings, etc) with very little success.

Recently, I have found a solution that works for me!  It allows me to enjoy sex in a whole new freedom.  Since it involves the use of prescription medication I won't go into details publicly unless LG allows it.  The results are amazing (at least to me).  I am able to last 10 to 15 min now during intercourse (much longer on the second reload).  Also, I no longer worry about an accident during foreplay or when visiting a gentleman's club and getting a private dance (I could NEVER do that before).  This new freedom does come with a price, however.  While I can still reload and go for multiple rounds the subsequent rounds now take much, much longer than before.  Without the medication I could easily go 2 or even three rounds in an hour.  With the medication 2 rounds in an hour is a stretch.  However, multiple rounds in an hour is no longer a dominating requirement for me since I can delay the finish and enjoy my time much, much more.

I know my solution may not be suitable for everyone, but it is liberating to me.  I truly feel that I enjoy sex much more now - all aspects of it.

Playing-Nice I sure hope you find what you're ultimately looking for.  Good luck.

guess I'm off the Sunny Bunny "Preferred List".
Long time since I've been too quick on the trigger...as for pleasing the Ladies...humm?

First off - I am not a physician nor am I attempting to give anyone medical advice.  What I have found works for me and are my own observations from my own experiences.  I encourage anyone who reads this to understand all implications regarding taking medications and discuss the situation with their own physician, pharmicist, or other medical professional...

No drug is approved by the FDA for the treatment of premature ejaculation. However, numerous studies have shown that selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) and drugs with SSRI-like side effects are safe and effective to treat this condition, and many physicians use these agents for this purpose. SSRIs have been the most successful agents in delaying the too-rapid response in men who experience premature ejaculation.  These drugs are typically prescribed in the treatment of depression and are termed antidepressants(Paxil, Zoloft, etc).  I have tried a couple of SSRI meds in the past but could not handle other side-effects.  Drugs with SSRI-like side effects (ie, delaying sexual climax) can also be effective in treating premature ejaculation. The tricyclic antidepressant most studied for premature ejaculation is clomipramine (Anafranil). Many investigators find that clomipramine is more effective for premature ejaculation than many SSRIs.  Clomipramine is typically prescribed to treat mild depression or obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD).  I have found that taken 2-12 hours before sex it will effectively treat my own problems with PE.  For me I have determined a dosage of 12.5 mg taken a few hours before I anticipate having sex works well.  I have found the effects to still be apparent (although to a lesser degree) for nearly 24 hours or more.  Again, please be aware that clomipramine is a prescription medication and should be treated as such.  There are precautions, interactions, and contraindictions to be considered for any medication.

I can definitely say that this solution has opened my eyes (and body) to a new level of sexual satisfaction.  

For those that wish to do further research on PE and other options for treatment I have found the following web reference quite valuable.  Good luck!

Thank you for the disclaimer, Tuclan,

Unfortunately I'm constantly dealing with therapy clients who have been put on SSRI's and not only have delayed ejaculations...they also have a radically diminished sex drive - and that goes for both genders. On top of it, Anafranil is an older tricyclic antidepressant - heavy duty medication, even for those who are diagnosed with clinical depression.

We have discussed this on the board previously - some men have a higher sex drive when unmedicated and flagrantly depressed. In this case, I advise people to tread very, very gingerly. If you are not depressed in the least and you are administered SSRI's, you could experience severe lethargy, lassitude and debilitating somnolescence. The serotonin blockers simply do their job, whereby none of the serotonin is used by the brain.

IF you have decided to play with SSRI's for this purpose, please see a psychiatrist rather than a general practitioner. It may cost you more in dollars, but at least you'll be visiting with a true specialist.

Plesae be careful with all of this,
the Love Goddess

LOL you do just fine oooooracle

Those that are pre-mature, wish they could last longer.  Those that last long, wish they could come more often.

Many thanks to everyone, great info. I am wondering if any Natural Herbs out there that would do the same, i am not too much into drugs, i don't even take cold medicine.. never know what other side effects might be out there...

i am into Ntural Herbs, for example found that certain herbs help me stay hard for two to three hours even after i pop, it stays hard as a rock, and i can go for another round, which i don't knowing i will pop again..  so any natural Herb to delay the outcome?

thanks in advance

I have found that Cialis greatly lengthens the time it takes me to cum.  I normally can last 6 to 9 minutes without a condom.  With a condom - significantly longer - and too often can't cum.  I'm 60 and in good health but age takes it's toll.  The Cialis really works well - but why does it also cause much delayed orgasm?  Seems strange to me, but it does.  LG any idea?

Interesting observation.  Can you answer the rest of the questions?

another technique is to masturbate and learn where your point of no return is... then practice stopping right before... you should be able to do that for 30 or more minutes with the appropraite practice...